Sun’s Out, Buns Out: Answers to the Six Most Asked Questions by First Timers Interested in Visiting a Nudist Club this Summer

It’s summer. It’s hot. And you and your spouse want to try something new. You’ve both thought about topless sunbathing or skinny dipping or spending the afternoon naked by a pool or lake. Interested in learning more?

Here’s what anyone who enjoys nude recreation will tell you, “Suns out? Buns out!” This is the summer to try nude recreation for you and your significant other and to learn what it’s really all about.

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On a hot summer’s day, there is no better time to get naked with your spouse at a local nudist club or campground.

My wife and I started this blog several years ago to give couples interested in nude recreation and social nudity a better idea of what to expect. There is a lot of bad information out there and from our experience, the reality is probably not what you’d expect. It wasn’t what we expected at first either, but what it is, we have found to be relaxing, wonderful and a great activity for the two of us. Simply put, we love our nude time together and the more couples we talk to who have experienced it usually say they wish they had tried it a lot sooner than they did.

Many nudist clubs have property to explore together.

The key point to remember is that being naked around others is only a concern until you try it and after that, it likely won’t be anymore. You will be anxious at first. We were. That’s completely normal. Think about, since you were young everything you’ve been told by your family, culture, religion, and others is that you should be embarrassed by your naked body when you’re around others.

A naked walk in the woods is one of my favorite things to do. Many nudist clubs have a lot of property to explore including trails in the woods. From Pinterest

Also the perception is that being naked means sexual intimacy or that you’re open to sexual advances from others. In reality, it isn’t sexual at all. That’s one of the biggest surprises. Even though there are boobs, penises, vaginas and bottoms of all colors, sizes and ages on display, it’s simply not a sexual environment.

The reason to go to nudist club or campground (colonies are for ants, not nudist) is that it is a very safe, open and welcoming environment. Let me share the questions most couples ask before trying social nudity at a nudist club or camp. Note that there are other questions for a nude beach, but that’s for another post.

Here are the questions we hear most from couples interested in learning more about nude recreation and social nudity.

What if my body isn’t perfect? I don’t think anyone wants to see me naked.

Our advice regarding getting naked is to do what’s comfortable but don’t delay. It’s really no big deal. Just get out of your bathing suit or bikini and start enjoying life naked.

Stop right there. The perfect nude body is your body and every body is perfect in its own way. You will see every body type you can image at a nudist club. Tall, short, skinny, fat, young, and old. You’ll see scars, birthmarks, stretch marks, burns and other marks we all have. Simply put, you will see it all. Know that everyone has something they would change about their body, even someone you would call handsome or beautiful. And that’s one of the best parts of a nudist club, it is a body shaming free zone. No one is judged. It’s all about being yourself and being comfortable. Not what other people think of your body. Besides, ask your spouse what they think of your body. I’m going to guess that they love it. It’s about you being comfortable and free in your own skin.

Furthermore many people are concerned about their private parts and how they stack up. Again, that’s unique to you and regardless of how large or small your penis or breasts are, it doesn’t matter. No one is going to notice or care. The only time you stand out at a nudist club is when you’re clothed. That’s the truth. Again, it’s about you being comfortable and free in your own skin.

The next question immediately after asking about perfect bodies is what if me or my spouse has a tattoo or piercing. Not going to lie, it’s amazing what we cover up. Our body art is unique to each of us and it starts with our own pubic hair. You’ll see shaved, landing strips and 100% natural and many variations in between. I will say that most nudist we’ve met though are shaved. Regardless you won’t stand out and you’ll look fine just the way you are.

In addition to our own personal grooming habits, you’ll see tattoos large and small and many in very intimate places and just about any body part can be pierced, but nipple piercing is very popular. Whatever you have or don’t have, please don’t be embarrassed. Be proud and be ready for questions. I’ve seen tattoos become wonderful conversation starters.

How do we know we won’t run into someone we know?

When there is a will, there is a way. You can’t enjoy time together naked unless you’re ready to get naked.

Great question and this is a major hangup for many couples. Often couples enjoy their first nude experience on vacation when they go to nude beach at a resort and now they’re back home and worried about running into the neighbors. It was a concern of ours. There is a nudist property 30 minutes from our home (that we truly love now) and we wouldn’t go there for years because we were concerned about running into someone we knew.

There is always a chance you will recognize someone or they will recognize you, but here’s what you need to remember. For most couples, social nudity is a secret. Only a few of our friends know that we enjoy getting naked. Our families don’t. Our children don’t. And most people really want this part of their lives kept secret. If you did see someone you knew, I’m sure it would be a little awkward, but you both now have a secret that neither one of you is going to share. In fact, if you didn’t know them well before, you might now.

At a nudist club, it’s customary to give only your first names and not to talk about where you work or live. It’s up to you if you decide to offer that information, but it’s not expected. Personal privacy is very important.

Is a nudist club safe? Will we be hit on by other couples or could someone take a picture of me?

There is nothing better than the feeling of freedom you get when you’re bathing suit comes off and the sun kisses your body for the first time. You’ll be surprised how quickly you learn to love not wearing a bathing suit. No matter how big or small your bathing suit or bikini, it’s hot and uncomfortable to wear. You’ll only find this out when you start going without one.

This is perhaps the most important question to ask and this is why we highly recommend making your first social nude experience at a recognized nudist club. Simply put, this is a safe place where you can be naked and not worry about anyone hurting you or your spouse. When you are naked, you are vulnerable and your safety and privacy are very important.

A reputable club that is a member of the American Association of Nude Recreation (AANR) or The Naturist Society (TNS) and is all about the personal wellbeing and safety of their members and guests. Most clubs are open to families and because there are children present, safety is very important. Here is what you need to know.

When you first visit a nudist club, they will ask for your state ID so they can run a background check on you. You will not be allowed to enter without it. Next they will review the rules of the club. There will be a section about sexual or intimate contact, which is strictly prohibited. If it’s seen, the people involved are kicked out. No exceptions. Furthermore cameras and cellphones are often not allowed to be seen or used at a nudist property. Taking pictures is not permitted.

Your comfort is key to enjoying being nude around others. Knowing that everyone around you will respect your privacy and give you space is key. This is why we recommend a nudist club over a nude beach, which may attract people who are there for the wrong reasons.

So we’re interested in going to a local club. What do we do next?

Pick up the phone and call them. Don’t be embarrassed. They receive calls from interested couples all of the time. Let them know you haven’t done this before and that you’re newbees. Let them know when you’ll be there and what you should do. Most clubs aren’t well marked with signage by design. There is often a gate and privacy fence and you’ll need specific directions to get there. Often you’ll need to be buzzed in.

From there you’ll park and go to the office to do the background check and to pay the day fee (many clubs offer free visits for first timers). They’ll go over the rules with you and then they’ll give you a tour of the property. This is your time to ask questions. Don’t hold back. There are no dumb questions. Other than no pictures or personal displays of affection, the next most important rule they’ll tell you is to bring a towel everywhere with you. When you sit down, you use a towel. Don’t just put your bottom down anywhere.

From here, they’ll let you go back to your car and get your things. We bring towels, suntan lotion, drinks and a picnic lunch. This is our time to enjoy and this is how we enjoy it. You’ll quickly have your own routine.

So when do we get naked and do we have to do it right away?

Before long, you’ll be leaving your bathing suit or bikini at home. It doesn’t matter how cute your bathing suit or bikini is. You’re always cuter without it.

Don’t laugh. We get this question all of the time. If it’s your first time, you’ll want to do what makes you comfortable. Some clubs allow clothing except in the pool or hot tub, when you must be naked. Ask and they’ll let you know. Often it’s based on the weather. If it’s cold, wear a shirt.

There really is no rule here but we’d encourage you to take off your clothing in your car and leave it there. Get it over with and then start enjoying the sun on your skin and what true freedom really feels like. You’re naked and no one cares or notices. It’s all about the two of you feeling good.

You’ll be surprised how quickly you get comfortable being naked.
Enjoy walking on the residential streets at Cypress Cove wearing nothing more than your shoes and a smile.

I generally take off my clothing as soon as we pay our day fee and return to the car to get our towels and picnic lunch. My wife will sometimes wear a sundress with a thong bikini on under it. She’ll wear that to the pool and take it off when we get situated.

We see new couples come to the club all of the time. Most are wearing their swimwear when they arrive and take it off when they find chairs to layout on. Others are wearing wraps or cover ups. The choice is yours but we really would recommend taking off your clothing as soon as you can.

We can’t recommend enough how much we enjoy nude recreation. There is so much to do and explore naked. You’ll never know until you try it and perhaps the best part is the time you and your spouse will enjoy together and the wonderful people you’ll meet. You’ll quickly discover what you’ve been missing.

When the sun is out, it’s time to get your buns out and start enjoying nude recreation with your spouse or significant other. Visit your local nudist club and see what it’s all about.

A Naked Walk in the Woods


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A naked walk in the woods is one of my favorite things to do. From Pinterest

This past summer, I took a walk through a campground in the woods. The weather was hot and humid, but I was cool and comfortable. The campground was full of the sounds of summer. Classic rock music echoing from the pool deck. Kids laughing and playing as they jumped into the pool. Families enjoying barbeques and picnics around their campers. Games of corn hole going on with beers in hand. Couples walking in the bright sunshine and enjoying talking with friends and neighbors. Some walking their dogs. Others just taking a stroll around the campground. 

As I walked around soaking it all in, I was happy feeling the sun on my shoulders and everywhere else too. All I was wearing was sandals and a smile, just like everyone around me too. 

To me, this time walking through Green Valley, a nudist club and campground is why I enjoy social nudity so much. It’s not about everyone else and what they think or judging me. It’s not about my body and how I look. It’s not about offending someone with my nakedness. It’s all about me. It’s how I feel.

As my wife says, “It just feels good. There is no better feeling than being warm all over.” I would add that knowing you’re in a safe place where you can be naked with your spouse, friends and possibly family too. To me, piece of mind knowing that you’re not being judged for any reason other than who you are is just as important. 

While a nakation to a nude resort like Hidden Beach Resort is an amazing experience, some of my best nude experiences have been quiet ones. An afternoon at Red Rock beach north of San Francisco. A day sitting in the sun and playing in the waves at Haulover Beach in North Miami.  A few years ago, I had an opportunity to visit Lake Como just north of Tampa. This is a family nudist resort property with pools, lake, rv campground, tennis courts, nine-hole chipping golf course and other outdoor activities. 

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Photo taken from https://www.reddit.com/r/naturists/. If this image is copyrighted, please let me know and I will remove it.

For me other than a dip in the pool, my favorite part of the day was hiking through their 111-acre nature preserve. I hiked on all of their trails and watched and listened to the birds. They even have a website devoted to all of the birds they’ve seen on their property. And I did this only wearing a hat and my sandals. To me being nude and one with nature and my surroundings is an important part of nudism. I love this part. 

I’m not alone in my love for naked hiking or free hiking as it’s called. There even is a nude hiking day each year: the Summer Solstice, June 21.

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Love this photo. Image used in Sun newspaper article taken from Instagram: https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/3861599/national-nude-hiking-day-pictures-naked-defy-police/

The only way this could have been better was if my wife and been with me so we could walk and share in the sights and sounds of the naked hike together. She enjoys a nice walk too, but really wants to just soak up the sun nude by the pool or in the water. 

Our blog is about helping couples understand what social nudity is like and what to expect. As I mention with every post, social nudity is not about sex or intimacy. This is not a sexually charged environment. It’s just doing what you would do every day around and outside your home, except with little or no clothing on. Sexual touching and intimacy is never appropriate at any of the nudist properties and beaches I’ve mentioned in this post. 

Have a nude hiking spot or experience you’d like to share? There are lots of guides, resources and blogs if you’re interested in learning more. I’d also recommend checking out a local nudist property and calling to see if they have trails for you to explore and enjoy.  Check out the American Association of Nude Recreation website or The Naturist Society. Nudism is more than just nude beaches and skinny dipping. It’s about doing what you enjoy, just with little or no clothing. 

Trading your Bathing Suit for Your Birthday Suit: 10 more things to do with your spouse naked.

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Naked time is the best quality time of all. Image from danilek.tumblr.com per Favim.com.

A year ago I wrote about spending all day with my wife naked. We didn’t hang out in our home or in our bedroom or bathroom. We didn’t even sit out on our deck or backyard. Instead we went to a local nudist club and spent all day, outside and enjoyed the sun, the hot summer air, and the other guests. We didn’t wear a thing.  It was much needed together time but it wasn’t sexual. It was fun. It was relaxing. It was energizing. It was wonderful.

Our blog captures our time together and what we like to do naked. This post was by far the most read and most popular I’ve ever written. I shared ten things we enjoy doing together naked when we’re at a nudist club, nude resort or clothing optional beach. I told you what we like to do and asked you to tell us what you like to do naked. If you missed it, click here to give it a read.

Many of you read our thoughts and sent your own. I got to tell you that your ideas were fantastic and my wife and I have added many to our own Naked Bucket List. Before I share these ideas with you, please know the purpose of our blog is to share our experiences so that other couples who are interested in exploring social nudity will know what it’s all about. It’s exciting. It’s fun. It’s sensual but it is not pornographic. As surprising as this might sound to a new-bee nudie, it’s not sexual. There is a time and a place for everything but intimacy or sexual touching is not appropriate in the open at a nudist club, nude resort or beach. That’s not what it’s about.

Being nude with your spouse or special friend is about feeling warm all over and free. I find the first time nude best compared to your first kiss. It’s exhilarating and exciting but you still feel like you might throw up. It’s about sharing time together without holding anything back, including your bathing suit. I could tell you more about why we enjoy being together naked but it’s probably better to share with you what others like to do. So if you’re ever wondering what it would be like or what to do naked here is our new top 10 list of things to do naked with your spouse this summer. Enjoy:

All hands on deck for nude boating & sailing – I told you all last year how much my wife and I enjoyed canoeing naked in Tahiti. Several of you said that sounded great, but we really should try leaving our swimsuits at the dock and riding the waves in a sailboat or motorboat closer to home. And of course dropping anchor and skinny dipping too. I’m on board for this idea.

Nobody puts baby in the corner… especially when she’s dancing naked – You name it, it can be done and enjoyed naked, including dancing. Line dancing? Sure why not. Disco? Okay. Breakdancing? That might leave a mark. Years ago at Hidden Beach Resort my wife and I went to our first nude dance. Even the band was naked. Imagine 35 couples dancing the night away while a Mexican cover band belted out hits from the 80s and 90s in broken English. It was fantastic.

How fast can you run? Now how fast can you run naked? – Sure anyone can compete in a Tough Mudder or Colors Run but do you have what it takes to compete in your Nikes, socks and nothing else? I’m not making this up. Runner’s World even wrote an article about it and I’ve written about White Thorn Lodge’s Naked 5K and Colors Run. Give it a try and remember if you’re not in first, the view never changes.

Nude Day Out with Friends – Okay I never thought this would make our list, but a few weeks ago we went to White Thorn Lodge and met friends there to spend the day in the buff with them. Yes, we met them on Orient Beach on St Maartin and no, none of us were wearing swimsuits then either. We had lunch together. Skinny dipped in the pool. Took a hike. Talked. Laughed. Enjoyed mojitos. Talked some more. We had so much fun we stayed for dinner. Yes, it can be intimidating to think of spending the day naked with friends but when you’ve been out to dinner many times before and enjoyed it, why not? Our friends made a great day even better.

Check out the Heavenly Bodies – No I’m not talking about peeping toms. They suck. I am talking about laying naked under the stars or sitting in a hot tub or pool with your spouse. You’ll see more moons than the one in the sky. Romantic and fun too. We love to do this when we’re visiting a nude resort like Couples Sans Souci. 

How do you stay warm when you’re naked on a cool night? A hot spring of course! Friends of ours love going to nude hot springs in Colorado and California. It sounds awesome and usually has a naked hike to the springs to get there too. Definitely on our list now.

Naked water skiing also known as a power enima. I was surprised when two people suggested this and said it was a blast. I googled it and sure enough, it’s a thing. I’m not one to judge because I’ll try most things once, but the thought of my bare butt (or worse) hitting the water makes me scream in pain just thinking about it. Give it a try and let me know what you think.

When you’re ready to Dive in all the way, try nude snorkeling or scuba diving. This has been on my bucket list for years and I thought I was going to accomplish it when I went to Couples San Souce earlier this year. Unfortunately you can snorkel only on their textile beach, not their nude one. I guess that will wait till next time.

You’ve been served. Naked beach volleyball! Yes, it’s almost cliche to think about nudist and nude volleyball games on the beach or in the pool. I’m not sure why but it is part of the nudist culture. That said, it might be a pickup game in a pool, the semi pro games at Haulover nude beach on the weekends or the Super Bowl of Nude Volleyball each year held at White Thorn Lodge in Western Pennsylvania. Regardless, you’ll have a blast or is it a ball?

So is a nude dog one not wearing a collar? Several people mentioned how much they enjoy taking a walk at a nudist club and bringing their dog with them to walk too. I love walking our dogs but never thought once about bringing them with us to a local club. I would first recommend calling the club to make sure dogs/pets are welcome.  We’ll have to give this one a try.

So here are 10 new ideas to do with your spouse or special friend naked this summer. Let us know if you do any of them and what you think. The next question I usually get is, “Where can my wife and I try some of these activities?” I’ve included links where I can but your best bet is to go to the American Association of Nude Recreation (AANR) website to their club and resort finder app. AANR member clubs and resorts must maintain a high standard to be an accredited club. Not all of these activities will be available at an AANR member club (nude boating or sailing, hot springs?) but most will. I also recommend visiting The Naturist Society (TNS) website for more information about nude recreation.

Better yet tell us what you like to do if we haven’t mentioned it yet. Regardless, remember that social nudity is about you and your partner. It’s fun and always should be. The hardest part is just trying it. Once you’ve gotten over the first “can I do this” hurdle, it’s really easy after that.