A Naked Honeymoon: One Couple’s Truly Memorable Nude Trip

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Enjoying the great outdoors with your spouse and no swimsuit has been some of the best experiences we’ve ever had.
If we could do it all over again, my wife and I would have gone on a clothing optional honeymoon. To be honest, when we went on our honeymoon to Tahiti we were just beginning our nude journey, and what a trip it has been. From nude beaches and skinnydipping to nude B&Bs and nudist clubs to hot springs deep in the wood and nudist resorts.
Our nude trips have been a great experience for us. We’ve been to many wonderful places and have made many good friends along the way. Including a couple who lives near to us that we’ve vacationed with to Saint Martin and gone nude boating on the Great Lakes.
Our nude journey started with a conversation before we got married. We talked about where we might want to go on our honeymoon and I asked my then fiance if we went to Tahiti would she sunbath topless. She said she would think about it but probably yes. This led to a follow up discussion about going to a nudist club in our area because I wanted to be naked with her. We tried it and liked it. That was more than 20 years ago.
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Some of our best time together has been spent together nude on a beach. And what a beautiful way to spend a honeymoon. Picture from orientbeach.com
Last year “Busy Bride” reached out to me and my wife to ask our opinion about a nude honeymoon. She was interested in trying out nudism. Her fiance wasn’t too sure at first but liked the thought as they explored more. Originally we discussed Busy Bride and her fiance going to St. Martin. They even booked a wonderful rental property but then saw a great travel special at Couples Sans Souci that they felt they couldn’t pass up. Thankfully the decided to go to Jamaica. Hurricane Irma destroyed St. Martin last Fall. 
Here is Busy Bride’s honeymoon trip report of Couples Sans Souci. I loved the thoughts she shared about her experience. All in all, her and her husband’s first nude experience couldn’t have gone any better and it was even better because it was their honeymoon. I’m envious of all the experiences they’ll enjoy together.
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The main beach and A and B Buildings at Couples Sans Souci
Couples Sans Souci was AMAZING! We absolutely LOVED it and could not have stayed at a better resort for our honeymoon! Where to start? The food was amazing. We’ve never been to an all-inclusive before, and as we’re both still “young. My husband will be 25 next year and I’ll be 30. I don’t feel so young anymore (haha!). So we haven’t had lots of opportunities to dine at gourmet 3-star Michelin restaurants yet. To our young tastes the food at every Sans Souci restaurant location was fantastic. We stayed in building B, had a top floor unit, that overlooked the beach and the Pallazzina. We loved our room. I think it was one of the more recently renovated rooms. It was gorgeous. And I can’t believe the room service there either. Absolutely amazing. I wanted to try some rum, and we had the order tally sheet you hang on the door. So we ordered one, thinking we would receive a nip. It was a full sized bottle. I couldn’t believe they just gave us a full-sized bottle. I guess it is all inclusive. Turns out I’m not such a big fan of rum either, haha. We had room service for breakfast almost every morning. We sat on our patio and ate and basked in the beautiful view and sounds of the ocean. Now, when I’m having trouble falling asleep at night, I’ll put on some waves and I’m out.
We tried out the nude beach second day we arrived. The first day was shot, we got there in the afternoon and we were exhausted. We had enough time to change before the manager’s buffet, which was lovely. We met another young couple there, then asked if they wanted to have dinner with us. They asked what our plans were for the next day and invited us to try the boat tour with them. When we told them we planned on visiting Sunset Beach they said they hadn’t heard about it, so we explained. They gave us some funny looks when we said they were welcome to come hang out there with us. We didn’t see them much after that dinner I think we scared them. Haha.
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After you enter Sans Souci’s Au Naturel Beach, it doesn’t matter if you undress immediately or wait to find your perfect spot in the sun.
So, we tried the beach. It was very funny, because after all this anticipation it was me who ended up getting nerves and needing to be coaxed into going. My husband told me I was the one who wanted to try out a nude beach so badly and I’d regret it if I got cold feet now. So we walked up to the gate and we stepped inside. Then I turned to my husband and said, “So, what do we do? Do we take off our clothes here so they know we understand the rules and then find beach chairs, or do we walk up first and then disrobe?” He didn’t really know, which ended in us awkwardly walking and disrobing at the same time. I’m sure we gave some people a good chuckle as we headed towards a pair of chairs in the very back off to the side.
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View from the Couples Sans Souci nude beach
We made sure to sunscreen very well prior to going down, so we had no issues with sunburns in any inconvenient areas. I took out my kindle and started to read and he just wanted to nap. We both ended up snoozing. I can’t believe I fell asleep there. I never sleep in public. I can’t even sleep on planes. I like to be aware of my surroundings. I was very surprised at how relaxing it was to lay back and enjoy the sun, listen to the waves, and sip my tropical frozen drink. My husband woke me up and asked if I wanted some food, because the grille was setting out a buffet. Again, I got a little nervous. It was one thing to be in a corner naked, it was another to walk up to the bar and grille fill my plate and walk back to our chairs naked. My husband had been getting my drinks for me, since I was being shy, but I said I’d join him in getting some food.
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Au Natural Beach at Couples Sans Souci
We walked up and I realized I was very hot after napping and not taking a dip so I jumped in the pool to cool off and then walked up to the grille to grab a plate. I was stopped by an older woman who was intrigued by my tattoos. She reached out and touched my hip as I passed and I was surprised at how much I didn’t care. We were all naked anyways. So I stopped and we had a lovely chat about tattoos and why I chose the ones I had and what they meant to me. Other people were sitting with her and they introduced themselves. After a short conversation my husband and I grabbed some food and headed back.
I was surprised at how friendly everyone was. And suddenly, I wasn’t shy or nervous anymore. It really didn’t matter that I didn’t have any clothes on. In fact, we saw them later that night at the buffet on the main lawn or rather they saw us first and called us over to their table. They were very lovely people. We saw them quite often after that. It’s funny how you remember and recognize the people you meet at Sunset Beach and how friendly they are when you see them outside of the nude area.
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Au Natural Pool and Swim Up Bar at Couples San Souci
The rest of our stay we actually spent on the main beach except for two more days on Sunset Beach (Sans Souci’s nude beach). This was mainly due to the fact we scheduled too many activities and my husband got sick to his stomach for two days. I also brought too many skimpy bikinis that I knew I couldn’t wear comfortably back home, so I wanted to wear each one I’d bought at least once. It was my first time wearing a thong bikini and I was enjoying showing off a bit.
If I were to do it again, we’d schedule less activities and just enjoy being extremely lazy, and I’d buy less bikinis because you really don’t need them at all. I was tempted to go topless on the main beach, but the vibes were not as welcoming there. I didn’t feel comfortable like I did on Sunset Beach. We spent some time at the main pool, met Brian and asked for the Eclipse drink you recommended. He made as close to the drink as he could. He was missing one ingredient, but it still tasted amazing and since we just loved Brian’s personality and finesse (all the spinning cups and liquor, serving drinks to us on his head or back) we made an effort to hang out where he was serving at the main pool and martini bar quite a bit.
We did enjoy Sunset Beach on our second to last day. It was such a nice way to bring our honeymoon to a close. I can say for sure that the most relaxed we felt while at Couples San Souci was on Sunset Beach. My husband was surprised at how much he enjoyed it. We both agree we want to go back when we can afford to and next time we will try to visit Couples Tower Isle at least once. We thought about doing the trading places thing for a day but never got around to it. We did hear good things about Tower Isle from a few couples who had tried both Sunset Beach and Tower Isle. They said it was worth trying at least once, but their favorite was Sunset Beach. I still want to try Hidden Beach Resort, but I think I want to revisit Couples Sans Souci before we head over there.
We are both very happy that I stumbled onto your blog. We dodged a bullet by cancelling our cruise and booking Couples. What a difference that would have made if we had cruised for our honeymoon instead of discovering the paradise that is Couples Sans Souci. I loved that it was adults only and couples only and I loved the small private nature of the resort. It never felt crowded, and there are so many cute nocks to discover and cuddle in. Thank you so much for your help and tips for our first nude experience together. It really did make our honeymoon memorable and extra special.
I’ll tell anyone who’ll listen about our experience. I think my friends are tired by now. I keep telling them they should try a nude beach and a couple of them are planning honeymoons so I am definitely pushing Couples Sans Souci. I even told my parents they should try it out. I’ll definitely be looking into beaches and areas to enjoy being nude in the future and especially in the U.S. I’m wondering if there are any resorts where we wouldn’t need to travel outside the U.S. to enjoy them. I really wanted to give an honest review of our experience at Couples.
Thank you so much Busy Bride for sharing your review and your thoughts. And congratulations on finding out about the power and love of a nude vacation early on in your marriage. Enjoy.
Does anyone else have a naked honeymoon trip they’d like to share? Please do.

Say I do to a Nude Honeymoon

It was our honeymoon to Tahiti/French Polynesia where my wife and I got comfortable with social nudity. It really wasn’t what we expected. Knowing that topless beaches were the norm in Tahiti, we thought we could find our own private little island (motu) and leave the bathing suits in the canoe. I thought of us exploring the island naked and enjoying the sun and surf of our own tropical paradise.  That didn’t happen, but what did, we still laugh about today.
That said my beautiful bride shed her bikini top on day one and didn’t put it back on until we got home to the Midwest USA. This was one of our first experiences with one of us/both of us being nude in front of others and it was wonderful. The irony was even though we were around topless couples all day for more than a week, it was the time we spent together and my wife enjoying the freedom of not wearing her bikini top that made it so memorable.
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Are you a woman nervous about sunbathing nude? Try topless sunbathing first. Get comfortable in your own skin.
Would we have considered a nude honeymoon at a nude, not clothing optional resort like Hidden Beach Resort in Mexico? Probably not, but we were only in our 20s then. Going to a nude beach was on our list. If we were getting married today though, a nude resort would be our first choice for our honeymoon and there are lots of locations across the world to consider.
Recently I received an email from a young woman we’ll call “Busy Bride.” She is in her late 20s and was planning her dream honeymoon to match her beautiful wedding later this summer. She and her fiance had booked a cruise but were having problems with the cruise company. After souring on a cruise, she started to look at all-inclusive resorts and came across our blog post on Couples Sans Souci in Jamaica. She hadn’t considered a nude honeymoon before. She contacted me to say she loved the idea of it but had lots of questions. Busy Bride provided the following blog post about her honeymoon planning and why she and her fiance are excited about their nude honeymoon this summer. Enjoy. I’m really excited for the honeymoon she and her fiance have planned.
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Enjoying the great outdoors with your spouse and no swimsuit has been some of the best experiences we’ve ever had. Image from http://www.orientbeach.com
We had booked a cruise for our upcoming honeymoon. Neither of us had ever cruised before and were really excited. There was a glitch during their cyber Monday sales and they would not honor the price.  Everyone I spoke was hospitable and patient but unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, one manager was particularly rude, harsh, and was the deciding factor on our choice to cancel our cruise and look elsewhere.
After coming across an article on TripAdvisor about the differences between Sandals, Couples, and Secrets, I came across a review about Couples Sans Souci that mentioned a nude beach on the resort. Not clothing optional. Nude only. I was intrigued and Googled Couples San Souci nude beach. The third search result was a blog entry titled, Jammin Naked in Jamaica: Couples San Souci Perfect for First Timers.”
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The main beach, not the nude one, and A and B Buildings at Couples Sans Souci
I was intrigued and read through the blog. I had never before even considered going to a nude beach. Sure, I had skinny dipped a few times as a teenager and when I was a little, I ran through the sprinkler butt naked too. What kids don’t? But I’d never considered being nude as an adult, in public, much less socially.
Something about the blog entry struck a chord in me though. Thinking about being naked with my new husband was thrilling. Not in a sexual way, but in a scary way, like the feeling you get at the top of a roller coaster you’ve never been on before. So I started researching nude all-inclusive resorts.
Hidden Beach, Couples Sans Souci, Couples Tower Isle, and Hedonism II are a few of what I found initially before sending a note to TC for his advice. Hedonism is not for us, at least not at this point in our lives. Couples Sans Souci seemed lovely, as did Tower Isle.
Hidden Beach Resort looked amazing and very luxurious like a spa resort! My only issue with Hidden Beach Resort was that it was all nude, all the time. No exceptions. I was ready and willing to jump in without a life jacket at this point after reading quite a few entries from TC’s Clothing Optional Trips blog, but I had yet to bring up the topic with my fiance.
So I posted a question to TC to see if he had been to these resorts and what his opinions were. We connected and he gave me all sorts of valuable input about his experiences and opinions of different beaches/resorts he and his wife had been to and also a few very important questions and some advice. He asked questions like, “Had I spoken to my fiance about this? Were we equally interested in trying social nudity? Had either of us tried it before?” He also pointed out things not everyone might think of, but everyone would wish they had thought of: for example, sunscreen is your best friend for pale areas that see little to no sun. Nobody wants sunburn on their privates. What a way to ruin a honeymoon, right?
Speaking of honeymoon, the reason we had initially chosen a cruise was because we wanted exotic, we wanted different, we wanted unique. We thought a Caribbean cruise that hit more than one location would be ideal. More bang for the buck, plus included, bottomless drinks! The more we thought about it, after the customer service slip up, we realized we hadn’t thought of the multitude of other passengers, possible screaming rowdy children, tight cabins, and the feeling of being herded off the boat and back on the boat once in port. Not really a romantic honeymoon situation.
We do want to cruise, just later. Probably when we can afford a suite, so many years from now…. haha. When I posed the idea of “au natural honeymoon” to my fiance he was initially shocked. The fact I was asking him was what shocked him most. After the initial surprise he said he was interested, but that Hidden Beach Resort seemed a little too much to start with.
I was disappointed I admit. The resort looks so luxurious and I love the idea of being nude all day every day and can’t wait to try it, but it will be a trip for later. I want my fiance to be comfortable and enjoy our first time together naked and not to cringe and dread it.
After ruling out Hidden Beach we looked into St. Maarten, which was recommended to us by TC because of budget. We initially wanted an all inclusive because we thought we’d save money that way since it was ALL INCLUDED. But, we looked into VRBO.com and found a gorgeous 2 bedroom vista right on a cliff on the Dutch side of the island. It had a private pool, gorgeous views, private deck, no neighbors in sight, and a beautiful feature window in the master bedroom in front of a long soaking tub. Yes please! We checked with the owner and they said it was fine if we wanted to ditch clothes and lounge au natural all day, every day. There were no neighbors to offend, and we would have the schedule of the service people who clean the home twice a week. We would save quite a bit of money by sacrificing being waited on hand and foot as we would have been at Hidden Beach. Its definitely a luxury we will need to indulge in for an anniversary maybe in the future. We still get to honeymoon someplace exotic on a beautiful island, laying out naked, poolside, with ocean views. And if we are brave enough to want to try more (which I think we will be) there are nude, or topless, beaches all around St. Maarten! There were many other reasons we chose St. Maarten that TC pointed out for us, and we researched deeper after his recommendations, and we are so excited for our upcoming honeymoon!
I am so happy I stumbled across Clothing Optional Trips blog. I never would have considered trying social nudity with my fiance, much less for the first time and on our honeymoon, if I hadn’t come across the blog.
When it comes down to it the honeymoon is supposed to be this unforgettable experience that you remember fondly year after year. It’s supposed to be possibly the best trip a couple takes together, or one of the best at the very least. When resorts like Sandals market to future honeymooners they’re selling that “unique, one-of-a-kind” experience that couples can get only at that resort!
When I thought about whether we were cancelling our cruise and pursuing someplace where we could be nude publicly and socially together, what sold me was this: What’s more unique, more romantic, more unforgettable than going au natural for the first time, together as newlyweds? And so we cancelled the cruise and booked that home on St. Maarten! We can’t wait! Thanks again for all your help and recommendations TC!
I can’t wait to hear about their trip and yes, I’m telling them about all the great places to enjoy nude on St. Martin (French side)/ St. Maarten (Dutch side).
So did you enjoy a nude experience on your honeymoon and no I’m not talking about what happens in your bedroom. Where would you recommend newlyweds go to experience nudism after their big day? Resorts, beaches, all-inclusives? Let us know your thoughts and what you would recommend to couples like Busy Bride and her fiance.

Preparing to Get Naked: The Talk to Have Before Dropping Your Bikini Top or Swimsuit

Some nude beach can be the most beautiful places on Earth.
Some nude beach can be the most beautiful places on Earth.

Thank you to everyone who has visited our blog since October, 2013. My wife and I have taken a lot of nude vacations and getaways over the past 20 years and our goal for our blog is to remove any stigma or anxiety for couples interested in trying it and to be a good resource of what to expect.

While researching where to go for a clothing optional trip or first time nude sunbathing with your spouse experience can be fun, if you and your spouse haven’t discussed it first, you might be headed to couples counseling later. My opinion, the worst thing you can do is surprise your spouse by just showing up at a nude beach or clothing optional location and expect them to jump right in. Not a good idea at all. In fact, they may never want to go back. We saw a couple at a local nudist park and honestly thought she was going to have a nervous breakdown. She and her partner had clearly not discussed it before and I felt really bad for her and was glad when after an hour he put his clothes back on (she never removed her clothing) and left. I can only imagine the conversation in the car later. He was wrong for putting her through that and not making sure she was comfortable first.

So what do you do first before finding a beach like Haulover in Miami or a bed and breakfast with a fantastic clothing optional pool like the Green House Inn in New Orleans? Sit down and talk. Explain why you want to try this with them. Talk about why you want to experience a clothing optional setting and any doubts, concerns or anxieties you and they might have. Discuss it all, including any sexual concerns like what happens if he gets an erection (turn over, it will go away).

Now, your spouse might be as excited for the experience as you are and be onboard immediately, in which case planning and reading forums about the place, setting, etc. can be a lot of fun. Often your first nude experience is a vacation and who doesn’t like to go on vacation?

Chances are though, even if your spouse does want to go, they are a bit nervous and have reservations. That’s completely understandable. I know my wife and I both did. So let’s discuss this and share our observations and thoughts on the topic.

First a little history. When I was growing up, I had gone skinny dipping a few times. I loved the feeling of swimming naked and being nude in the sun. It felt great to be warm all over (a feeling I still enjoy 25 year later). I did this a few times but always alone at a small lake near my home. I knew it was something I enjoyed and skinny dipping with others was something I wanted to try. My wife also had gone skinny dipping with friends (girls and boys) when she was in high school late at night one summer. She laughed telling me about it because she remembers it looked like she and all of her girlfriends weren’t actually naked but instead wearing glowing white bikinis from their tan lines.  Later in college, she took a trip to Europe and went to a topless beach but was too intimidated to shed her top with all of her friends around.  That was it for both of us. Neither one of us could be called a nudist (then or now).

Fast forward a few months before our wedding and honeymoon to Tahiti. I mentioned to my wife (then girlfriend) that she could go topless on our honeymoon and that I would like to try to find a place where we could go skinny dipping or even sunbathe nude. This is when we had our talk.

She told me she loved the idea of us finding a place to go skinny dipping with me but sunbathing nude or even skinny dipping with people around us made her uncomfortable because other people would see her.  I told her that I understood her concerns and that I didn’t know how I felt about other people seeing me or her naked but that my desire to see “how it felt” was important to me. I wanted to be naked, outside with her. While I didn’t know it at the time, this was a turning point for us.

Key point here is that we talked and discussed why we wanted to experience this and what fears/anxieties we had. Later, when we went to Tahiti, my wife was topless most of the time there. She loved it. And I loved watching her sunbathe, swim and walk without her bikini top on. I never realized that this could be a turn on to me, but it was.

I did some online research and was amazed at how many men asked for tips on how to get their wives to try topless or nude sunbathing.  Many women, like my wife said originally, were uncomfortable of people looking at them naked. A few women also said that they would like to try topless sunbathing but their husbands were super protective of other men looking at them while clothed, let alone naked.

Based on these very real concerns, here is our advice. Ask your wife or husband to give it a try and see if they can become comfortable. Plan to go to a clothing optional beach or bed and breakfast and let them know they can shed as much or as little as they want to with no pressure from you. Do not go to a nude resort where you are required to be naked. This can be very intimidating and I’ve seen it work out badly when trying to introduce social nudity to someone who is not ready for it.  The experience should be comfortable not scary. You might be a little anxious. That’s normal but not uncomfortable.

After a while, your wife may take off her bikini top or swimsuit or your husband might relax and realize that others there might give a pleasant nod but rarely will someone stare. It really doesn’t happen and if it does, you have ever right to put your clothes back on. The key here is being comfortable and doing things slowly.  Your wife may feel great sunbathing without her top on, but want to put it back on when she swims or walks on the beach. Your husband might be fine naked on his stomach but be completely uncomfortable sitting up or laying on this back. Do what feels right.  After a while it will feel very natural and right. And if it doesn’t, that’s okay too. This may not be a couples activity you can do.

Your wife or husband may decide they never want to be naked outside of your home but that they’re comfortable with you sunbathing nude. We’ve seen this at beaches many times. He will be naked but she is wearing a bikini or she is topless but wearing the smallest thong bikini bottom ever seen. Or she is naked but he is wearing his swimsuit. I’ve covered our experiences with first time social nudity in several of our blog posts already. I encourage you to read them again.

I do want to call attention to one point I saw mentioned several times in online forums on the topic of asking your husband/wife to go naked for the first time. There are people who believe if you truly love your spouse, that you would never want anyone to see them naked. That you are wrong for asking them to show their bodies to the world and perverted for being naked and wanting them to be naked with you. I saw comments like this in many forums. If your spouse shares this opinion, this may not be an option for you.

Please let us know what questions or concerns you have. I will tell you that our time together naked on a beach or at a resort has been wonderful. For us, it’s about being completely relaxed and comfortable. When we first went nude together many years ago, we were comfortable but not relaxed. It takes time. And it can be a stimulating experience for you both but not at the time. Later, in the privacy of your bedroom. Social nudity as we have described it is not overtly sexual. There is a right time and place and it’s not at a public beach or resort, but in privacy later.

Talk to your spouse and see what they think. Summer will be here before we know it.  Let us know your questions. We’ll do our best to share insights. Good luck.

 

Topless in Tahiti? Baring it all in Bora Bora? Yes, but it’s not as easy as you might think.

So does your wife want to go topless in Tahiti? Or do you both want to sunbath in the buff in Bora Bora? I’m guessing yes, based on reviewing the web analytics on our blog. Going topless or nude in Tahiti has been the main search that has brought people to read our blog.

So here’s what I can tell you. Women can go topless in French Polynesia (Tahiti, Bora Bora, Moorea, and 300 other smaller islands), unless a resort prohibits it like the St. Regis Bora Bora. My wife’s first topless experience was on our honeymoon in Tahiti and it couldn’t have been better. Read our blog post to learn more.

But what if you want to bare all in French Polynesia? When we were there 15+ years ago, the Sofitel Resort in Bora Bora had a private island for nude sunbathing. Unfortunately, they built a private resort on the island and it’s no longer an option for clothing optional travel.

So how can you be naked in Bora Bora or the other French Polynesian islands? Here is what I found.

1. Ask someone to take you by boat to an uninhabited motu aka island. This is probably your best option. Just make sure no one is there because while French Polynesian’s are comfortable with women being topless, male or female nudity is a big no-no. Read our blog to learn more about how we found that out. We still laugh about it.

2. If you have the money and I do mean money at $600+ per night, the overwater bungalows are amazing. They offer an incredible view, are super romantic and create an unforgettable experience. During my research on finding clothing optional options in French Polynesia, several people mentioned  skinny dipping from their private overwater bungalows and sunbathing nude from them if they could do it privately.  Again, this will depend on the resort, but this could be a good option.

3. Look for a private, sponsored trip by a tour company that caters to those of us who like to travel with just a carry on. Several tour companies offer nude cruises and trips to French Polynesia. Do a Google search to learn more.

4. Finally and this will take some work, try finding your own private beach. French Polynesia is a nation of islands… hundreds of them. Finding your own little piece of paradise shouldn’t be to difficult, but be careful to not offend the locals.

I hope this information helps. French Polynesia and specifically Bora Bora are amazing places. My wife and I highly recommend vacationing here. It is the perfect honeymoon location too. And as I mentioned before, it is a great place for women to go topless for the first time.

If you know of a clothing optional resort in French Polynesia or have other suggestions on where to go, please share them here. And if you happen to own a resort in French Polynesia and want to make a lot of money, consider offering a clothing optional option for guests.  From what I can tell, there is a big demand and no viable options right now.

Planning a trip to Tahiti and have questions or better yet, know of the perfect place to go skinny dipping or lay out nude while you’re there and want to share?  Let us know.

Topless in Tahiti… Yes, but don’t even think of sunbathing nude.

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This time last year, my wife and I went to one of our favorite nude resorts, Hidden Beach Resort  in Mexico. It’s an amazing place. Truly a five-star experience and one  we look forward to going back to again and again. I’ll share more about why HBR is one of our favorites in a later blog post.

While I’m sure we would have loved going to HBR on our honeymoon nearly 20 years ago, there is no way my wife or I would have been ready for an upscale, nude not clothing optional, resort experience. When we were there last we met a couple in their late 20s. The staff told them they were the youngest couple to ever stay there. While it could be the cost (HBR isn’t cheap), generally most of the couples we’ve met there are 45+ years. Personally, I don’t believe we would have been mature enough to enjoy it.

For us, our first nude or semi-nude vacation was our honeymoon to Tahiti. It was an amazing trip and kicked off our marriage. It was where my wife became truly comfortable with laying out, walking, swimming, canoeing, eating and talking to others without her bikini top on. It was a liberating experience for her and honestly taught me a lot about the unwritten language that can occur when a large group of women want to, but are uncomfortable to try something new like sunbathing topless.

First off, we decided to honeymoon in Tahiti because it was a place we wouldn’t be back to any time soon and because it was a tropical setting. We wanted to lay out, swim with the fish, enjoy romantic dinners and each other.  We did not choose to go there because the beaches are topless.

So where is Tahiti? It’s a long flight to literally the middle of the Pacific Ocean. Tahiti is actually the largest island and part of French Polynesia, which has more than 300 islands. If you want a truly tropical island experience with great food and incredible beaches and sea life, this is the place. It’s also un-Godly expensive but we’d love to go back if we could.

We spent ten days in French Polynesia (stay a minimum of two weeks) and went to three different islands. Our favorite was Bora Bora. We swam with sharks, ate great food, paddled around the lagoons, snorkeled with hundreds if not thousands of fish and relaxed on the beach every day. As you can imagine, it was very romantic.

When we arrived at our first hotel, we were exhausted, jet lagged and ready to collapse. We were enjoying a quick lunch when we saw another American couple who had arrived with us. They had reserved an over-water bungalow with steps to the water. They were getting into a canoe to explore the lagoon. As we watched them circle a dock and began to discuss how much we wanted to do the same, the woman stopped paddling, reached behind her back and untied her bikini and pulled it off. From that moment on, we knew this was going to be a very different trip for us.

French Polynesia was a perfect introduction for my wife to feel confident and enjoy being topless around other people. We had gone to Black’s Beach in San Diego earlier in the year but we had found a secluded space, away from everyone else. Here we were surrounded by other couples.

After finishing lunch we went to our bungalow and put on our swimsuits. I teased my wife about leaving her bikini top in the room. She told me I’d have to wait and see. We weren’t on the beach more than 10 minutes before she took over her top. I could tell she was uncomfortable and initially covered up whenever a waiter came by to ask us if we wanted a drink. But that didn’t last long. By the end of the day she was walking, swimming and even canoeing topfree.

My wife has wonderful olive colored skin that gets very dark as she tans. I honestly wasn’t sure which I liked best, her dark-tanned breasts or her glowing white tan lines from her bikini bottoms. After a week of laying out and sunbathing topless I thought she would be totally comfortable being topless anywhere. I was wrong.

Our final island was Moorea. It’s very close to the island of Tahiti where the international airport is and most tourists either begin or end their trip here. When we arrived at the Sofitel resort in the early afternoon, we quickly changed and went out onto the beach and discovered we were surrounded by young, honeymooning American couples. All were proudly wearing new wedding bands and each young lady wore a small bikini in a variety of colors. While there were topless French women here and there and lovely French Polynesian women barely  even wearing a small thong, all of the American women were covered up… including my wife. Having grown used to her being topless all day, I was disappointed when she didn’t take her top off. She explained to me  she was completely uncomfortable showing her breasts in front of all of these other women. I was surprised but I understood. She wore her bikini top all day. The first time in nearly two weeks.

The next morning we arrived at the beach early. Our vacation was nearly over and we wanted to catch every ray of sun before heading back to Ohio. I asked her if she would go topless while the beach was still open and vacant. She took off her bikini top and settled into a good book, which quickly put her to sleep. I was surprised by what happened next.

The chairs around us slowly filled with the same couples we had seen the day before but one by one, each young lady looked at my wife and then shed her bikini top. Based on the nervous excitement between each woman and her husband and their glowing white breasts, I’m guessing this was a first for most of them. By the time my wife woke, she was surprised to see everyone around her was topless too.

During our many trips to nude beaches and clothing optional resorts, I’ve noticed it sometimes takes one woman to remove her top or swimming suit before all of the others follow. This makes perfect sense to me. Who wants to be the first? It’s a risk and if you’re 20 something years old and still learning to accept your body, you don’t want to be first and attract attention.

So with all of those beautiful beaches and women wearing some of the smallest thongs I have ever seen, you would think there would be a few nude beaches. Think again. Full body nudity is actually frowned upon in French Polynesia. Some hotels do allow nude sunbathing on private islands but we discovered not every island is private.

On our third day in French Polynesia, I spoke with one of the resort staff to see where we could sunbath naked. He was funny because he couldn’t understand why we would want to sunbath without our bathing suits especially with my wife already topless. He suggested we canoe to one of the many small islands in the lagoon. We took off on a 10 minute paddle to the closest island. When we pulled our dug out canoe ashore, it looked like paradise. Soft white sand with gentle rolling waves hitting the shore. Lush ferns, moss and coconut trees densely filled the island. This was the nude beach I had always dreamed of enjoying with my young bride. And it was all ours. Or so we thought.

After we took off our bathing suits and pulled out our towels, our lush private island was invaded. French Polynesian men came from the island jungle and around the beach on what we thought was a remote, uninhabited island to tell us in broken French and English to put our bathing suits back on now. Literally surrounded by men yelling at us to cover up, we quickly and embarrassingly pulled our suits on. We laughed about it later in the evening but the last thing we ever wanted to do was offend someone with our nude bodies. Especially when we are tourists in their home.

I’ve read several travel websites since then and all have said that there are a few nude resorts in French Polynesia but you have to search for them. The Polynesian people do not approve of full nudity. It was though a wonderful experience for my wife and me. My wife is very slender and does not have large breasts. While I believe she is stunning, especially when she is naked, she is often embarrassed by her small breasts. Seeing her enjoy herself and be so confident without her top on was wonderful for her and for me. It was also a stepping stone for our next nude travel experience.

UPDATE:

We received several emails asking which hotel we stayed at on Bora Bora. We stayed at the Hotel Sofitel Bora Bora. This hotel was a truly wonderful experience and I would recommend it to anyone, however, it appears the private island in 1997, is now it’s own upscale lodging experience. I could not find anything about nude sunbathing on the island (which you do do in 1997) so I fear you can’t do that on the island anymore.  Does anyone have any updates on nude sunbathing or skinny dipping on one of the islands in French Polynesia?