Grin and Bare It: Your First Trip to a Nudist Club

 

There are a lot of misconceptions about what a nudist club is really like, especially for someone going there for the first time. It’s not a colony. Those are for ants and bees. It’s not the Friday night, swinging singles bar scene either. It’s not a “meet” market. It’s not where people go to show off their naked body in front of others or where people go to check out and stare at naked people.  Honestly, a nudist camp or club is a place where people go to be naked. They go there to enjoy everyday camp activities naked. It’s that simple.

As you know, this blog is about answering questions couples have about social nudity and about what to expect in a nude or clothing optional setting. Often that first happens on vacation at a beach or resort in the Caribbean or some other warm vacation spot.  A nudist club (although community is probably a better term) is a great place to try the nude experience too.

I believe one reason most people try nude recreation on vacation is because no one knows them. For that reason, I’m assuming most couples don’t try a nudist club first because they are worried they will see someone they know. Believe it or not, privacy is a big part of the experience. My wife and I have been to five nudist clubs throughout the Midwest in the past 20 years and we have never seen someone we knew. We’ll talk more about that later, but first let’s talk about what happens at a nudist club.

Think back to when you were younger and went away to summer camp. You went camping and had campfires. You went swimming and boating. You had picnics and bar-b-q’s. You played games like basketball, tennis and volleyball. You probably took walks in the woods or went fishing.

Now imagine everything I just said, except this time, you’re not wearing any clothing and neither is anyone else around you. That’s the nudist camp experience. Everyone is have fun outdoor and not wearing anything. No one is embarrassed. The people here are nudists and they are doing this because they want to live part of their lives without clothes on, without people gawking or staring; without people making unwanted sexual advances; and without being judged by other who are not accepting of this decision.

So why is a nudist club a good first experience for a couple considering recreational nudity? It’s about as safe an environment as you will ever be. It’s social but it’s private too. The first time my wife and I went to a nudist club, we were surprised about how relaxing it was. Yes, we were anxious because everyone was naked and that did take a little getting used to, but our nudity didn’t stand out. We looked like everyone else. Think about it. Warm all over. No worries about offending anyone. No need to explain yourself to someone who doesn’t approve, and no fear of anyone taking pictures or hitting on you or your spouse.

You’ve seen your spouse naked probably thousands of times.  Now how often have you both been completely naked outside without a fear of being seen? Have you ever been naked with them outside while hiking in the woods, swimming, playing a sport or eating dinner? It’s different and while yes, it sounds odd at first, it’s very natural and not a sexual experience.

Here are some tips that you must know to make sure it’s a good experience for you and your spouse. First of all, you need to have this conversation before you ever go to a nudist club.  Nudist clubs are nude. They are usually coops owned by members who in some cases, live there. They are not clothing optional. They are nude unless the weather calls for clothing to stay warm or dry.  This isn’t like a clothing optional beach or resort where you bear as much as you dare.  Talk to your spouse prior to going to make sure you’re comfortable with the fact you will have to take off your clothing. Wear a swimsuit. Wear a thong. No entry.

Call the club you would like to visit. Let them know you are coming out for the first time. Many camps offer a free visit for first timers. Ask them about what you should bring and get specific directions.  Many have privacy gates where you will need to be buzzed in. Know before you go. Also ask about any fees and expectations.

Bring your driver’s license or state issued ID. They will perform a background check on you when you enter. This is for their protection and for you when you arrive. Most nudist camps are family oriented. There are children there and privacy and protection for minors is the most important. No exceptions.

Most clubs do not accept single men. Couples and single woman only. There is a lot of debate about this but it seems to be important to keep the balance of men and women equal. One more reason why this is a great activity for you and your spouse. You really can’t do it alone if you’re a guy.

Bring a towel to sit on. Cleanliness is very important so bring a towel at all times so you have something to sit on.  Also, bring sun protection. When parts of your body are exposed to the sun for the first time, it can leave an awful burn if you’re not protected.

Absolutely no cameras or cell phones because they all have cameras now. While you might want to take a picture of your spouse to remember the occasion, most clubs do not allow photography of any kind, unless you’re a member. Remember, you’re there for privacy too.

Remember you are being watched while you’re there. Privacy is very important and each club watches to make sure visitors are acting as adults. Often you will have to wear a special sticker or arm band. Nudist clubs are there to enjoy being nude. Not for staring at nude men and women. Go there for you and your spouse. Not to meet anyone or to find a date. It is not a sexual experience and absolutely no inappropriate comments or sexual touching is accepted.  This is one more reason why this is a positive and safe environment to try social nudity with your spouse.

 

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Don’t get too personal. No one talks about where they live, work or even gives their last name. Please introduce yourself and be ready for others to say hello too. We have met many wonderful people at nudist clubs but there is always a level of privacy that is respected and maintained.

Perhaps the most difficult part of the experience is where to look when you’re talking to another naked person.  Don’t laugh but one of my funniest memories was on our honeymoon in Tahiti. Another couple from Italy had sat down beside my wife and I on the beach. While our spouses fell asleep next to us in the sun, this woman and I talked about the US and Italy. We were having a great conversation. During our discussion and while I had my eyes closed, she took off her bikini top.  My wife’s bikini top was still on at that point. When I opened my eyes and realized she was topless, I didn’t know what to do. Should I look away? Look around her? I finally made a point of talking right at her and staring right at her eyes. My eyes were glued to her eyes. To this day, I can’t tell you anything about her breast because I never once looked straight at them. I was incredibly nervous.

When you’re talking to another naked person (man or woman) look them straight in the eyes and talk. Don’t stare. Don’t point and certainly don’t say anything about their private parts. That’s rude. Before long, you won’t even notice they’re naked.

My wife and I visit a local nudist club several times each summer. It’s a great getaway from our kids and jobs where we can enjoy time together to sit by the pool, swim and enjoy a picnic lunch together. As much as we’d like to go to some super, all-inclusive in Mexico or the Caribbean, we simply don’t have the time or money. Our trips to the nudist camp are special because it’s only 30 minutes away and it’s just us.

For the right couple, a nudist camp or club can be a great first step into social nudity. In the heat of the summer, I can’t think of a better place to cool off and enjoy the weather. Interested in trying it out? Better do it quickly. Many clubs in the Eastern US only allow guests between Memorial Day and Labor Day. After that, clubs are often closed and available just for members.

Before you go, do some research online. Today there is a lot of information about each club, what to expect, fees and rules. I even found a review site for Nudist clubs and resorts.

Do you have any questions or concerns? Let us know. We’re here to answer your questions and share with you our experiences so you and your spouse have a better experience.  Enjoy.

Run on Over to White Thorn Lodge for the Third Annual State Line Streak 5K Naked Run

 

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Run Naked!

So did you ever have the urge to streak naked across campus in college? Or learn firsthand if you actually do run faster wearing only running shoes and socks? I never had the nerve or the chance.. until now. The State Line Streak is a competitive 5K trail run sponsored by the White Thorn Lodge, a private family nudist club near the state line of Pennsylvania and Ohio. The event is now in its third year and this year has a non-competitive, 5K Some Colors Run trail run with paint.

So far we’ve focused our blog on being a resource for couples who want to experience a nude beach, resort, or club. We will be publishing a blog on what to expect if you’re considering visiting a nudist club or camp this summer, but a chance to run naked through the forest, that’s too good to pass up!

Social nudity should be an enriching and fun experience for you and your spouse. That’s been a main theme of our blog since we started so why not a naked run? I’m sure the good people at White Thorn Lodge came up with this event to attract younger 20- and 30-somethings to experience social nudity. Let’s be honest, if you can run naked for 5K, you’ll be comfortable nude by the time you finish and what could be better than enjoying lunch, drinks and a pool. Personally I think it’s a great idea to welcome couples (and individuals) to a nude club to experience it for themselves.

I’m sure you’ve got questions. I know I do. There are men’s and women’s categories based on six age groups. The course is a combination of stone roads and trails (and I’m assuming hilly too). They recommend road cross trainer shoes and while all participants must run nude, they do allow women to wear an upper support garment. Here is a review from a first time participant from last year’s race. From our experience, she nailed it when she said it takes about five minutes to get comfortable.

My wife and I visited White Thorn Lodge a few years ago. It’s very nice club located in Western Pennsylvania and is an hour or so from Pittsburgh, Cleveland, Erie, Canton and Wheeling. It’s big with a very nice new pool and lots and lots of volleyball courts. Say what you will about nudist sports, but they do like to play a lot of volleyball and White Thorn has been hosting the Naked Volleyball SuperBowl each September since 1971. With a very nice lodge, campground and other sports and recreation amenities, White Thorn is a first class organization and well worth a visit.

To learn more about the State Line Streak or Some Colors Run, please read their flyer with contact information or sign up for the July 12, 2014 race. The Pittsburgh Post Gazette ran a very good story about White Thorn Lodge last year and what a family, nudist club is all about. For me, I’m going to begin training for the run (with my shorts and shirt on for now). My wife plans to cheer me on as I cross off another item from my bucket list. Let the training begin!

 

 

 

To be nude or not to be nude? There is no question.

 

Hidden Beach Resort Palapas
Hidden Beach Resort Palapas

I review the stats on our blog to find out what visitors are reading and looking for when they find Our Clothing Optional Trips. It provides interesting details on what people want to know more about or are concerned about regarding going to a nude beach or resort for the first time. It always makes me feel good to see that our blog topics are providing the information you all want to learn.

I was concerned though recently when I noticed several searches that brought people to our blog with topics like this: “My wife thinks her breasts are too small to go topless.” Or “I want to try a nude beach on vacation but my wife thinks she isn’t pretty enough.” And finally, “I’ve always been a little overweight and am concerned if I go naked on the beach.”

Body acceptance is an important part of the entire nude experience at a beach, resort of local club. It sounds funny, but you really need to be comfortable in your own skin. From our experience, a nude beach or resort will quickly get you comfortable. No one cares what you look like in the buff. That’s probably the biggest surprise for anyone who tries going naked with their spouse for the first time in a social setting. No one really cares or notices regardless of how you look in your own mind, good or bad. Are there attractive naked people? Of course there are but want to know what people really go to a nude beach or resort? Go to a crowded place like a store, mall or restaurant and imagine everyone you see naked. That’s what it’s like.

Being naked with your spouse is about enjoying the freedom to do what you want without being hidden behind clothing. We’ve also found that when you remove your clothes, there is no “branding” going on. Think about it. We judge people by the clothing they wear. These brands complement or define who they are. That’s why brands are so powerful.

For me, on most days you’d see me in Polo shirts at the office and t-shirts and shorts at home. I have my favorite brands, but when I meet people at a nude beach or resort, it’s just me. I’ve found the people we’ve met and the discussions we’ve had to be far more honest and real.

During our first visit to Hidden Beach Resort, we met an older couple in their late 60s or early 70s. They were older than most people we have met but that’s not why I remember them. She had had a double mastectomy and had no breasts what so ever. I remember them because she and her husband were comfortable being naked and enjoyed themselves. They laughed. They talked to other guests. They enjoyed swimming and laying out. They didn’t let her surgeries stop them. I admire that. A lot.

None of us has a perfect body but going naked is less about your body and more about your mind. It’s how you feel when you’re naked and I would add naked with your spouse or significant other. It can be relaxing, invigorating, warm, cold, stressful, happy, freeing, scary, wonderful.  Increasingly, I believe it’s confidence building too.

If you want to experience a nude beach or resort with your spouse but are concerned about what others will think about your naked body, don’t be. It’s all about you. Once you get over your anxiety, you’ll see that it’s all about you and how you and your spouse feel naked and not about your flaws, imagined or real.

You will see a lot of interesting body types when you’re at a nude beach or resort. You will literally see them all and when you add piercings, tattoos, shaving, it might surprise you too. But we’re all different and what we find attractive is entirely up to us.

From my experience, there is no one more attractive than my wife. Clothes on or off, she is beautiful. The moment she takes off her clothes and is relaxed and warm and we’re together, she is the most attractive woman in the world to me. Does she think she has a perfect body? Of course not, but to me, I wouldn’t change a thing.

You’re never too big or too small. Too fat or too skinny. Too short or too tall. Be comfortable with yourself. My suggestion to you: Don’t change a thing.