How it all Started: Our First Time Naked on a Beach

Many times I’ve received questions from couples interested in exploring nude recreation asking how my wife and I got started. They want to know if we were nervous? What concerns we had prior to dropping her swim suits and what we thought afterwards.

This is actually our first blog post. I thought I would share it again and add a few thoughts too. If you’re reading this and interested in learning more about social nudity and what it could be like for you and your spouse, read on. If you’ve already discovered the Nudist Secret… that spending time together naked is safe, refreshing, relaxing, exciting and fun, please share with me how you and your spouse first decided to take the nude plunge.

 

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In 1996, me and my then girlfriend (now wife) first ventured on to a clothing optional beach. We went to Black’s Beach outside of San Diego and for the very first time ever, took off our bathing suits and our inhibitions.  As we marched down the cliff trail from the Torrey Pines parking lot to the sandy beach below, we both wondered why we were making this trip?  Why go against everything our parents had every told us about the importance of covering up, wearing a bathing suit and never revealing too much skin. We were both 25-years old and while we were free spirits, we had never done anything like this before.

So we found our spot on the beach, laid out our towels and looked at each other… it was the moment of truth. I pulled off my t-shirt and then as if in slow motion, pulled down my swim suit and watched it hit the ground. There I was, standing completely naked, outside for the first time in my adult life and feeling more exposed and naked than I had ever felt before. My girlfriend made a nervous laugh and said I was looking a little cold too. My manhood and I were both cold and shy at that moment. It was not your typical sunny and 75-degree California day. While the sun was shining, it was windy and chilly. I no longer had any fears about getting physically excited.

My girlfriend sat down on her towel and then untied her black bikini top and carefully pulled off her bottoms. She folded them up and put them back in her bag. Even naked she is as tidy as ever.

There we were. Naked. Outside. For the first time. Ever. And it wasn’t at all what we thought it would be like. We lasted about an hour before we agreed the cold wind was too much to take, especially when you had only a towel to keep warm. We didn’t see lot of hard, bronzed bodies walking the beach showing perfect bodies that day. The few women I saw reminded me of ex-hippies who while naked and fine with it, looked like blobs of silly putty sitting in the sun. Care free and happy but the men, they were a different story. By far the men were in much better shape and many walked by our sandy outpost to see the two of us with our blinding tan lines. While at first I thought I needed to protect my girlfriend from their wandering eyes, she quickly pointed out that we had found our perfect spot in the sun on the gay section of Black’s Beach.

 

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While far from a perfect day, we both agreed the experience had been thrilling and the feeling of sunshine all over our bodies was amazing. Why had we thought this was wrong? When we had gotten over our sense of fear and anxiety, we found we felt great and that it was an amazing experience for us as a couple. While not sexual, it was intimate. Besides, how could 100 gay, naked men lying in the sun be wrong? We still laugh about it today.

That was nearly 20 years ago. What started as a fun hour or later on an afternoon, has turned into days and weeks for us on vacation and often with all of our clothing stored in carry-on luggage. Finding the perfect nude beach, clothing optional pool, nude resort, or clothing-free B&B has been a wonderful journey for us and we have shared many great times, met wonderful people and have many good memories. Simply put, some of these destinations are wonderful to visit. They’re beautiful settings with surf, sand and great food and drinks.

 

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So again, why a blog about nude travel? When we started visiting clothing optional destinations, there was often very little information to guide us. We literally got hurt many times walking down trails that doubled as mud slides to reach beautiful secluded beaches where we could get an all-over tan with other likeminded people. Since then, the internet has become a treasure trove of information for the closet nudist or want to be skinny dipper but I’m surprised at how often when I’m looking for travel information about a clothing optional destination, all I see is highly sexual images and behavior that is best saved for the bedroom. I honestly don’t want others who are interested in discovering this side of themselves and sharing it with their significant others to be turned off by what they believe happens when swimming suits are set aside. We don’t become crazed wild animals only interested in sex and foreplay on the beach. Not to say that you don’t need to be careful, but that’s where I believe we can help you out so that it’s a positive experience.

From what we’ve seen, most couples discover clothing optional travel when they are in their 40s and beyond. I’m thankful we figured it out in our mid-20s, but we weren’t the norm at all and we really didn’t embrace nude travel till we were into our 30s. We still find we’re often the youngest couple at the resort or on the beach and we’re into our 40s now. Thankfully that’s beginning to change. Our last trip to Hidden Beach Resort had many young 30s couples.

My vision for this blog is to share our experiences as we got more comfortable with being naked by ourselves and later with others and to tell you about the places we have visited and why we did or didn’t go back. By offering honest information, I hope we can be a resource to others with questions and hopefully give the push another couple might need to try this out and see if it’s for them.

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So are my wife and I nudists? I guess so. Although naturists applies better to us. We enjoy bonding with the environment around us without clothing. So are we normal? We live in the midwest in a nice suburb surrounded by friends and family who know nothing about where we travel or why. We are parents and business people. We are active in our community. We are very normal and probably very boring to many people out there. We don’t sit around the house naked or plant trees in our backyard so we can lay out nude on our patio.  We only recently started going to a local nudist club so we could lay out and enjoy the sun and take a cool relaxing dip in the pool when we had some free time. We’re not members. Just visitors. We don’t bring our children. This time is for us to share and I’d like our children to discover how it feels to be naked on their own.

Interested in hearing more or am I boring you already? Well, let me tell you where we’ve gone and where we’ve been naked. The list is long: Tahiti, Cancun, Tulum, St. Martin, Grenada, Palm Springs, San Diego, South Beach, New Orleans, Toronto, and beaches, clubs and skinny dipping spots across North Carolina, Pennsylvania, Ohio and Florida.

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So what won’t we talk about… Sex and sexual intimacy in a nudist environment. Nudity does not mean sex or foreplay or touching. That’s a misconception. A big misconception. I’m not saying that spending time nude together with your spouse or partner might not stir some exciting moments later, but it is not appropriate to do this in the open. Especially on a clothing optional beach or nudist club or property. Ever.

We have a lot to share. We will share with you the naked truth about being naked. It’s been a wonderful experience for us. Enjoy the ride. And let us know what questions you have. And again, if you’ve got a first time experience (especially if you’re a woman), we’d love to hear about it and potentially share with other couples on a future blog post.

Many of the images used for this post I found on https://www.reddit.com/r/naturists/. If any of these images were shared on reddit. To my knowledge, none of the images are copyright protected. However, please let me know otherwise. 

 

 

 

A Naked Honeymoon: One Couple’s Truly Memorable Nude Trip

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Enjoying the great outdoors with your spouse and no swimsuit has been some of the best experiences we’ve ever had.
If we could do it all over again, my wife and I would have gone on a clothing optional honeymoon. To be honest, when we went on our honeymoon to Tahiti we were just beginning our nude journey, and what a trip it has been. From nude beaches and skinnydipping to nude B&Bs and nudist clubs to hot springs deep in the wood and nudist resorts.
Our nude trips have been a great experience for us. We’ve been to many wonderful places and have made many good friends along the way. Including a couple who lives near to us that we’ve vacationed with to Saint Martin and gone nude boating on the Great Lakes.
Our nude journey started with a conversation before we got married. We talked about where we might want to go on our honeymoon and I asked my then fiance if we went to Tahiti would she sunbath topless. She said she would think about it but probably yes. This led to a follow up discussion about going to a nudist club in our area because I wanted to be naked with her. We tried it and liked it. That was more than 20 years ago.
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Some of our best time together has been spent together nude on a beach. And what a beautiful way to spend a honeymoon. Picture from orientbeach.com
Last year “Busy Bride” reached out to me and my wife to ask our opinion about a nude honeymoon. She was interested in trying out nudism. Her fiance wasn’t too sure at first but liked the thought as they explored more. Originally we discussed Busy Bride and her fiance going to St. Martin. They even booked a wonderful rental property but then saw a great travel special at Couples Sans Souci that they felt they couldn’t pass up. Thankfully the decided to go to Jamaica. Hurricane Irma destroyed St. Martin last Fall. 
Here is Busy Bride’s honeymoon trip report of Couples Sans Souci. I loved the thoughts she shared about her experience. All in all, her and her husband’s first nude experience couldn’t have gone any better and it was even better because it was their honeymoon. I’m envious of all the experiences they’ll enjoy together.
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The main beach and A and B Buildings at Couples Sans Souci
Couples Sans Souci was AMAZING! We absolutely LOVED it and could not have stayed at a better resort for our honeymoon! Where to start? The food was amazing. We’ve never been to an all-inclusive before, and as we’re both still “young. My husband will be 25 next year and I’ll be 30. I don’t feel so young anymore (haha!). So we haven’t had lots of opportunities to dine at gourmet 3-star Michelin restaurants yet. To our young tastes the food at every Sans Souci restaurant location was fantastic. We stayed in building B, had a top floor unit, that overlooked the beach and the Pallazzina. We loved our room. I think it was one of the more recently renovated rooms. It was gorgeous. And I can’t believe the room service there either. Absolutely amazing. I wanted to try some rum, and we had the order tally sheet you hang on the door. So we ordered one, thinking we would receive a nip. It was a full sized bottle. I couldn’t believe they just gave us a full-sized bottle. I guess it is all inclusive. Turns out I’m not such a big fan of rum either, haha. We had room service for breakfast almost every morning. We sat on our patio and ate and basked in the beautiful view and sounds of the ocean. Now, when I’m having trouble falling asleep at night, I’ll put on some waves and I’m out.
We tried out the nude beach second day we arrived. The first day was shot, we got there in the afternoon and we were exhausted. We had enough time to change before the manager’s buffet, which was lovely. We met another young couple there, then asked if they wanted to have dinner with us. They asked what our plans were for the next day and invited us to try the boat tour with them. When we told them we planned on visiting Sunset Beach they said they hadn’t heard about it, so we explained. They gave us some funny looks when we said they were welcome to come hang out there with us. We didn’t see them much after that dinner I think we scared them. Haha.
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After you enter Sans Souci’s Au Naturel Beach, it doesn’t matter if you undress immediately or wait to find your perfect spot in the sun.
So, we tried the beach. It was very funny, because after all this anticipation it was me who ended up getting nerves and needing to be coaxed into going. My husband told me I was the one who wanted to try out a nude beach so badly and I’d regret it if I got cold feet now. So we walked up to the gate and we stepped inside. Then I turned to my husband and said, “So, what do we do? Do we take off our clothes here so they know we understand the rules and then find beach chairs, or do we walk up first and then disrobe?” He didn’t really know, which ended in us awkwardly walking and disrobing at the same time. I’m sure we gave some people a good chuckle as we headed towards a pair of chairs in the very back off to the side.
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View from the Couples Sans Souci nude beach
We made sure to sunscreen very well prior to going down, so we had no issues with sunburns in any inconvenient areas. I took out my kindle and started to read and he just wanted to nap. We both ended up snoozing. I can’t believe I fell asleep there. I never sleep in public. I can’t even sleep on planes. I like to be aware of my surroundings. I was very surprised at how relaxing it was to lay back and enjoy the sun, listen to the waves, and sip my tropical frozen drink. My husband woke me up and asked if I wanted some food, because the grille was setting out a buffet. Again, I got a little nervous. It was one thing to be in a corner naked, it was another to walk up to the bar and grille fill my plate and walk back to our chairs naked. My husband had been getting my drinks for me, since I was being shy, but I said I’d join him in getting some food.
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Au Natural Beach at Couples Sans Souci
We walked up and I realized I was very hot after napping and not taking a dip so I jumped in the pool to cool off and then walked up to the grille to grab a plate. I was stopped by an older woman who was intrigued by my tattoos. She reached out and touched my hip as I passed and I was surprised at how much I didn’t care. We were all naked anyways. So I stopped and we had a lovely chat about tattoos and why I chose the ones I had and what they meant to me. Other people were sitting with her and they introduced themselves. After a short conversation my husband and I grabbed some food and headed back.
I was surprised at how friendly everyone was. And suddenly, I wasn’t shy or nervous anymore. It really didn’t matter that I didn’t have any clothes on. In fact, we saw them later that night at the buffet on the main lawn or rather they saw us first and called us over to their table. They were very lovely people. We saw them quite often after that. It’s funny how you remember and recognize the people you meet at Sunset Beach and how friendly they are when you see them outside of the nude area.
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Au Natural Pool and Swim Up Bar at Couples San Souci
The rest of our stay we actually spent on the main beach except for two more days on Sunset Beach (Sans Souci’s nude beach). This was mainly due to the fact we scheduled too many activities and my husband got sick to his stomach for two days. I also brought too many skimpy bikinis that I knew I couldn’t wear comfortably back home, so I wanted to wear each one I’d bought at least once. It was my first time wearing a thong bikini and I was enjoying showing off a bit.
If I were to do it again, we’d schedule less activities and just enjoy being extremely lazy, and I’d buy less bikinis because you really don’t need them at all. I was tempted to go topless on the main beach, but the vibes were not as welcoming there. I didn’t feel comfortable like I did on Sunset Beach. We spent some time at the main pool, met Brian and asked for the Eclipse drink you recommended. He made as close to the drink as he could. He was missing one ingredient, but it still tasted amazing and since we just loved Brian’s personality and finesse (all the spinning cups and liquor, serving drinks to us on his head or back) we made an effort to hang out where he was serving at the main pool and martini bar quite a bit.
We did enjoy Sunset Beach on our second to last day. It was such a nice way to bring our honeymoon to a close. I can say for sure that the most relaxed we felt while at Couples San Souci was on Sunset Beach. My husband was surprised at how much he enjoyed it. We both agree we want to go back when we can afford to and next time we will try to visit Couples Tower Isle at least once. We thought about doing the trading places thing for a day but never got around to it. We did hear good things about Tower Isle from a few couples who had tried both Sunset Beach and Tower Isle. They said it was worth trying at least once, but their favorite was Sunset Beach. I still want to try Hidden Beach Resort, but I think I want to revisit Couples Sans Souci before we head over there.
We are both very happy that I stumbled onto your blog. We dodged a bullet by cancelling our cruise and booking Couples. What a difference that would have made if we had cruised for our honeymoon instead of discovering the paradise that is Couples Sans Souci. I loved that it was adults only and couples only and I loved the small private nature of the resort. It never felt crowded, and there are so many cute nocks to discover and cuddle in. Thank you so much for your help and tips for our first nude experience together. It really did make our honeymoon memorable and extra special.
I’ll tell anyone who’ll listen about our experience. I think my friends are tired by now. I keep telling them they should try a nude beach and a couple of them are planning honeymoons so I am definitely pushing Couples Sans Souci. I even told my parents they should try it out. I’ll definitely be looking into beaches and areas to enjoy being nude in the future and especially in the U.S. I’m wondering if there are any resorts where we wouldn’t need to travel outside the U.S. to enjoy them. I really wanted to give an honest review of our experience at Couples.
Thank you so much Busy Bride for sharing your review and your thoughts. And congratulations on finding out about the power and love of a nude vacation early on in your marriage. Enjoy.
Does anyone else have a naked honeymoon trip they’d like to share? Please do.

Headed to Hidden Beach Resort for your Nakation? 10 Suggestions to Make Your Naked Stay Even Better

Together time is naked time at Hidden Beach Resort in Mexico

There are a lot of great nude and clothing optional resorts, B&Bs, and vacation hot spots available for couples looking to try a great nakation. My wife and I have been lucky enough to spend time at several of nude resorts and beaches throughout North America and the Caribbean. While there are many properties we like for a variety of reasons, Hidden Beach Resort in Mexico remains one of our favorites.

 

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Our room at Hidden Beach Resort

There is a lot to like about Hidden Beach Resort. What could be better than a nude resort (not clothing optional) where you can walk out of your room in the morning, have breakfast, lay in the sun, swim in the pool, enjoy lunch by the pool, have a cocktail or 10 more, sit in the hot tub, enjoy a candlelight dinner, enjoy a variety of evening activities and never put on a stitch of clothing all day?  My wife and I went 36 hours once without putting on anything until we finally decided to go to one of Hidden Beach’s sister resorts for dinner (sorry, shirt and pants required for guys, dress, skirt or shorts for women).

My wife and I started this blog more than five years ago to give advice and suggestions to couples looking to try social nudity. We wanted to share our experiences so that other couples can explore nude vacations and a relaxing time together. We try to help couples know fact from fiction or as we like to say, “the naked truth.” It has been a wonderful getaway for the two of us where we can enjoy each other’s company while relaxing in the buff. We’ve made great friends and have wonderful memories but like most first timers, we didn’t know what to expect the first time we went to a nude resort.

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So what is it like? Relaxing, freeing and fun are the first thoughts that come to mind. What isn’t it? Sexual. Believe it or not, it’s not a sexual experience and most reputable clothing optional/nude locations have a code of conduct that guests must sign. No sexual or intimate touching or contact is allowed. There is time and place for everything and it is in your room after a naked day in the sun.

We found Hidden Beach 12 years ago and have loved it every time we’ve gone back. We just completed our fifth visit and we will be back. It’s expensive. In fact, it’s probably at the highest price point of any of the resorts we’ve stayed. I am working on another post comparing Hidden Beach Resort and Couples Sans Souci (both wonderful properties offering great nude experiences and great for first timers) but on our most recent visit to Hidden Beach my wife and I started a list of the must do activities for you and your partner during your stay. Some of these are on their website but must are not. Our list goes beyond simply sitting on the beach or lounging by the pool naked and talking with new friends all day (which is great too!).

We love going to Hidden Beach Resort to spend time together naked and enjoy meeting other couples. Here are the activities we look forward to every visit. Most are done without swimsuits and clothing but a few require us to cover up (bummer).

Regardless if this is your first visit to Hidden Beach or your 20th, here are our list of activities we recommend doing during your stay:

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1. Sleep With the Fishes – Hidden Beach has ten or so wonderful palapas on the beach. Think of these as daybeds with thatched roofs. They are wonderfully comfortable and perfect for lounging naked during the day. Late at night, we put on our Hidden Beach robes, grab three towels each and find a comfy palapa to snuggle on while listening to the waves washing up on the beach and the breeze flowing through the palm trees. It is a truly wonderful experience. We usually fall asleep and wake up early in the morning (3am several times) before returning to our room. We were really lucky to have a full moon during our last visit to Hidden Beach.

 

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Photo from http://www.hiddenbeachresort.com/

2. A Naked Table for Two – Nude dining isn’t for everyone but there is something wonderfully casual about enjoying a wonderful meal at a restaurant where no shirt, no shoes, no suit (swimsuit or otherwise) means great service and good times. Seriously sitting down to a candlelight meal and only wearing a wrap (my wife) or nothing at all but sitting on a towel (me) and being treated to a fabulous meal with other naked diners is meal you can only enjoy here.

 

3. Fish Food – Hidden Beach is a wonderful property but unfortunately the beach really isn’t much to speak of.  Sand no. Coral yes. While we wish we could go for a skinny dip you really can’t go very deep into the water without shoes. Fortunately where there is coral there are fish and throw them some bread and you’ll have a school of fish swimming around you in no time. This is one of my favorite activities.

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Sunrise

4. Rise and Shine – Just as much fun as sleeping outside on the beach is greeting the sun as it rises above the horizon. There is nothing like sitting in the early morning light wearing only a towel or robe and then feeling the warming rays of the sun. Before long off comes the robe and your body is being kissed by the early morning sun. It’s a wonderful start to the day.

 

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Photo from the website: http://www.karismahotels.com/Hotels-Resorts-Villas/Adults-only/El-Dorado-Resorts/El-Dorado-Royale/Spa

5. Naked Time at the Spa – The El Dorado Seaside Suites opened the incredible Naay Spa offering all kinds of spa and massage services. For two hours on Sunday (5-7pm), the spa’s hydrotherapy room opens exclusively for guests of Hidden Beach.  What better way to enjoy water treatments than naked with your nude friends. We had a blast and plan on doing it again next time.

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Photo from http://www.hiddenbeachresort.com/

6. Beach Massage – How do you make a great massage even better? You’re already naked. So enjoy an expert massage on the beach with the sun and the surf around you. This is a must do for my wife every visit.

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Yes you have to put on clothing at the other resorts, but that doesn’t mean you might not see a moon.

7. Talk a Hike – Perhaps the best part of Hidden Beach is that it’s a small intimate boutique resort surrounded by two huge adults-only (and clothed) resorts: the El Dorado Seaside Suites and Sensimar. While it literally takes less than five minutes to hike from one side of Hidden Beach to the other, you can wander around the immaculate and landscaped properties next door. Sidenote: Hidden Beach guests can go to the other resorts but their guests can’t go to Hidden Beach. While we don’t like putting on clothing to hike in the morning, we love to explore the beach and resort properties. We do it every morning. And just because you have to cover up, doesn’t mean you have to cover all the way up. 🙂

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8. Naked Rock and Roll – Who doesn’t like great live music? Now dance the night away with a Mexican band performing your favorite covers. Don’t know what to wear? Nothing is always in style or wear the revealing club outfits you’d never wear otherwise.  Loud music and dancing with friends can’t be beat.

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Photo from http://www.hiddenbeachresort.com/

9. Take a Swing at the Cotorros Bar – There are some fantastic bars at the El Dorado and Sensimar resorts. Yes you have to get dressed and wear clothing but what could be better than great drinks, good people and swings. We spend hours swinging back and forth while enjoying great conversations and drinks.

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Perfect Full moon at Hidden Beach Resort.

10. Take a Late Night Skinny Dip – There is something refreshing about skinny dipping in the pool or relaxing in a hot tub under the warm Mexican night sky. To me swimming nude in the pool or soaking naked in a hot tub makes me feel relaxed and young. With my wife beside me and a drink in our hands, this is the ultimate end to a great day.

Every couple we’ve ever met at a nude resort or beach has their favorite activities to do together in the buff. Regardless if it’s Saint Martin, Palm Springs, Florida, Caribbean or Hidden Beach Resort, for us our time together naked is peaceful and relaxing. Honeymoons, anniversaries or just time away, a naked vacation really is something everyone should experience. We hope more couples discover it and create their own nude activities list to share with other couples who just might want to try a nakation of their own.

Please note that this blog is our opinion only. We were not paid by Hidden Beach Resort, El Dorado or Karisma Hotels for our post. Not that we wouldn’t like another trip back soon. 🙂

 

 

 

 

Nudist Reality vs. Cancelled Calgary Nude Swimming Event

It’s 2018 and the community that wears a swimsuit in the pool or ocean has a long way to go to understand the nudist lifestyle and values  Recently the city of Calgary cancelled a nude swimming event planned for an indoor swimming/recreation facility sponsored by the group Calgary Nude Recreation. This wasn’t the first time a nudist group had rented a city of Calgary owned facility for an event and it won’t be the last either. Unfortunately this time, public outcry and threats of violence pushed city officials to cancel the event. An online petition supported by more than 22,000 people framed the argument against the event stating the following concerns:

“I respect the concept and believe in an 18+ setting it could be a popular event. However, having naked children around a bunch of naked adults doesnt seem like a good idea for any reason. Realistically there is alot of mental illness out there that this event could trigger/effect.

– Children with previous sexual abuse traumas will be heavily effected if they attend the event.

– Sexual predators will be on the prowl – having an event like that is just like Christmas to them.

– Extremely high chance of photos and videos being taken without consent, considered child pornography”

Oddly the event was cancelled not because the city had issue with nudity at a city owned facility but because of threats of violence against participants and organizers. Let’s get violent to protect children?

To me, the outcry about this event and the stated objectives demonstrate the misinformation and misdirected concerns from individuals who have probably never attended a nude/clothing optional event or facility. It’s reading about this petition that makes me believe that nudists really are the enlightened ones. The nudist community understands firsthand the importance of protecting children from sexual predators as well as maintaining privacy.

For the record, both the clothed and nudist communities agree that protecting children from sexual predators is most important. Everyone’s priorities are inline and where they should be on this. Just as important to the nudist community is ensuring that no photography of any kind is taken of anyone nude – adults or childern. And finally, no displays of sexual intimacy or sexual touching in anyway.

Anyone who has read our blog knows it is focused on helping couples learn more about exploring the benefits of social nudity and nude recreation. As we’ve stated many times, nudity does not mean sex. For those who have never been to a nude beach, resort or B&B, walking around with other naked people might seem like an erotic and sexually charged environment. In reality, it’s anything but that.

There is a time and a place for sexual intimacy and that’s in the privacy of your own home and not in the open…. ever. This is a point that every nudist I’ve ever met believes and values. Every nudist resort and club I’ve attended has rules similar to those from the Calgary Nude Recreation organization.

From our experiences regardless if it’s a nude beach or nudist club, everyone there watches and protects the children there very closely. The nudist clubs my wife and I attend require everyone to submit to a background check to root out sexual offenders before they ever enter and yes, our local club confirmed to me that they bar entry to people every year. In addition, everyone who visits must leave their mobile phone/camera in the car. No exceptions. Privacy and protection are important and essential in a nude environment.

Yes there are sexual predators out there and I’m sure there are some in the nudist community too. Unlike in the general community though, safeguards are in place to ensure these deviants are identified. The reality is that nudists are very aware of their vulnerable state and that of unknowing or unprotected children and adults. We don’t need the concerned citizens of Calgary or anyone else to tell us how to protect our children and ourselves.

For me and my wife, our  nudist lifestyle is about freedom. Freedom from judgement and/or body shaming. Freedom from clothing and labeling who I am and what I believe just by the clothing and “brands” I wear. Freedom to be one with nature and our surroundings. Freedom from stress. Free to be happy with ourselves and our friends and family. It’s a feeling you can only feel in a nude social setting.

I feel this freedom everytime I set foot into a nudist property or clothing optional beach. It starts the moment I take off my clothing and feel the warm of the sun on my body. Believe me, this is a freedom worth protecting and that includes watching out for vulnerable people among us.

While my wife and I are parents, we have never brought our children to a nudist property or a clothing optional beach. For us, it’s about our time together and less about entertaining them. It’s our special time although we often see children at the nudist clubs we attend and the clothing optional beaches we have visited.

Honestly, I never thought about sharing our love for nudism with our children until a few years ago. We were at a nudist club near our home. It was late afternoon on a hot July day and my wife and I were sitting by the pool reading and enjoying the sun. A young girl was practicing swimming underwater from her mother to her father. All were naked in the pool. This young couple and their daughter were repeating a scene I have seen many times throughout my life. Only this time, without any swimsuits. It was perfectly natural and honestly it was beautiful to see.

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While I respect the concerns from those who signed the petition against the nude swimming event, I don’t believe it would be a hunting ground for sexal preditors but rather a setting where families are safe and able to share time together, just without a swimming suit.

We have a long way to go to educate the reality of nudism and its benefits for all.

Happy Nude Year!

Another year has ended and we have 365 days ahead of us to make the most of the new year. It’s another year full of potential to make a difference or to do things differently than before. It’s when we all start even with a blank slate. It’s another year to make the world or at least our little place in it better.

So what would I like to give everyone this year? I know asking for world peace is too much. Probably the same with making sure no one goes hungry? I wish all of that was truly possible, but in this day and age, that’s asking too much.

So what do I ask for this year? I’d like everyone to experience a naked day. A day without clothing to play and relax and enjoy the warmth of the sun all over your body. A naked day in the buff to see what it feels like to be free. A naked day without judgement from others and a day without blame. A naked day without body shaming. A naked day where you’re not too fat or too skinny. Too pale or too dark. A day when you’re perfect just the way you are right now. A day where simply being naked is simply enough.

A naked day to make new nude friends and to realize it’s more important to judge someone by their character and personality rather than what they wear. A naked day to talk to someone who when you’re both nude appears to be the same as you. A naked day to spend time with your spouse, your partner, your friends or your family.

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A naked walk in the woods is one of my favorite things to do. From Pinterest

A naked day to do what you want to do, just without your clothing. A naked day to take a walk in the woods.A naked day to go skinny dipping and to feel like a child again. A naked day to fall asleep in the sun. A naked day to read a book or the newspaper. A naked day to enjoy a drink. A naked day to enjoy a bite to eat. A naked day to do what you enjoy most. A day to let it all hang out without a worry in the world.

Why do I want to give everyone a naked day? It’s simple really. If we remove our clothes and our inhibitions, we are all the same… naked and pure. We are all equal. It’s a day when you don’t need to worry about what others think. It’s a day to be one with yourself and nature.

For more than 20 years, my wife and I have enjoyed nude vacations, beaches, resorts, clubs, and time together. We’ve made friends. We’ve made wonderful memories. We’ve enjoyed ourselves and realized it’s not a sexual experience but rather a deeply emotional one that brings us together. We are better off because of the time we’ve spent nude together and the people we have met while we’re nude.

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The Ingredients for a perfect day at the beach: Sun + Sand + Nude = A Great Day.

I’m guessing, just guessing that after spending the day nude with others, you’ll see that we’re all pretty much the same. That we have more in common than what divides us. That when you remove your clothing, you remove the stress and anxiety that comes with living in a world where we hide behind our clothing. That is my wish. A wish for a perfect nude year.

Asheville Spa Perfect Spot for First Time Outdoor Nude Experience

Asheville has it all. An amazing food and restaurant scene with first class chefs and breweries. It has a great art culture with fun shops and a funky downtown area. It has the Blue Ridge Mountains all around it with hiking, swimming and vistas everywhere. It also has the amazing Biltmore Estate, which is a great day visit.

When I was researching a visit to Asheville for my wife and me a few months ago, I was surprised by what Asheville doesn’t have… there are no nude or clothing optional B&B’s, guest houses, pools, hikes, lakes or beaches. I have to admit that I was shocked. Asheville is the right kind of place with the right kind of people to truly enjoy and support a nudist location.  Note to any entrepreneurs out there, HUGE OPPORTUNITY HERE. I posted some questions on Twitter and a few nude travel forums and all that was suggested was a nudist club in South Carolina (Carolina Foothills; I haven’t been there but several people recommended it).

Online I found two locations that had some promise. Hot Springs Resort and Spa in Hot Springs, NC and Shoji Spa Retreat in Asheville. Note that if you do an online search for Asheville and skinny dipping, Skinny Dip Falls will come up. Despite the name, there is no skinny dipping options here. 🙂

My wife and I decided to make a reservation at Shoji Spa Retreat which features outdoor, private hot tubs. When I called, I asked if there were any nude or clothing optional locations in Asheville and they told me that their Spa really was it. Although they did say if we went on a hike to a waterfall early in the morning, there was a good chance we’d have it to ourselves and could enjoy a morning skinny dip.

We were really impressed with Shoji Spa. It is a Japanese-style Spa that offers massages too. If we had more time, we would have signed up for a couples massage but instead we enjoyed the hot tub. An hour is really all you need. We were required to shower prior to entering the hot tub. We put on white robes and sandals. It really was a nice experience.

While my wife and I enjoy social nude experiences where we can meet and talk with other couples, the hot tubs at Shoji were private with a wall/fence around each one. This setting is perfect for the couple who wants to try nude recreation without an audience.

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Each hot tub is private at Shoji Spa

Each hot tub is bathed in the sunshine with a view down the side of the mountain. You really are in the tree tops without a wandering eye or any attention. We went to the spa after hiking all day and while the water was soothing on our aching muscles, the hot tub was actually a little too hot for a warm, humid Asheville summer’s day. We enjoyed the tub but also sitting on the side of the tub and laying out on the wood deck surrounding it.

 

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Private, walled hot tubs are perfect for couples who want to enjoy an outdoor nude experience without other guests.

While not the nude experience we were hoping for originally, we really enjoyed relaxing in the late afternoon sunshine and talking about our hikes and visit to Asheville. I would love to be here on an autumn day when the leaves are changing and the air is getting cooler or even better, on a snowy winter day.

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The late afternoon sun streaks through the railing and tree tops.

 

My wife and I enjoy visiting nude and clothing optional beaches, resorts, B&Bs and clubs while on vacation. For us it’s an opportunity to relax and catch up while spending time together. There is something wonderfully peaceful about feeling the sun’s warming rays all over your body while your spouse is next to you. It isn’t sexual at all. It’s comforting and freeing for us.

Honestly, this is nudity LITE but a good first step. If you and your spouse enjoy this (not sure how you couldn’t), imagine spending time naked together except on a beach or by a pool and with other people around you doing the same. Not really a big leap is it?

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We would highly recommend a visit to Shoji Spa & Lodge. Until someone opens a nude/clothing optional guest house, B&B or pool in Asheville, it’s your only option, but it’s a good one. They do offer lodging options.

We also featured a blog post written by a reader a few years ago on Chozu Bath Garden in Ashland Oregon; another great place to visit.

If this is your first time reading our blog, my wife and I have been going on nude vacations for nearly 20 years. What started as a, “Do you want to try it” discussion when we were dating has turned into many great memories visiting beautiful beaches and resorts around the Caribbean, Pacific and U.S. The purpose of our blog is to provide information to other couples interested in trying nude recreation. It has been a wonderful connection point for my wife and me. It is intimate but not in a sexual way. Sexual touching and intimacy are not appropriate at the nude beaches and resorts we attend. That’s better for time spent together in the privacy of your own room.

Please let us know what you think. Any places we missed that you’d recommend?

Saint Martin’s Happy Bay Beach is the Quiet Nude Alternative to World Famous Orient Beach

Look online and you’ll see a lot about Saint Martin’s world-famous Orient Beach. It really is a wonderful beach to visit and explore. It’s also a must visit beach if you’re looking for a great place to bare it all for the first time with your spouse or partner. Many couples experience social nudity for the first time here. Orient Beach is actually one of five beaches in Orient Bay that together total nearly 1.3 miles of sand and surf paradise for vacationers.

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The yellow umbrellas, blue ocean and tan boobs and bottoms is a sure sign you’re on Orient Beach in Saint Martin.

In the middle of the day, Orient Beach actually feels crowded. Add cruisers (people from cruise ships) walking in the surf and checking out all of the nude sunbathers who number in the hundreds; naked couples and families enjoying the sun and surf and yes, it is very crowded. While I can tell you the only time you truly stand out on Orient Beach is when you’re wearing a bathing suit, some newbie nude couples might not want to strip with a hundred strangers. Although when you’re comfortable with being naked on Orient Beach, a challenge many nude vacationers try each year is walking the entire beach in the buff.

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Our last trip, I walked all three beaches on Orient Bay in my birthday suit. That’s more than 2.5 naked miles. While many people walk it naked, you have to do it early in the morning before the beach gets crowded.

Although I would still put Orient Beach on your must visit naked bucket list (there really is nothing like it), there are other beaches on Saint Martin that are quieter and more private to explore recreational nudity with your spouse or partner. Happy Bay Beach is a perfect place to drop your swimsuit or bikini bottoms in a quiet and relaxed setting.

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Happy Bay Beach is between Friar’s Bay and Grand Case and is the perfect beach to try skinny dipping or nude sunbathing with your spouse.

Happy Bay Beach is the site of a former resort that was destroyed in a hurricane and never rebuilt. Mother Nature has reclaimed the cabanas and hotel buildings. What’s left is a quiet beach used by families and couples of all ages.

You’ll see it all on this beach. There are couples, gay couples, young families, old couples, vacationing teens from France (this is the French side of Saint Martin), and jet ski tours and sailing boats that stop by the beach throughout the day. On the beach, you’ll see people in conservative and skimpy bathing suits.  You’ll also see women laying out topless and on the North side of the beach, you’ll see mostly nude couples enjoying the sun, peace and quiet.

While Orient Beach is loud and flashy, Happy Bay Beach is relaxed and more intimate. For the couple who are unsure about trying social nudity but want to try it, this is the perfect beach to get comfortable and get naked. Before I show you our pictures so you can enjoy the beach when you visit, here are suggestions for first timers to make the most of their first nude beach experience.

When you get to the beach go right. Head North towards the rocks and away from the BBQ snack and beverage shack. Once you pass the large tree in the middle of the beach, you can find the perfect place to soak up the sun without your bathing suit. There is no bad location. You can remain on the beach or set up your towels closer to the trees and brush at the back of the beach. The choice is yours.

Before you pull down your bathing suit or take off your bikini top, know that everyone who has ever gone naked on the beach remembers the mix of anxiety and excitement you’re feeling right now. It feels like you’re breaking all the rules and yet the thought of taking your suit off is so natural and freeing. It’s exhilarating. I still feel this same sensation every time I step onto a nude beach. The only difference is I know the sense of relaxation, freedom and love that comes from dropping my shorts and relaxing naked with my wife on a beautiful beach like Happy Bay.

Once you get through the anticipation and then the excitement when you take off your bathing suits, you’ll feel a little crazy. You’ll wonder why you felt so much anxiety for something that is so simple and feels so natural. Amazing how good it feels when all you’re wearing is a smile.  In an hour, it will feel like you’ve been doing this your entire life. By the end of the day, you’ll be walking the entire beach in the buff and holding hands playing in the ocean.

Happy Bay Beach is the perfect beach for couples and many return year after year. I believe it could be your favorite nude beach too. So here’s how you find this wonderful beach.

As you’re headed from Grand Case to Frairs Bay, you’ll see a basketball court on your right. Take the first right turn (Rue Happy Bay) after going by the court. You’ll see a gate at the end of the road. This is was the entrance to the resort. If you can, there is a parking lot on the right. If not, park on the street. It’s about a 10-15 minute walk to the beach. It’s on a road/path the entire way that is well marked and not at all strenuous. There is also a path from Frairs Bay but I’ve never taken it and don’t know the route.

Rather than tell you where to go next, I thought our pictures would be best:

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Here is the parking lot for Happy Bay Beach. While we haven’t heard of any problems, it’s probably best to take your valuables with you.

 

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After parking, there is a path to the right of the gate that will take you to an easy step over the wall and onto the road leading to the beach.

 

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The trail/road is well marked even as Mother Nature continues to reclaim what remains of the resort.

 

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You’ll see many of the original hotel rooms and buildings. They’ve seen better days. We stayed clear of them. The road goes by them.

 

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After going by the resort buildings the road becomes a dirt path and starts to go steadily down to the beach. You’re almost there!

 

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There is a slight turn in the road and you’ll see the ocean for the first time. Just a few minutes more.

 

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Finally the trail reaches the beach. From this sign you can go left to the clothed/topless section of the beach or to the right to the nude/clothing optional section. While everyone sets up their towels in different spots, we walked the length of the beach naked. No one cared at all. It really is a friendly, laid back beach.

 

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This is the north end of the beach, which tends to be nude/clothing optional. Get naked and get comfortable. To me, this beautiful beach captures the very best in a nude beach experience: beautiful, laid back, not crowded, paradise.

 

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Looking to the south of Happy Bay Beach, you’ll see the rest of the beach where the snack bar and path to Frairs Bay is found.

 

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Happy Bay has a sand bottom and very little wave action. Each day we were there sailboats anchored and often their guests came ashore for lunch or to play in the waves. Most came on shore naked. Don’t be surprised if you see a few jet ski tours that come by too. Don’t worry about covering up. The tourists usually keep to themselves or drop their suits and go skinny dipping in the ocean.

We brought our lunch, snacks and plenty of wine during our visit. You can also go to the snack bar which provides water, beer, soda and BBQ foods. We of course packed up our trash so that future visitors can see the beach as beautiful and unspoiled as we did.

Regarding nudity and Saint Martin, technically nudity is only permitted on Orient Beach and all beaches can be used top free. There are however many unofficially nude/clothing optional beaches like Petites Cayes,  Cupecoy beach and others. If someone asks you to cover up, you should out of respect for the locals and the law.

Please note that Happy Bay is used by the locals on the weekends and on Sunday’s the Police do patrol the beach to make sure everyone covers up (go to Orient Beach on Sunday’s).

Perhaps even more important is preserving Happy Bay Beach and keeping it natural and pristine. Respect the beach and nature and please don’t leave any garbage. Or better yet, pick up what others have left behind. And while Happy Bay is unofficially clothing optional, it is not a place to get it on with your spouse or partner. Nudity does not mean sex or intimacy. Enjoy your time together naked but keep intimacy for your bedroom. Trust me, after spending the day naked together, your alone time will be extra special later on.

This is the second of three blogs detailing our recent trip to Saint Martin. Look for blogs about another wonderful quiet clothing optional beach called Petite Cayes and a blog post about taking a naked vacation with friends. Have you been to St. Martin? We’d love to hear your thoughts on your experiences on the island and why it’s a perfect destination for couples to try nude recreation.