It’s summer. It’s hot. And you and your spouse want to try something new. You’ve both thought about topless sunbathing or skinny dipping or spending the afternoon naked by a pool or lake. Interested in learning more?
Here’s what anyone who enjoys nude recreation will tell you, “Suns out? Buns out!” This is the summer to try nude recreation for you and your significant other and to learn what it’s really all about.
My wife and I started this blog several years ago to give couples interested in nude recreation and social nudity a better idea of what to expect. There is a lot of bad information out there and from our experience, the reality is probably not what you’d expect. It wasn’t what we expected at first either, but what it is, we have found to be relaxing, wonderful and a great activity for the two of us. Simply put, we love our nude time together and the more couples we talk to who have experienced it usually say they wish they had tried it a lot sooner than they did.
The key point to remember is that being naked around others is only a concern until you try it and after that, it likely won’t be anymore. You will be anxious at first. We were. That’s completely normal. Think about, since you were young everything you’ve been told by your family, culture, religion, and others is that you should be embarrassed by your naked body when you’re around others.
Also the perception is that being naked means sexual intimacy or that you’re open to sexual advances from others. In reality, it isn’t sexual at all. That’s one of the biggest surprises. Even though there are boobs, penises, vaginas and bottoms of all colors, sizes and ages on display, it’s simply not a sexual environment.
The reason to go to nudist club or campground (colonies are for ants, not nudist) is that it is a very safe, open and welcoming environment. Let me share the questions most couples ask before trying social nudity at a nudist club or camp. Note that there are other questions for a nude beach, but that’s for another post.
Here are the questions we hear most from couples interested in learning more about nude recreation and social nudity.
What if my body isn’t perfect? I don’t think anyone wants to see me naked.
Stop right there. The perfect nude body is your body and every body is perfect in its own way. You will see every body type you can image at a nudist club. Tall, short, skinny, fat, young, and old. You’ll see scars, birthmarks, stretch marks, burns and other marks we all have. Simply put, you will see it all. Know that everyone has something they would change about their body, even someone you would call handsome or beautiful. And that’s one of the best parts of a nudist club, it is a body shaming free zone. No one is judged. It’s all about being yourself and being comfortable. Not what other people think of your body. Besides, ask your spouse what they think of your body. I’m going to guess that they love it. It’s about you being comfortable and free in your own skin.
Furthermore many people are concerned about their private parts and how they stack up. Again, that’s unique to you and regardless of how large or small your penis or breasts are, it doesn’t matter. No one is going to notice or care. The only time you stand out at a nudist club is when you’re clothed. That’s the truth. Again, it’s about you being comfortable and free in your own skin.
The next question immediately after asking about perfect bodies is what if me or my spouse has a tattoo or piercing. Not going to lie, it’s amazing what we cover up. Our body art is unique to each of us and it starts with our own pubic hair. You’ll see shaved, landing strips and 100% natural and many variations in between. I will say that most nudist we’ve met though are shaved. Regardless you won’t stand out and you’ll look fine just the way you are.
In addition to our own personal grooming habits, you’ll see tattoos large and small and many in very intimate places and just about any body part can be pierced, but nipple piercing is very popular. Whatever you have or don’t have, please don’t be embarrassed. Be proud and be ready for questions. I’ve seen tattoos become wonderful conversation starters.
How do we know we won’t run into someone we know?
Great question and this is a major hangup for many couples. Often couples enjoy their first nude experience on vacation when they go to nude beach at a resort and now they’re back home and worried about running into the neighbors. It was a concern of ours. There is a nudist property 30 minutes from our home (that we truly love now) and we wouldn’t go there for years because we were concerned about running into someone we knew.
There is always a chance you will recognize someone or they will recognize you, but here’s what you need to remember. For most couples, social nudity is a secret. Only a few of our friends know that we enjoy getting naked. Our families don’t. Our children don’t. And most people really want this part of their lives kept secret. If you did see someone you knew, I’m sure it would be a little awkward, but you both now have a secret that neither one of you is going to share. In fact, if you didn’t know them well before, you might now.
At a nudist club, it’s customary to give only your first names and not to talk about where you work or live. It’s up to you if you decide to offer that information, but it’s not expected. Personal privacy is very important.
Is a nudist club safe? Will we be hit on by other couples or could someone take a picture of me?
This is perhaps the most important question to ask and this is why we highly recommend making your first social nude experience at a recognized nudist club. Simply put, this is a safe place where you can be naked and not worry about anyone hurting you or your spouse. When you are naked, you are vulnerable and your safety and privacy are very important.
A reputable club that is a member of the American Association of Nude Recreation (AANR) or The Naturist Society (TNS) and is all about the personal wellbeing and safety of their members and guests. Most clubs are open to families and because there are children present, safety is very important. Here is what you need to know.
When you first visit a nudist club, they will ask for your state ID so they can run a background check on you. You will not be allowed to enter without it. Next they will review the rules of the club. There will be a section about sexual or intimate contact, which is strictly prohibited. If it’s seen, the people involved are kicked out. No exceptions. Furthermore cameras and cellphones are often not allowed to be seen or used at a nudist property. Taking pictures is not permitted.
Your comfort is key to enjoying being nude around others. Knowing that everyone around you will respect your privacy and give you space is key. This is why we recommend a nudist club over a nude beach, which may attract people who are there for the wrong reasons.
So we’re interested in going to a local club. What do we do next?
Pick up the phone and call them. Don’t be embarrassed. They receive calls from interested couples all of the time. Let them know you haven’t done this before and that you’re newbees. Let them know when you’ll be there and what you should do. Most clubs aren’t well marked with signage by design. There is often a gate and privacy fence and you’ll need specific directions to get there. Often you’ll need to be buzzed in.
From there you’ll park and go to the office to do the background check and to pay the day fee (many clubs offer free visits for first timers). They’ll go over the rules with you and then they’ll give you a tour of the property. This is your time to ask questions. Don’t hold back. There are no dumb questions. Other than no pictures or personal displays of affection, the next most important rule they’ll tell you is to bring a towel everywhere with you. When you sit down, you use a towel. Don’t just put your bottom down anywhere.
From here, they’ll let you go back to your car and get your things. We bring towels, suntan lotion, drinks and a picnic lunch. This is our time to enjoy and this is how we enjoy it. You’ll quickly have your own routine.
So when do we get naked and do we have to do it right away?
Don’t laugh. We get this question all of the time. If it’s your first time, you’ll want to do what makes you comfortable. Some clubs allow clothing except in the pool or hot tub, when you must be naked. Ask and they’ll let you know. Often it’s based on the weather. If it’s cold, wear a shirt.
There really is no rule here but we’d encourage you to take off your clothing in your car and leave it there. Get it over with and then start enjoying the sun on your skin and what true freedom really feels like. You’re naked and no one cares or notices. It’s all about the two of you feeling good.
I generally take off my clothing as soon as we pay our day fee and return to the car to get our towels and picnic lunch. My wife will sometimes wear a sundress with a thong bikini on under it. She’ll wear that to the pool and take it off when we get situated.
We see new couples come to the club all of the time. Most are wearing their swimwear when they arrive and take it off when they find chairs to layout on. Others are wearing wraps or cover ups. The choice is yours but we really would recommend taking off your clothing as soon as you can.
We can’t recommend enough how much we enjoy nude recreation. There is so much to do and explore naked. You’ll never know until you try it and perhaps the best part is the time you and your spouse will enjoy together and the wonderful people you’ll meet. You’ll quickly discover what you’ve been missing.