Discover Your Naked Self at Florida’s Cypress Cove

On our nude journey over the past 25 years, my wife and I have enjoyed many naked vacations (or nakations) to a variety of clothing optional and nudist locations large and small. We’ve dropped our bathing suits and our inhibitions at many exciting, tropical destinations in Bora Bora, Jamaica, St. Martin, Miami, San Diego, and Mexico to name a few. We’ve experienced the relaxation and joy that can only be experienced nude with someone you love in a safe and friendly place. It’s amazing how social nudity can be such a wonderful way to meet new friends and connect with your spouse in ways you never imagined in a clothed, covered-up world.

Cypress Cove’s main pool. Image from CypressCoveResort.com website.

We would gladly go back to any of these locations for another trip, but it was our first trip to Cypress Cove in Florida that reminded me of a simple truth of nude recreation: “Anything you can do clothed, you can do naked and it will always be more fun, more enjoyable and more memorable.” It was at Cypress Cove that we re-discovered our naked selves and why personal nudity is such a simple and lasting reward.

Reading by the pool and soaking up the sunshine is a perfect activity at Cypress Cove but the resort offers so much more to do.

Cypress Cove is a 300-acre property that includes a large lake, recreational facilities and a small residential community. Cypress Cove positions itself as a resort featuring 84-hotel villa rooms, full RV and primitive campgrounds, tennis courts, two restaurants, bar, gym and even an onsite beautician/salon. You can even go golfing, play tennis, canoeing and fishing. And just like most resorts yes, you can lay out and bake in the sun beside one of their two large pools or soak in their hot tubs. You can sip your frozen colada or beer while floating naked in the pool.

Cypress Cove has two pools. Image from CypressCoveResort.com website.

All are great features if you are considering a nude vacation but there is another reason I would recommend Cypress Cove for any interested couples looking for their first social nude experience in a safe and welcoming environment. At Cypress Cove you’ll see and experience what life is like truly living naked. Let me explain.

Enjoy walking on the residential streets at Cypress Cove wearing nothing more than your shoes and a smile.

Friends of our invited us to spend the weekend with them at Cypress Cove. They had been there several times before and loved it but not for the reasons why they loved Couples San Souci or an all inclusive nudist resort. We learned exactly what they meant late in the afternoon on our first day when we retreated from the pool and went back to our hotel room to exchange our towels and books for a stroll. We walked literally down main street by well-kept homes of all sizes and styles wearing only our shoes. We saw residents out jogging, riding bicycles, walking dogs, gardening, painting and other everyday activities wearing nothing more than a smile. And yes, everyone was very friendly and social. We walked naked for miles safely up and down the streets of Cypress Cove surrounded by others enjoying the nudist lifestyle.

It’s hard to explain but to me, this is why more couples need to experience social nudity. It’s not about getting over the fear of taking your clothing off. It’s about how you feel when your naked and exposed: relaxed and happy.

Cypress Cove golf course next to the RV campground. Image from CypressCoveResort.com website.

To the uninitiated, this may sound absolutely anxiety producing. Being naked on a beach or by the pool is one thing, but parading through the streets wearing nothing with no privacy can feel like a big leap but in all honesty, it’s here that we were reminded that anything you can do clothed, you can do naked and it will always be more fun, more enjoyable and more memorable. We took a long walk through Cypress Cove nude every morning and afternoon for the next four days and that is only one of many memories that stand out from our trip. We lived nude and loved it.

Cypress Cove lake from the campground.

Our blog is about encouraging couples to try social nudity. For my wife and me, we’ve found it to be a wonderful bonding point. A shared experience that is better because we are naked together. We have discovered how wonderful it is to spend time together outside naked. I’m not talking about sexual intimacy. We are not touching each other. That’s not appropriate outside of the privacy of your bedroom. We are just spending time and hanging out with other naked couples who like to do the same thing.

Which is why I would willingly encourage any couple interested in seeing what nude recreation is all about to go to Cypress Cove to find out for themselves. It’s a large property with a lot to offer. Here’s what to expect:

Paradise is Found at Cypress Cove. Image used from CypressCoveResort.com website.

When you pass by the front gate, you’ll leave the clothed world and immediately be transported into a place where you wear what’s comfortable based on the weather. And yes, you’ll see a lot of tan bottoms, boobs and bodies immediately. You’re not in Kansas anymore Dorothy and that’s okay because you’re in safe place. Nudist understand that when you’re naked, you’re vulnerable which is why there are strict rules such as no photography without consent, no suggestive attire and absolutely no public intimacy or sexual touching. There is a time and place and that’s in the privacy of your own bedroom.

Beach by the Cypress Cove lake. Image from CypressCoveResort.com website.

Cypress Cove is a family nudist property and protecting children is of the utmost importance. Once you arrive at the front office, you will be required to check in and to share your personal identification for a background check. A clothed, staff member will welcome you and go over the rules, map and activities, just like any resort, except everyone coming in and out of the office will be naked or wearing almost nothing. If it’s your first time, it will be shocking and does take some getting used to but one thing you’ll quickly discover about nudist, they’re not embarrassed so why should you be? Just remember to keep eye contact and not to stare just as you would in any clothed, social situation. It’s funny, the only time I’m uncomfortable at a nudist property is when I’m naked and the people around me are wearing clothing.

From here, you’ll take a tour of the property and see the lake and the boats. You’ll see the tennis courts and the golf course. You’ll see the pools and restaurants. And you’ll probably be taken to your room where your nude experience will officially begin. The rooms are comfortable, quiet and clean. Many were recently updated and include fridge, microwave and a full bathroom and sitting area.

Updated rooms at Cypress Cove. Image by Oyster.com and used on CypressCoveResort.com website.

It’s in the privacy of your own room that you’ll take off your clothing and first ask yourself if you’re ready for this. You are. My wife recommends for women to bring a wrap that you can wear till you’re comfortable walking around Cypress Cove naked. You will always have a towel with you for sitting and it doubles nicely as a wrap if needed. Definitely wear lots of suntan lotion (put it on in the room while you’re thinking about it especially if you’ve never done this before) and I recommend a comfortable hat. Then take your spouse’s hand, a good book and open the door and feel the sunshine and warm Florida breeze on your naked body. More importantly, note that no one screamed. The sky did not fall. The world didn’t stop moving.

Now comfortably walk to the pool and get naked. Don’t wait. You’ll see very quickly that any fear or anxiety goes away almost as quickly as you shed your wrap. It’s replaced by this wonderful feeling of freedom and relaxation. Enjoy it. Just like a first kiss, it will only happen once but you’ll find it to be intoxicating, which is why we believe you’ll want to do it again and again. Don’t take my word for it. A German TV station did a story about nude travel and Cypress Cove. Even if you don’t speak German, you’ll see what Cypress Cove is really all about.

Cypress Cove has two beautiful pools. Image from CypressCoveResort.com website.

From there go experience Cypress Cove. Enjoy the lake in a canoe or paddleboat. Enjoy the sunrise over the lake and walk in the sand. Head over to the tennis courts or learn how to play pickleball. What about volleyball or golf? It’s all here. Head to lunch or dinner where no shirt, no shoes is no problem because most people won’t be wearing anything except a towel to sit on.

Find a comfortable spot by the pool and start socializing or pick your own little quiet spot of heaven by the lake or away from everyone else. This is your time so spend it the way you want to do it. Just enjoy the time together. You’ll quickly realize how you look naked really doesn’t matter because everyone around you is perfectly average. We all have something we would change but when it’s all on display, nothing really stands out.

The Cypress Cove campground next to the lake. Image from CypressCoveResort.com website.

If you’re still anxious, liquid courage helps too. You can buy both soft drinks and alcoholic beverages at the main office or at one of the onproperty restaurants. It should be noted that while I was expecting prices to be high since the audience is captive, food and drinks were very reasonably priced at Cypress Cove.

Cypress Cove’s Cheeks bar/restaurant. Image from CypressCoveResort.com website.

One other important reason why Cypress Cove is an excellent place to experience social nudity for the first time. Other than the pools and hot tubs, the property is clothing optional. We saw a few couples who were here for the first time and it was obvious they were getting used to it. They found spots not in crowded areas by the pool but by the lake or in the green space between the two pools. One couple stands out in my mind. Throughout the day, the look of surprise on their faces slowly changed to smiles. They went from him laying naked on his stomach and her removing only her bikini top while covering up with a magazine to both of them walking from their chairs to the bar and then to the pool with nothing on and loving every minute of it.

On a cooler morning, a warmer top maybe necessary but that doesn’t mean you have to cover up entirely.

Cypress Cove has a wonderful bonus for first timers: a half price coupon for your first visit. From our experience, the property is very reasonably priced and only 40 minutes from Orlando and 30 minutes from Disney. It’s conveniently located.

Everything I’ve just shared will probably be the anxiety producing at first and yes there will be moments. You’ll have questions too like what do you wear to a clothing optional restaurant? (Most women wear sundresses while mean wear short sleeve button down shirts and nothing else).

Sound like the place for you to try nude recreation with your spouse? What I didn’t talk about though will be truly memorable for you both. It is the first time you walk with your spouse from your room to the lake or pool wearing nothing but a smile. Or go to the lake and go fishing or boating nude. Or talk with another nude couple while playing tennis or at the bar. You will feel free. You will feel comfortable and relaxed and it is wonderful.

Do what is comfortable for you and do it together so you’ll both share in the moment. Our one suggestion though is at some point during your visit walking the entire property, hand-in-hand because you simply can’t walk naked down the middle of a road through a community just anywhere. Cypress Cove isn’t just anywhere. It’s special.

Cypress Cove RV Campground. Image from CypressCoveResort.com website.

One other important suggestion for the first time, newbie nude couples visiting Cypress Cove. We took an Uber from the airport to Cypress Cove in Kissimmee. It takes about 45 minutes. At this point, going to a nudist property is no big deal for us but to someone (like our Uber driver) who had never done it before, it can be an ordeal. Our driver, who did not speak much English, asked us three times is we were absolutely sure we knew where we were going and was this the correct place. He might have been of Latin origins but he turned every shade of red when we he drove us by numerous naked men and women from the front gate to the office. He was friendly and professional throughout but we could tell he was beyond embarrassed. We told this story to several other couples who told us stories of their taxi and Uber/Lyft drivers dropping them off at the front gate, unwilling to drive any further.

Our suggestion, spare yourself any embarrassment for you or your driver and call Martin at Martin Transportation. Martin is a Brit who has called Florida home for more than 10 years. For $50, he’ll pick you up at Orlando International Airport and drop you off at Cypress Cove 45-60 minute later. He’ll also take you back to the airport for $45. An Uber is only a little less but the real reason to call Martin is because he lives at Cypress Cove and has enjoyed the nudist lifestyle for many years. For first timers he can tell you all about the wonderful trip you’re about to enjoy at Cypress Cove. Call Martin at 407-353-5346. There are other options including another driver who lives on the property. We met Martin and liked him a lot but do call Cypress Cove and ask for other options too if you’re interested.

Image of Cypress Cove taken from their website at: https://www.cypresscoveresort.com/

Let us know if you have any questions or if you’ve been to Cypress Cove what you’d recommend first time couples try for themselves. We really enjoyed it. Any first timers care to share their experience? We just discovered Cypress Cove but we’ll be back.

That Naked Feeling

We’re headed on vacation in a week. Just a quick getaway for my wife and me. We’re headed to Cypress Cove in Kissimmee for the first time. I’ve heard good things and considering that we live in the Midwest U.S. and haven’t felt 75+ degrees since October, understandably, we can’t wait to go.

Image of Cypress Cove taken from their website at: https://www.cypresscoveresort.com/

Yes, I’ll be writing a blog post about our experiences and why (or why not) Cypress Cove would be a great destination for the first time or new naturist/nudist couple. Today though I woke up extra excited for our trip. It’s still a few days away but for me, the trip has already begun in my head.

While most of our friends don’t know too much about the naked vacations my wife and I go on throughout the year, the few that do always hit on the same topics. “Isn’t it really sexual?” Nope, not at all. I know it sounds impossible, but it is actually not a sexually charged environment at all. It feels more freeing and open. No one is judging one another. It’s all about body acceptance and enjoying the day in your own skin. I’ll explain more later.

“Isn’t it embarrassing walking around naked with your privates hanging out?” It’s actually pretty comfortable and when you’re naked and everyone around you is naked too, you really don’t notice. I’ll admit, at first it was unnerving walking around without clothing but that lasted all of about 15 minutes. And surprisingly, when you’re around other naked people, you really don’t notice it after awhile. Your skin is your “clothing.” 

“What do you do all day when you’re naked?” Well, it’s really what won’t you do… which brings me to the purpose of this post. I can’t wait to get to Cypress Cove. I’m excited to see their property because they offer so much to do. Yes my wife loves laying by the pool and tanning in the sun or skinny dipping in the pool. I do too. But for me, it’s all that plus everything else that you can only experience when you are at a safe, clothing optional/nude property and surrounded by other like-minded individuals. Let me explain because here’s where a naked vacation is unlike any other trip you’ve ever had.

Beach at Cypress Cove. Image taken from their website by Dan Erwin. https://www.cypresscoveresort.com/

We’ll land in Orlando and Uber to Cypress Cove. As soon as we walk past the check in/ guard post, we’ll know we are somewhere different than the outside world. I’m expecting tan bottoms and boobs everywhere. We’ll get the tour from the front desk and we’ll see all of the main points of interest like the lake or the pools, or the restaurant in Cypress Cove that we will experience over the next few days. We’ll see naked men and women of all ages, colors and sizes doing what they do mid-morning when the sun is out and the temperatures are high enough to be comfortably nude outside. It won’t be shocking. It won’t be embarrassing. It will be our normal for the next few days.

Finally, we’ll get to our room. We’ll open up our luggage but instead of unpacking, we’ll be undressing. We’ll be taking off the jeans, shirts, jackets, underwear and other clothing that define us when we’re at home and in our community. We’ll trade them for tanning lotion and sunblock, sunglasses, hat and sandals (and a towel to sit on). Last time we were on a nude vacation, my wife was undressed before I had even opened my suitcase.

And then we’ll hit the moment that I’ve been dreaming about. The thought that hit me when I woke up this morning. The moment when we open the door and walk down the steps from our room. The moment when we step outside our lodging and feel the sun on our faces and a breeze across our nude bodies. The moment we walk naked and freely across the property holding our towels and each ours hands as we walk to the pool.

I can’t describe the feeling you experience when you’re naked and truly comfortable for the first time (or the first time in a while). It’s liberating. It’s freeing. It’s natural and it’s contagious. It’s the same feeling I’ll get when we walk the property and say “hello” to the other guests and residents. It’s the same feeling I’ll get when I go kayaking or try a paddleboard on the lake. It’s the same feeling when I go to the hot tubs and pools. It’s the same feeling when I walk on one of the nature trails and listen to the birds while looking for wildlife. It’s also the same feeling when my wife and I sit outside and enjoy lunch together next to the pool.

Beach at Cypress Cove. Image from their website: https://www.cypresscoveresort.com/

A nude vacation is just that, leisure time meant to be enjoyed in the nude. And the feeling I get when I’m there is hard to explain but really is wonderful. Until you’ve experienced a nude vacation or nakation, you really don’t know this feeling, but when you do, you’ll know it for the rest of your life. It is addictive.

Notice I didn’t say anything about intimacy or sexual touching. This goes to the question we hear first, that our naked vacation time must be very sexual. It isn’t sexual but it is bonding and close. Public sexual intimacy or touching is not acceptable at a reputable nudist property like Cypress Cove and will not be tolerated. We wouldn’t come back if it was happening in the open either. It’s not why we go on naked vacations. There is a time and a place and that’s in the privacy of your own room.

The Kiss by Auguste Rodin (1840-1917). Great artwork but not appropriate at a nudist property. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kiss_(Rodin_sculpture)

So as the countdown to our nude vacation comes to a close, we invite you to discover your own nude vacation and experience the nude feeling firsthand. You’ll see what I mean. To find a nudist property for vacation or near your home, try the American Association of Nude Recreation (AANR) website.

Let us know what questions you have and look back for our trip report on Cypress Cove sometime in the next month.

How it all Started: Our First Time Naked on a Beach

Many times I’ve received questions from couples interested in exploring nude recreation asking how my wife and I got started. They want to know if we were nervous? What concerns we had prior to dropping her swim suits and what we thought afterwards.

This is actually our first blog post. I thought I would share it again and add a few thoughts too. If you’re reading this and interested in learning more about social nudity and what it could be like for you and your spouse, read on. If you’ve already discovered the Nudist Secret… that spending time together naked is safe, refreshing, relaxing, exciting and fun, please share with me how you and your spouse first decided to take the nude plunge.

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In 1996, me and my then girlfriend (now wife) first ventured on to a clothing optional beach. We went to Black’s Beach outside of San Diego and for the very first time ever, took off our bathing suits and our inhibitions.  As we marched down the cliff trail from the Torrey Pines parking lot to the sandy beach below, we both wondered why we were making this trip?  Why go against everything our parents had every told us about the importance of covering up, wearing a bathing suit and never revealing too much skin. We were both 25-years old and while we were free spirits, we had never done anything like this before.

So we found our spot on the beach, laid out our towels and looked at each other… it was the moment of truth. I pulled off my t-shirt and then as if in slow motion, pulled down my swim suit and watched it hit the ground. There I was, standing completely naked, outside for the first time in my adult life and feeling more exposed and naked than I had ever felt before. My girlfriend made a nervous laugh and said I was looking a little cold too. My manhood and I were both cold and shy at that moment. It was not your typical sunny and 75-degree California day. While the sun was shining, it was windy and chilly. I no longer had any fears about getting physically excited.

My girlfriend sat down on her towel and then untied her black bikini top and carefully pulled off her bottoms. She folded them up and put them back in her bag. Even naked she is as tidy as ever.

There we were. Naked. Outside. For the first time. Ever. And it wasn’t at all what we thought it would be like. We lasted about an hour before we agreed the cold wind was too much to take, especially when you had only a towel to keep warm. We didn’t see lot of hard, bronzed bodies walking the beach showing perfect bodies that day. The few women I saw reminded me of ex-hippies who while naked and fine with it, looked like blobs of silly putty sitting in the sun. Care free and happy but the men, they were a different story. By far the men were in much better shape and many walked by our sandy outpost to see the two of us with our blinding tan lines. While at first I thought I needed to protect my girlfriend from their wandering eyes, she quickly pointed out that we had found our perfect spot in the sun on the gay section of Black’s Beach.

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While far from a perfect day, we both agreed the experience had been thrilling and the feeling of sunshine all over our bodies was amazing. Why had we thought this was wrong? When we had gotten over our sense of fear and anxiety, we found we felt great and that it was an amazing experience for us as a couple. While not sexual, it was intimate. Besides, how could 100 gay, naked men lying in the sun be wrong? We still laugh about it today.

That was nearly 20 years ago. What started as a fun hour or later on an afternoon, has turned into days and weeks for us on vacation and often with all of our clothing stored in carry-on luggage. Finding the perfect nude beach, clothing optional pool, nude resort, or clothing-free B&B has been a wonderful journey for us and we have shared many great times, met wonderful people and have many good memories. Simply put, some of these destinations are wonderful to visit. They’re beautiful settings with surf, sand and great food and drinks.

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So again, why a blog about nude travel? When we started visiting clothing optional destinations, there was often very little information to guide us. We literally got hurt many times walking down trails that doubled as mud slides to reach beautiful secluded beaches where we could get an all-over tan with other likeminded people. Since then, the internet has become a treasure trove of information for the closet nudist or want to be skinny dipper but I’m surprised at how often when I’m looking for travel information about a clothing optional destination, all I see is highly sexual images and behavior that is best saved for the bedroom. I honestly don’t want others who are interested in discovering this side of themselves and sharing it with their significant others to be turned off by what they believe happens when swimming suits are set aside. We don’t become crazed wild animals only interested in sex and foreplay on the beach. Not to say that you don’t need to be careful, but that’s where I believe we can help you out so that it’s a positive experience.

From what we’ve seen, most couples discover clothing optional travel when they are in their 40s and beyond. I’m thankful we figured it out in our mid-20s, but we weren’t the norm at all and we really didn’t embrace nude travel till we were into our 30s. We still find we’re often the youngest couple at the resort or on the beach and we’re into our 40s now. Thankfully that’s beginning to change. Our last trip to Hidden Beach Resort had many young 30s couples.

My vision for this blog is to share our experiences as we got more comfortable with being naked by ourselves and later with others and to tell you about the places we have visited and why we did or didn’t go back. By offering honest information, I hope we can be a resource to others with questions and hopefully give the push another couple might need to try this out and see if it’s for them.

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So are my wife and I nudists? I guess so. Although naturists applies better to us. We enjoy bonding with the environment around us without clothing. So are we normal? We live in the midwest in a nice suburb surrounded by friends and family who know nothing about where we travel or why. We are parents and business people. We are active in our community. We are very normal and probably very boring to many people out there. We don’t sit around the house naked or plant trees in our backyard so we can lay out nude on our patio.  We only recently started going to a local nudist club so we could lay out and enjoy the sun and take a cool relaxing dip in the pool when we had some free time. We’re not members. Just visitors. We don’t bring our children. This time is for us to share and I’d like our children to discover how it feels to be naked on their own.

Interested in hearing more or am I boring you already? Well, let me tell you where we’ve gone and where we’ve been naked. The list is long: Tahiti, Cancun, Tulum, St. Martin, Grenada, Palm Springs, San Diego, South Beach, New Orleans, Toronto, and beaches, clubs and skinny dipping spots across North Carolina, Pennsylvania, Ohio and Florida.

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So what won’t we talk about… Sex and sexual intimacy in a nudist environment. Nudity does not mean sex or foreplay or touching. That’s a misconception. A big misconception. I’m not saying that spending time nude together with your spouse or partner might not stir some exciting moments later, but it is not appropriate to do this in the open. Especially on a clothing optional beach or nudist club or property. Ever.

We have a lot to share. We will share with you the naked truth about being naked. It’s been a wonderful experience for us. Enjoy the ride. And let us know what questions you have. And again, if you’ve got a first time experience (especially if you’re a woman), we’d love to hear about it and potentially share with other couples on a future blog post.

Many of the images used for this post I found on https://www.reddit.com/r/naturists/. If any of these images were shared on reddit. To my knowledge, none of the images are copyright protected. However, please let me know otherwise. 

A Naked Honeymoon: One Couple’s Truly Memorable Nude Trip

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Enjoying the great outdoors with your spouse and no swimsuit has been some of the best experiences we’ve ever had.

If we could do it all over again, my wife and I would have gone on a clothing optional honeymoon. To be honest, when we went on our honeymoon to Tahiti we were just beginning our nude journey, and what a trip it has been. From nude beaches and skinnydipping to nude B&Bs and nudist clubs to hot springs deep in the wood and nudist resorts.
Our nude trips have been a great experience for us. We’ve been to many wonderful places and have made many good friends along the way. Including a couple who lives near to us that we’ve vacationed with to Saint Martin and gone nude boating on the Great Lakes.
Our nude journey started with a conversation before we got married. We talked about where we might want to go on our honeymoon and I asked my then fiance if we went to Tahiti would she sunbath topless. She said she would think about it but probably yes. This led to a follow up discussion about going to a nudist club in our area because I wanted to be naked with her. We tried it and liked it. That was more than 20 years ago.

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Some of our best time together has been spent together nude on a beach. And what a beautiful way to spend a honeymoon. Picture from orientbeach.com

Last year “Busy Bride” reached out to me and my wife to ask our opinion about a nude honeymoon. She was interested in trying out nudism. Her fiance wasn’t too sure at first but liked the thought as they explored more. Originally we discussed Busy Bride and her fiance going to St. Martin. They even booked a wonderful rental property but then saw a great travel special at Couples Sans Souci that they felt they couldn’t pass up. Thankfully the decided to go to Jamaica. Hurricane Irma destroyed St. Martin last Fall. 
Here is Busy Bride’s honeymoon trip report of Couples Sans Souci. I loved the thoughts she shared about her experience. All in all, her and her husband’s first nude experience couldn’t have gone any better and it was even better because it was their honeymoon. I’m envious of all the experiences they’ll enjoy together.

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The main beach and A and B Buildings at Couples Sans Souci

Couples Sans Souci was AMAZING! We absolutely LOVED it and could not have stayed at a better resort for our honeymoon! Where to start? The food was amazing. We’ve never been to an all-inclusive before, and as we’re both still “young. My husband will be 25 next year and I’ll be 30. I don’t feel so young anymore (haha!). So we haven’t had lots of opportunities to dine at gourmet 3-star Michelin restaurants yet. To our young tastes the food at every Sans Souci restaurant location was fantastic. We stayed in building B, had a top floor unit, that overlooked the beach and the Pallazzina. We loved our room. I think it was one of the more recently renovated rooms. It was gorgeous. And I can’t believe the room service there either. Absolutely amazing. I wanted to try some rum, and we had the order tally sheet you hang on the door. So we ordered one, thinking we would receive a nip. It was a full sized bottle. I couldn’t believe they just gave us a full-sized bottle. I guess it is all inclusive. Turns out I’m not such a big fan of rum either, haha. We had room service for breakfast almost every morning. We sat on our patio and ate and basked in the beautiful view and sounds of the ocean. Now, when I’m having trouble falling asleep at night, I’ll put on some waves and I’m out.
We tried out the nude beach second day we arrived. The first day was shot, we got there in the afternoon and we were exhausted. We had enough time to change before the manager’s buffet, which was lovely. We met another young couple there, then asked if they wanted to have dinner with us. They asked what our plans were for the next day and invited us to try the boat tour with them. When we told them we planned on visiting Sunset Beach they said they hadn’t heard about it, so we explained. They gave us some funny looks when we said they were welcome to come hang out there with us. We didn’t see them much after that dinner I think we scared them. Haha.

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After you enter Sans Souci’s Au Naturel Beach, it doesn’t matter if you undress immediately or wait to find your perfect spot in the sun.

So, we tried the beach. It was very funny, because after all this anticipation it was me who ended up getting nerves and needing to be coaxed into going. My husband told me I was the one who wanted to try out a nude beach so badly and I’d regret it if I got cold feet now. So we walked up to the gate and we stepped inside. Then I turned to my husband and said, “So, what do we do? Do we take off our clothes here so they know we understand the rules and then find beach chairs, or do we walk up first and then disrobe?” He didn’t really know, which ended in us awkwardly walking and disrobing at the same time. I’m sure we gave some people a good chuckle as we headed towards a pair of chairs in the very back off to the side.

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View from the Couples Sans Souci nude beach

We made sure to sunscreen very well prior to going down, so we had no issues with sunburns in any inconvenient areas. I took out my kindle and started to read and he just wanted to nap. We both ended up snoozing. I can’t believe I fell asleep there. I never sleep in public. I can’t even sleep on planes. I like to be aware of my surroundings. I was very surprised at how relaxing it was to lay back and enjoy the sun, listen to the waves, and sip my tropical frozen drink. My husband woke me up and asked if I wanted some food, because the grille was setting out a buffet. Again, I got a little nervous. It was one thing to be in a corner naked, it was another to walk up to the bar and grille fill my plate and walk back to our chairs naked. My husband had been getting my drinks for me, since I was being shy, but I said I’d join him in getting some food.

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Au Natural Beach at Couples Sans Souci

We walked up and I realized I was very hot after napping and not taking a dip so I jumped in the pool to cool off and then walked up to the grille to grab a plate. I was stopped by an older woman who was intrigued by my tattoos. She reached out and touched my hip as I passed and I was surprised at how much I didn’t care. We were all naked anyways. So I stopped and we had a lovely chat about tattoos and why I chose the ones I had and what they meant to me. Other people were sitting with her and they introduced themselves. After a short conversation my husband and I grabbed some food and headed back.
I was surprised at how friendly everyone was. And suddenly, I wasn’t shy or nervous anymore. It really didn’t matter that I didn’t have any clothes on. In fact, we saw them later that night at the buffet on the main lawn or rather they saw us first and called us over to their table. They were very lovely people. We saw them quite often after that. It’s funny how you remember and recognize the people you meet at Sunset Beach and how friendly they are when you see them outside of the nude area.

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Au Natural Pool and Swim Up Bar at Couples San Souci

The rest of our stay we actually spent on the main beach except for two more days on Sunset Beach (Sans Souci’s nude beach). This was mainly due to the fact we scheduled too many activities and my husband got sick to his stomach for two days. I also brought too many skimpy bikinis that I knew I couldn’t wear comfortably back home, so I wanted to wear each one I’d bought at least once. It was my first time wearing a thong bikini and I was enjoying showing off a bit.
If I were to do it again, we’d schedule less activities and just enjoy being extremely lazy, and I’d buy less bikinis because you really don’t need them at all. I was tempted to go topless on the main beach, but the vibes were not as welcoming there. I didn’t feel comfortable like I did on Sunset Beach. We spent some time at the main pool, met Brian and asked for the Eclipse drink you recommended. He made as close to the drink as he could. He was missing one ingredient, but it still tasted amazing and since we just loved Brian’s personality and finesse (all the spinning cups and liquor, serving drinks to us on his head or back) we made an effort to hang out where he was serving at the main pool and martini bar quite a bit.
We did enjoy Sunset Beach on our second to last day. It was such a nice way to bring our honeymoon to a close. I can say for sure that the most relaxed we felt while at Couples San Souci was on Sunset Beach. My husband was surprised at how much he enjoyed it. We both agree we want to go back when we can afford to and next time we will try to visit Couples Tower Isle at least once. We thought about doing the trading places thing for a day but never got around to it. We did hear good things about Tower Isle from a few couples who had tried both Sunset Beach and Tower Isle. They said it was worth trying at least once, but their favorite was Sunset Beach. I still want to try Hidden Beach Resort, but I think I want to revisit Couples Sans Souci before we head over there.
We are both very happy that I stumbled onto your blog. We dodged a bullet by cancelling our cruise and booking Couples. What a difference that would have made if we had cruised for our honeymoon instead of discovering the paradise that is Couples Sans Souci. I loved that it was adults only and couples only and I loved the small private nature of the resort. It never felt crowded, and there are so many cute nocks to discover and cuddle in. Thank you so much for your help and tips for our first nude experience together. It really did make our honeymoon memorable and extra special.
I’ll tell anyone who’ll listen about our experience. I think my friends are tired by now. I keep telling them they should try a nude beach and a couple of them are planning honeymoons so I am definitely pushing Couples Sans Souci. I even told my parents they should try it out. I’ll definitely be looking into beaches and areas to enjoy being nude in the future and especially in the U.S. I’m wondering if there are any resorts where we wouldn’t need to travel outside the U.S. to enjoy them. I really wanted to give an honest review of our experience at Couples.
Thank you so much Busy Bride for sharing your review and your thoughts. And congratulations on finding out about the power and love of a nude vacation early on in your marriage. Enjoy.
Does anyone else have a naked honeymoon trip they’d like to share? Please do.

Asheville Spa Perfect Spot for First Time Outdoor Nude Experience

Asheville has it all. An amazing food and restaurant scene with first class chefs and breweries. It has a great art culture with fun shops and a funky downtown area. It has the Blue Ridge Mountains all around it with hiking, swimming and vistas everywhere. It also has the amazing Biltmore Estate, which is a great day visit.

When I was researching a visit to Asheville for my wife and me a few months ago, I was surprised by what Asheville doesn’t have… there are no nude or clothing optional B&B’s, guest houses, pools, hikes, lakes or beaches. I have to admit that I was shocked. Asheville is the right kind of place with the right kind of people to truly enjoy and support a nudist location.  Note to any entrepreneurs out there, HUGE OPPORTUNITY HERE. I posted some questions on Twitter and a few nude travel forums and all that was suggested was a nudist club in South Carolina (Carolina Foothills; I haven’t been there but several people recommended it).

Online I found two locations that had some promise. Hot Springs Resort and Spa in Hot Springs, NC and Shoji Spa Retreat in Asheville. Note that if you do an online search for Asheville and skinny dipping, Skinny Dip Falls will come up. Despite the name, there is no skinny dipping options here. 🙂

My wife and I decided to make a reservation at Shoji Spa Retreat which features outdoor, private hot tubs. When I called, I asked if there were any nude or clothing optional locations in Asheville and they told me that their Spa really was it. Although they did say if we went on a hike to a waterfall early in the morning, there was a good chance we’d have it to ourselves and could enjoy a morning skinny dip.

We were really impressed with Shoji Spa. It is a Japanese-style Spa that offers massages too. If we had more time, we would have signed up for a couples massage but instead we enjoyed the hot tub. An hour is really all you need. We were required to shower prior to entering the hot tub. We put on white robes and sandals. It really was a nice experience.

While my wife and I enjoy social nude experiences where we can meet and talk with other couples, the hot tubs at Shoji were private with a wall/fence around each one. This setting is perfect for the couple who wants to try nude recreation without an audience.

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Each hot tub is private at Shoji Spa

Each hot tub is bathed in the sunshine with a view down the side of the mountain. You really are in the tree tops without a wandering eye or any attention. We went to the spa after hiking all day and while the water was soothing on our aching muscles, the hot tub was actually a little too hot for a warm, humid Asheville summer’s day. We enjoyed the tub but also sitting on the side of the tub and laying out on the wood deck surrounding it.

 

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Private, walled hot tubs are perfect for couples who want to enjoy an outdoor nude experience without other guests.

While not the nude experience we were hoping for originally, we really enjoyed relaxing in the late afternoon sunshine and talking about our hikes and visit to Asheville. I would love to be here on an autumn day when the leaves are changing and the air is getting cooler or even better, on a snowy winter day.

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The late afternoon sun streaks through the railing and tree tops.

 

My wife and I enjoy visiting nude and clothing optional beaches, resorts, B&Bs and clubs while on vacation. For us it’s an opportunity to relax and catch up while spending time together. There is something wonderfully peaceful about feeling the sun’s warming rays all over your body while your spouse is next to you. It isn’t sexual at all. It’s comforting and freeing for us.

Honestly, this is nudity LITE but a good first step. If you and your spouse enjoy this (not sure how you couldn’t), imagine spending time naked together except on a beach or by a pool and with other people around you doing the same. Not really a big leap is it?

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We would highly recommend a visit to Shoji Spa & Lodge. Until someone opens a nude/clothing optional guest house, B&B or pool in Asheville, it’s your only option, but it’s a good one. They do offer lodging options.

We also featured a blog post written by a reader a few years ago on Chozu Bath Garden in Ashland Oregon; another great place to visit.

If this is your first time reading our blog, my wife and I have been going on nude vacations for nearly 20 years. What started as a, “Do you want to try it” discussion when we were dating has turned into many great memories visiting beautiful beaches and resorts around the Caribbean, Pacific and U.S. The purpose of our blog is to provide information to other couples interested in trying nude recreation. It has been a wonderful connection point for my wife and me. It is intimate but not in a sexual way. Sexual touching and intimacy are not appropriate at the nude beaches and resorts we attend. That’s better for time spent together in the privacy of your own room.

Please let us know what you think. Any places we missed that you’d recommend?

Say I do to a Nude Honeymoon

It was our honeymoon to Tahiti/French Polynesia where my wife and I got comfortable with social nudity. It really wasn’t what we expected. Knowing that topless beaches were the norm in Tahiti, we thought we could find our own private little island (motu) and leave the bathing suits in the canoe. I thought of us exploring the island naked and enjoying the sun and surf of our own tropical paradise.  That didn’t happen, but what did, we still laugh about today.
That said my beautiful bride shed her bikini top on day one and didn’t put it back on until we got home to the Midwest USA. This was one of our first experiences with one of us/both of us being nude in front of others and it was wonderful. The irony was even though we were around topless couples all day for more than a week, it was the time we spent together and my wife enjoying the freedom of not wearing her bikini top that made it so memorable.

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Are you a woman nervous about sunbathing nude? Try topless sunbathing first. Get comfortable in your own skin.

Would we have considered a nude honeymoon at a nude, not clothing optional resort like Hidden Beach Resort in Mexico? Probably not, but we were only in our 20s then. Going to a nude beach was on our list. If we were getting married today though, a nude resort would be our first choice for our honeymoon and there are lots of locations across the world to consider.
Recently I received an email from a young woman we’ll call “Busy Bride.” She is in her late 20s and was planning her dream honeymoon to match her beautiful wedding later this summer. She and her fiance had booked a cruise but were having problems with the cruise company. After souring on a cruise, she started to look at all-inclusive resorts and came across our blog post on Couples Sans Souci in Jamaica. She hadn’t considered a nude honeymoon before. She contacted me to say she loved the idea of it but had lots of questions. Busy Bride provided the following blog post about her honeymoon planning and why she and her fiance are excited about their nude honeymoon this summer. Enjoy. I’m really excited for the honeymoon she and her fiance have planned.

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Enjoying the great outdoors with your spouse and no swimsuit has been some of the best experiences we’ve ever had. Image from http://www.orientbeach.com

We had booked a cruise for our upcoming honeymoon. Neither of us had ever cruised before and were really excited. There was a glitch during their cyber Monday sales and they would not honor the price.  Everyone I spoke was hospitable and patient but unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, one manager was particularly rude, harsh, and was the deciding factor on our choice to cancel our cruise and look elsewhere.
After coming across an article on TripAdvisor about the differences between Sandals, Couples, and Secrets, I came across a review about Couples Sans Souci that mentioned a nude beach on the resort. Not clothing optional. Nude only. I was intrigued and Googled Couples San Souci nude beach. The third search result was a blog entry titled, Jammin Naked in Jamaica: Couples San Souci Perfect for First Timers.”

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The main beach, not the nude one, and A and B Buildings at Couples Sans Souci

I was intrigued and read through the blog. I had never before even considered going to a nude beach. Sure, I had skinny dipped a few times as a teenager and when I was a little, I ran through the sprinkler butt naked too. What kids don’t? But I’d never considered being nude as an adult, in public, much less socially.
Something about the blog entry struck a chord in me though. Thinking about being naked with my new husband was thrilling. Not in a sexual way, but in a scary way, like the feeling you get at the top of a roller coaster you’ve never been on before. So I started researching nude all-inclusive resorts.
Hidden Beach, Couples Sans Souci, Couples Tower Isle, and Hedonism II are a few of what I found initially before sending a note to TC for his advice. Hedonism is not for us, at least not at this point in our lives. Couples Sans Souci seemed lovely, as did Tower Isle.
Hidden Beach Resort looked amazing and very luxurious like a spa resort! My only issue with Hidden Beach Resort was that it was all nude, all the time. No exceptions. I was ready and willing to jump in without a life jacket at this point after reading quite a few entries from TC’s Clothing Optional Trips blog, but I had yet to bring up the topic with my fiance.
So I posted a question to TC to see if he had been to these resorts and what his opinions were. We connected and he gave me all sorts of valuable input about his experiences and opinions of different beaches/resorts he and his wife had been to and also a few very important questions and some advice. He asked questions like, “Had I spoken to my fiance about this? Were we equally interested in trying social nudity? Had either of us tried it before?” He also pointed out things not everyone might think of, but everyone would wish they had thought of: for example, sunscreen is your best friend for pale areas that see little to no sun. Nobody wants sunburn on their privates. What a way to ruin a honeymoon, right?
Speaking of honeymoon, the reason we had initially chosen a cruise was because we wanted exotic, we wanted different, we wanted unique. We thought a Caribbean cruise that hit more than one location would be ideal. More bang for the buck, plus included, bottomless drinks! The more we thought about it, after the customer service slip up, we realized we hadn’t thought of the multitude of other passengers, possible screaming rowdy children, tight cabins, and the feeling of being herded off the boat and back on the boat once in port. Not really a romantic honeymoon situation.
We do want to cruise, just later. Probably when we can afford a suite, so many years from now…. haha. When I posed the idea of “au natural honeymoon” to my fiance he was initially shocked. The fact I was asking him was what shocked him most. After the initial surprise he said he was interested, but that Hidden Beach Resort seemed a little too much to start with.
I was disappointed I admit. The resort looks so luxurious and I love the idea of being nude all day every day and can’t wait to try it, but it will be a trip for later. I want my fiance to be comfortable and enjoy our first time together naked and not to cringe and dread it.
After ruling out Hidden Beach we looked into St. Maarten, which was recommended to us by TC because of budget. We initially wanted an all inclusive because we thought we’d save money that way since it was ALL INCLUDED. But, we looked into VRBO.com and found a gorgeous 2 bedroom vista right on a cliff on the Dutch side of the island. It had a private pool, gorgeous views, private deck, no neighbors in sight, and a beautiful feature window in the master bedroom in front of a long soaking tub. Yes please! We checked with the owner and they said it was fine if we wanted to ditch clothes and lounge au natural all day, every day. There were no neighbors to offend, and we would have the schedule of the service people who clean the home twice a week. We would save quite a bit of money by sacrificing being waited on hand and foot as we would have been at Hidden Beach. Its definitely a luxury we will need to indulge in for an anniversary maybe in the future. We still get to honeymoon someplace exotic on a beautiful island, laying out naked, poolside, with ocean views. And if we are brave enough to want to try more (which I think we will be) there are nude, or topless, beaches all around St. Maarten! There were many other reasons we chose St. Maarten that TC pointed out for us, and we researched deeper after his recommendations, and we are so excited for our upcoming honeymoon!
I am so happy I stumbled across Clothing Optional Trips blog. I never would have considered trying social nudity with my fiance, much less for the first time and on our honeymoon, if I hadn’t come across the blog.
When it comes down to it the honeymoon is supposed to be this unforgettable experience that you remember fondly year after year. It’s supposed to be possibly the best trip a couple takes together, or one of the best at the very least. When resorts like Sandals market to future honeymooners they’re selling that “unique, one-of-a-kind” experience that couples can get only at that resort!
When I thought about whether we were cancelling our cruise and pursuing someplace where we could be nude publicly and socially together, what sold me was this: What’s more unique, more romantic, more unforgettable than going au natural for the first time, together as newlyweds? And so we cancelled the cruise and booked that home on St. Maarten! We can’t wait! Thanks again for all your help and recommendations TC!
I can’t wait to hear about their trip and yes, I’m telling them about all the great places to enjoy nude on St. Martin (French side)/ St. Maarten (Dutch side).
So did you enjoy a nude experience on your honeymoon and no I’m not talking about what happens in your bedroom. Where would you recommend newlyweds go to experience nudism after their big day? Resorts, beaches, all-inclusives? Let us know your thoughts and what you would recommend to couples like Busy Bride and her fiance.

Our Bodies Tell Stories – How One Woman Embraced Her Life’s Journey through Nudism

The following is a guest blog from my friend Charlotte (named changed). I have been looking for a firsthand woman’s perspective on trying nudism. We are good friend with Charlotte and her husband Carlos and she very willingingly wrote the blog post below. She hits on so many questions that women (and couples) struggle with when considering social nudity. And more importantly, the benefits of it, especially when your spouse is sitting naked right next to you. I’m proud of her. What a great blog.  Let us know what you think.

Raised in the Midwest, I never thought ditching your clothes in public could be an enjoyable pastime. Truthfully, I was never aware it was even an option. I had no preconceived notions or expectations about nudism. Growing up, my father taught me respect of all living things and led by example, going so far as to set live mouse traps for mice that wandered into our horse feed storage. These values significantly helped foster the carefree attitude I live by today – ‘Live and let live.’

Though I don’t consider myself a true nudist, I particularly enjoy baring it all on vacation and when our time allows. Several times during the summer, my husband and I will visit local nudist clubs and enjoy socializing with the crowds that gather there. And later this month, we will be enjoying a nude first for us – renting a private Caribbean villa with another couple who loves to be naked as much as we do.

My first experience with nudism was rather spontaneous. My husband Carlos and I began dating midsummer several years ago, excitedly and hurriedly falling in love, which was a surprise and uncharacteristic of us both. He was a lifelong bachelor and me, a recent divorcee. The almost immediate sense of security and comfort we found within each other allowed us to communicate candidly about everything, from our political views to some of our deepest revelations.

One conversation that seemed so innocent at the time now strikes me as my first introduction to nudism. After travel plans to the sunny island of Saint Martin were in the works, Carlos asked if I would ever try nude sunbathing, considering it is a popular activity on Saint Martin’s beaches. I paused and thought out loud, “I honestly have no idea.”

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Many people experience nudism by themselves first before experiencing it with friends or a spouse.

I recalled my days as a teenager, lying in the sun topless in my backyard. High school dances and tan lines are long-time foes. Privacy was ample in my backyard and the only risk of exposure was the occasional airplane flying overhead.

‘Stripping off my swimsuit in front of other people though? Would I have the courage?’ As I gave the idea more life, I asked, “Would you be ok with other men seeing me naked?”  Carlos said, “Of course,” without hesitation. In my naiveté, I struggled separating nudism from its sexual connotation. My only previous encounter with nudism was skinny dipping at a local quarry after a high school football game with several friends – girls and boys, one of whom I had a small crush on. The moonlight was scarce, which allowed us to shed our clothes without much fear of being seen jumping into the cool water. I shared my experience with Carlos, slightly nervous he may pass judgment, but he just smiled in sweet amusement. Our conversation digressed and we rambled about other things. We did not suggest nudism again until we were lying out at Happy Bay, a sandy and secluded beach on Saint Martin.

After dating a little less than a year, Carlos had proposed. Suddenly, we were engaged and jetting off to the Caribbean. Carlos’ confidence and enthusiasm were more reassuring, attractive and contagious than ever before. I couldn’t help but be swept away in his excitement as he showed me around his favorite island, drove us to his favorite beach, and carefully picked out a semi-secluded spot by the water. He poured us each a generous glass of red wine, and we sat on the beach soaking up the sun. Shortly after finishing our wine, in what seemed like one swift motion, Carlos slid down his swim shorts and reached over to untie my bikini top. I let the straps fall to the sand and without moving to stop him. He untied the string that was holding my bikini top somewhat in place. My eyes locked on his, and any sense of uneasiness was gone. He then rather sweetly and hopefully asked, “Will you slide off your bottoms too?” Without saying anything, I did and smiled.

 

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Petit Cayes beach on Saint Martin. A perfect beach to experience social nudity for the first time.

A wave of excitement immediately washed over me and with the rush, my senses became acutely aware of everything. I had never felt the sun’s warmth so completely or the ocean’s breeze so freely. A new sense of liberation consumed me. For several minutes, I just stared at the ocean in complete awe and shock.

No one was yelling at me to dress myself. No one was staring at me. No one seemed to notice or even care. As I looked around, it dawned on me we were not the only ones lying naked on the beach. How had I not noticed? Carlos interrupted my self-examination and asked if I would join him for a swim. Apprehension started to creep in. ‘Wait, I have to get up?  Surely people will stare.’ Carlos noted my hesitation and without words, offered me the reassurance and courage I needed. ‘So what if they stare?’

He stood up first and offered his hand, helping me off of my cloth sanctuary. For some reason, leaving my towel behind affirmed my display of public nudity. But with Carlos by my side, I had strength and courage I never had before. In no hurry, we walked down the beach holding hands and entered the warm ocean water for our first nude swim together. The water seemed to feel more slippery than I’d ever felt before and my body offered no resistance as I gracefully glided through the water. One single moment lasting no more than a few minutes had just completely opened my eyes to a new state of mindfulness.

The rest of the evening, I unleashed a fury of questions that had been brewing all day at the beach and Carlos shared his story and confirmed a few of my suspicions. This was not his first experience with nudism, but it was his first experience sharing it with someone he loved. Though it was not an overtly sexual experience for either of us, we shared a heightened degree of intimacy that brought our relationship to another level. I excitedly and curiously listened to Carlos share his prior experiences.

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The World Famous Orient Beach by Club Orient, Saint Martin

He first arrived to Saint Martin aboard a popular cruise ship. Walking along the shores of Orient Beach, he was one of the few American tourists who removed his shorts while walking the nude side of the beach. When I asked him why, his reply was simple, “It just seemed like fun!”

Enjoying the experience so much, he decided to visit a local nudist club. Coincidently, he ran into a coworker there. I can imagine the odds of this happening are extremely low. Within the nudist community, there is a healthy level of respect for privacy, and their meeting followed suit. Neither ever mentioned the incident at work and they remain friends today.

Not wanting to give up nudism, Carlos eventually returned to Saint Martin for a second time with his then-girlfriend. Together they explored more of the island, but for the entirety of the trip, she remained clothed. Curiously, I asked if it would bother him if I decided that nudism might not be for me. Carlos confidently insisted he would accept my decision, but my preferences would not change his own. I greatly appreciated the lack of pressure I felt in that moment. Carlos would love me no matter my decision and would continue to respect me. Ultimately, like my husband, unwinding anywhere au natural is just too much fun not to partake.

Since my first experience with nudism, my body has seen several changes. Carlos and I returned to the Caribbean for our honeymoon, both of us carrying a few extra pounds that came with the stress of planning a wedding and enjoying life a little too much.

The third time we left our swimsuits behind, I was 25-weeks pregnant and displaying a very recognizable baby bump. Surprisingly, I enjoyed the freedom of leaving behind my clothes. I have yet to find clothes that are truly comfortable for any expecting mother.

Shortly after delivering, we decided to visit a local nudist club, one that was new to both of us. I was three months postpartum, still carrying around extra weight from pregnancy, leaking breast milk and nursing my infant. Though I had reservations, I refused to let anything stand in my way of enjoying my life. As a new mom, I was unprepared for the amount of attention we would receive with such a young baby, but it allowed us to become more sociable and leave behind the isolation we previously maintained by nature of our Type B personalities.

After our visit, Carlos and I both shared a longing to return to Saint Martin. After the trip was already booked, we learned we were expecting. Again, I shed my swimsuit underneath the sun with a baby bump on display. To my surprise, I found my pregnancy, though fairly small at the time, to be quite a conversation starter. Strangers would congratulate us and ask the typical follow up questions.

In fact, it was this very topic that broke the ice and gave reason for small chit chat with someone who has since become very close friends of ours. As fate would have it, the man standing directly behind us in line during an Orient Beach Bar happy hour lives less than 10 minutes from our home. After quickly discovering the proximity of our homes, TC excitedly introduced us to his wife Mindy and we all immediately hit it off.

Upon our return, we stayed in contact. After finding time for a brief escape from busy schedules, we reconnected with TC and Mindy during the winter months over dinner. With like minded personalities and shared interests, it was easy to plan a couple visits to our local nudist clubs with them as soon as the summer weather allowed. Our friendship continues to flourish and has allowed us to try something new to all of us – share a private villa with another nudist couple.

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Too often, as women we criticize ourselves and each other. Our insecurities become motivating factors preventing us from doing things we once loved or may grow to love. In my neighborhood alone, even the most petite mother wears a very modest one-piece swimsuit at our neighborhood pool. Instead of celebrating our imperfect bodies, we regularly try to hide the things we detest – scars, stretch marks, cellulite, imperfect breasts, unwanted pounds, and the list goes on. Any idea of perfection is relentlessly brandished everywhere we turn – television, literature, advertisements, movies, pornography, etc. That quantifiable idea of perfection just doesn’t exist in the natural world.

I do not carry a perfect body. Simply put, I am quite average. My body still carries the extra weight brought on during pregnancy, my breasts aren’t as perky as they once were, cellulite has claimed many parts of my body, and my stomach has lost the tightness it once had before children. Physically, my body has transformed into something new with almost every nudist experience I have had, but each instance has given me the opportunity to confront a new set of insecurities and practice self-acceptance, an important concept I hope to pass to my own children.

Carlos has been incredibly patient and completely supportive throughout these life changes, putting up with my crying episodes (mostly hormonal) and not once shaming me if I felt the need to cover-up for whatever reason. Despite it all, one of the reasons I am still able to confidently strip down my clothes and walk down the beach for all to see is my ability to not just accept my body as it is, but celebrate it. I am a mother of three beautiful children, and I am proud that my body shows signs of motherhood. It’s the role I am proudest to fill. And though there are times I wish I had my pre-pregnancy body back, I am grateful that my experiences have made me stronger and more confident than I ever was when I was a size 2. I am happier now in my average body than I was then. I am more confident naked now than I was then. And with that confidence and those new life experiences, I have met some interesting people along the way and made a couple amazing friends.

All of our bodies tell stories. Each story is truly unique and deserves to be cherished by ourselves and respected by others. Don’t be afraid to share yours. The truly beautiful thing about nudism is the welcoming attitude and feelings of overwhelming acceptance. In my experiences, I have found the people who judge the most are often the ones wearing the most clothes. Perhaps they are afraid their insecurities will be noticed if they don’t first point out the flaws in others. Regardless of what others think, your opinion of yourself is the only one that truly matters and the only one you have the power to control.

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Some of our best experiences on vacation have been together on a nude beach.

If you’re thinking of trying nudism for the first time, go for it! If you’re single, what have you got to lose? If you’re married and hoping to convince your partner, sit down together and have an open and honest conversation. Leave judgments behind and listen to each other’s doubts, fears and insecurities with sincerity and respect. Accept that he or she might be hesitant or resistant. Explore each other’s fears and work to overcome them together. And absolutely do not forget to affirm your love for one another.

When I think of that summer with my husband, I’m reminded of a quote I once read:

“I want to live everything with the most density possible…I am so conscious that life might escape me at any moment, that everything has become keener and more distilled…I tell myself: All this happiness still, but for how long? So I devour life.” (What French Women Know: About Love, Sex, and Other Matters of the Heart and Mind)

 Truly empowering words of wisdom to live by.