To be nude or not to be nude? There is no question.

 

Hidden Beach Resort Palapas
Hidden Beach Resort Palapas

I review the stats on our blog to find out what visitors are reading and looking for when they find Our Clothing Optional Trips. It provides interesting details on what people want to know more about or are concerned about regarding going to a nude beach or resort for the first time. It always makes me feel good to see that our blog topics are providing the information you all want to learn.

I was concerned though recently when I noticed several searches that brought people to our blog with topics like this: “My wife thinks her breasts are too small to go topless.” Or “I want to try a nude beach on vacation but my wife thinks she isn’t pretty enough.” And finally, “I’ve always been a little overweight and am concerned if I go naked on the beach.”

Body acceptance is an important part of the entire nude experience at a beach, resort of local club. It sounds funny, but you really need to be comfortable in your own skin. From our experience, a nude beach or resort will quickly get you comfortable. No one cares what you look like in the buff. That’s probably the biggest surprise for anyone who tries going naked with their spouse for the first time in a social setting. No one really cares or notices regardless of how you look in your own mind, good or bad. Are there attractive naked people? Of course there are but want to know what people really go to a nude beach or resort? Go to a crowded place like a store, mall or restaurant and imagine everyone you see naked. That’s what it’s like.

Being naked with your spouse is about enjoying the freedom to do what you want without being hidden behind clothing. We’ve also found that when you remove your clothes, there is no “branding” going on. Think about it. We judge people by the clothing they wear. These brands complement or define who they are. That’s why brands are so powerful.

For me, on most days you’d see me in Polo shirts at the office and t-shirts and shorts at home. I have my favorite brands, but when I meet people at a nude beach or resort, it’s just me. I’ve found the people we’ve met and the discussions we’ve had to be far more honest and real.

During our first visit to Hidden Beach Resort, we met an older couple in their late 60s or early 70s. They were older than most people we have met but that’s not why I remember them. She had had a double mastectomy and had no breasts what so ever. I remember them because she and her husband were comfortable being naked and enjoyed themselves. They laughed. They talked to other guests. They enjoyed swimming and laying out. They didn’t let her surgeries stop them. I admire that. A lot.

None of us has a perfect body but going naked is less about your body and more about your mind. It’s how you feel when you’re naked and I would add naked with your spouse or significant other. It can be relaxing, invigorating, warm, cold, stressful, happy, freeing, scary, wonderful.  Increasingly, I believe it’s confidence building too.

If you want to experience a nude beach or resort with your spouse but are concerned about what others will think about your naked body, don’t be. It’s all about you. Once you get over your anxiety, you’ll see that it’s all about you and how you and your spouse feel naked and not about your flaws, imagined or real.

You will see a lot of interesting body types when you’re at a nude beach or resort. You will literally see them all and when you add piercings, tattoos, shaving, it might surprise you too. But we’re all different and what we find attractive is entirely up to us.

From my experience, there is no one more attractive than my wife. Clothes on or off, she is beautiful. The moment she takes off her clothes and is relaxed and warm and we’re together, she is the most attractive woman in the world to me. Does she think she has a perfect body? Of course not, but to me, I wouldn’t change a thing.

You’re never too big or too small. Too fat or too skinny. Too short or too tall. Be comfortable with yourself. My suggestion to you: Don’t change a thing.

6 thoughts on “To be nude or not to be nude? There is no question.

  1. topperc

    Jeff,
    It was so good to see everyone at HBR that week accept them too. They were only there for a few days but other guests talked about them the rest of the week and how inspired we all were because of her. I’m better off for meeting them and hope they are enjoying themselves wherever they are now.

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