Sun’s Out, Buns Out: Answers to the Six Most Asked Questions by First Timers Interested in Visiting a Nudist Club this Summer

It’s summer. It’s hot. And you and your spouse want to try something new. You’ve both thought about topless sunbathing or skinny dipping or spending the afternoon naked by a pool or lake. Interested in learning more?

Here’s what anyone who enjoys nude recreation will tell you, “Suns out? Buns out!” This is the summer to try nude recreation for you and your significant other and to learn what it’s really all about.

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On a hot summer’s day, there is no better time to get naked with your spouse at a local nudist club or campground.

My wife and I started this blog several years ago to give couples interested in nude recreation and social nudity a better idea of what to expect. There is a lot of bad information out there and from our experience, the reality is probably not what you’d expect. It wasn’t what we expected at first either, but what it is, we have found to be relaxing, wonderful and a great activity for the two of us. Simply put, we love our nude time together and the more couples we talk to who have experienced it usually say they wish they had tried it a lot sooner than they did.

Many nudist clubs have property to explore together.

The key point to remember is that being naked around others is only a concern until you try it and after that, it likely won’t be anymore. You will be anxious at first. We were. That’s completely normal. Think about, since you were young everything you’ve been told by your family, culture, religion, and others is that you should be embarrassed by your naked body when you’re around others.

A naked walk in the woods is one of my favorite things to do. Many nudist clubs have a lot of property to explore including trails in the woods. From Pinterest

Also the perception is that being naked means sexual intimacy or that you’re open to sexual advances from others. In reality, it isn’t sexual at all. That’s one of the biggest surprises. Even though there are boobs, penises, vaginas and bottoms of all colors, sizes and ages on display, it’s simply not a sexual environment.

The reason to go to nudist club or campground (colonies are for ants, not nudist) is that it is a very safe, open and welcoming environment. Let me share the questions most couples ask before trying social nudity at a nudist club or camp. Note that there are other questions for a nude beach, but that’s for another post.

Here are the questions we hear most from couples interested in learning more about nude recreation and social nudity.

What if my body isn’t perfect? I don’t think anyone wants to see me naked.

Our advice regarding getting naked is to do what’s comfortable but don’t delay. It’s really no big deal. Just get out of your bathing suit or bikini and start enjoying life naked.

Stop right there. The perfect nude body is your body and every body is perfect in its own way. You will see every body type you can image at a nudist club. Tall, short, skinny, fat, young, and old. You’ll see scars, birthmarks, stretch marks, burns and other marks we all have. Simply put, you will see it all. Know that everyone has something they would change about their body, even someone you would call handsome or beautiful. And that’s one of the best parts of a nudist club, it is a body shaming free zone. No one is judged. It’s all about being yourself and being comfortable. Not what other people think of your body. Besides, ask your spouse what they think of your body. I’m going to guess that they love it. It’s about you being comfortable and free in your own skin.

Furthermore many people are concerned about their private parts and how they stack up. Again, that’s unique to you and regardless of how large or small your penis or breasts are, it doesn’t matter. No one is going to notice or care. The only time you stand out at a nudist club is when you’re clothed. That’s the truth. Again, it’s about you being comfortable and free in your own skin.

The next question immediately after asking about perfect bodies is what if me or my spouse has a tattoo or piercing. Not going to lie, it’s amazing what we cover up. Our body art is unique to each of us and it starts with our own pubic hair. You’ll see shaved, landing strips and 100% natural and many variations in between. I will say that most nudist we’ve met though are shaved. Regardless you won’t stand out and you’ll look fine just the way you are.

In addition to our own personal grooming habits, you’ll see tattoos large and small and many in very intimate places and just about any body part can be pierced, but nipple piercing is very popular. Whatever you have or don’t have, please don’t be embarrassed. Be proud and be ready for questions. I’ve seen tattoos become wonderful conversation starters.

How do we know we won’t run into someone we know?

When there is a will, there is a way. You can’t enjoy time together naked unless you’re ready to get naked.

Great question and this is a major hangup for many couples. Often couples enjoy their first nude experience on vacation when they go to nude beach at a resort and now they’re back home and worried about running into the neighbors. It was a concern of ours. There is a nudist property 30 minutes from our home (that we truly love now) and we wouldn’t go there for years because we were concerned about running into someone we knew.

There is always a chance you will recognize someone or they will recognize you, but here’s what you need to remember. For most couples, social nudity is a secret. Only a few of our friends know that we enjoy getting naked. Our families don’t. Our children don’t. And most people really want this part of their lives kept secret. If you did see someone you knew, I’m sure it would be a little awkward, but you both now have a secret that neither one of you is going to share. In fact, if you didn’t know them well before, you might now.

At a nudist club, it’s customary to give only your first names and not to talk about where you work or live. It’s up to you if you decide to offer that information, but it’s not expected. Personal privacy is very important.

Is a nudist club safe? Will we be hit on by other couples or could someone take a picture of me?

There is nothing better than the feeling of freedom you get when you’re bathing suit comes off and the sun kisses your body for the first time. You’ll be surprised how quickly you learn to love not wearing a bathing suit. No matter how big or small your bathing suit or bikini, it’s hot and uncomfortable to wear. You’ll only find this out when you start going without one.

This is perhaps the most important question to ask and this is why we highly recommend making your first social nude experience at a recognized nudist club. Simply put, this is a safe place where you can be naked and not worry about anyone hurting you or your spouse. When you are naked, you are vulnerable and your safety and privacy are very important.

A reputable club that is a member of the American Association of Nude Recreation (AANR) or The Naturist Society (TNS) and is all about the personal wellbeing and safety of their members and guests. Most clubs are open to families and because there are children present, safety is very important. Here is what you need to know.

When you first visit a nudist club, they will ask for your state ID so they can run a background check on you. You will not be allowed to enter without it. Next they will review the rules of the club. There will be a section about sexual or intimate contact, which is strictly prohibited. If it’s seen, the people involved are kicked out. No exceptions. Furthermore cameras and cellphones are often not allowed to be seen or used at a nudist property. Taking pictures is not permitted.

Your comfort is key to enjoying being nude around others. Knowing that everyone around you will respect your privacy and give you space is key. This is why we recommend a nudist club over a nude beach, which may attract people who are there for the wrong reasons.

So we’re interested in going to a local club. What do we do next?

Pick up the phone and call them. Don’t be embarrassed. They receive calls from interested couples all of the time. Let them know you haven’t done this before and that you’re newbees. Let them know when you’ll be there and what you should do. Most clubs aren’t well marked with signage by design. There is often a gate and privacy fence and you’ll need specific directions to get there. Often you’ll need to be buzzed in.

From there you’ll park and go to the office to do the background check and to pay the day fee (many clubs offer free visits for first timers). They’ll go over the rules with you and then they’ll give you a tour of the property. This is your time to ask questions. Don’t hold back. There are no dumb questions. Other than no pictures or personal displays of affection, the next most important rule they’ll tell you is to bring a towel everywhere with you. When you sit down, you use a towel. Don’t just put your bottom down anywhere.

From here, they’ll let you go back to your car and get your things. We bring towels, suntan lotion, drinks and a picnic lunch. This is our time to enjoy and this is how we enjoy it. You’ll quickly have your own routine.

So when do we get naked and do we have to do it right away?

Before long, you’ll be leaving your bathing suit or bikini at home. It doesn’t matter how cute your bathing suit or bikini is. You’re always cuter without it.

Don’t laugh. We get this question all of the time. If it’s your first time, you’ll want to do what makes you comfortable. Some clubs allow clothing except in the pool or hot tub, when you must be naked. Ask and they’ll let you know. Often it’s based on the weather. If it’s cold, wear a shirt.

There really is no rule here but we’d encourage you to take off your clothing in your car and leave it there. Get it over with and then start enjoying the sun on your skin and what true freedom really feels like. You’re naked and no one cares or notices. It’s all about the two of you feeling good.

You’ll be surprised how quickly you get comfortable being naked.
Enjoy walking on the residential streets at Cypress Cove wearing nothing more than your shoes and a smile.

I generally take off my clothing as soon as we pay our day fee and return to the car to get our towels and picnic lunch. My wife will sometimes wear a sundress with a thong bikini on under it. She’ll wear that to the pool and take it off when we get situated.

We see new couples come to the club all of the time. Most are wearing their swimwear when they arrive and take it off when they find chairs to layout on. Others are wearing wraps or cover ups. The choice is yours but we really would recommend taking off your clothing as soon as you can.

We can’t recommend enough how much we enjoy nude recreation. There is so much to do and explore naked. You’ll never know until you try it and perhaps the best part is the time you and your spouse will enjoy together and the wonderful people you’ll meet. You’ll quickly discover what you’ve been missing.

When the sun is out, it’s time to get your buns out and start enjoying nude recreation with your spouse or significant other. Visit your local nudist club and see what it’s all about.

That Naked Feeling

We’re headed on vacation in a week. Just a quick getaway for my wife and me. We’re headed to Cypress Cove in Kissimmee for the first time. I’ve heard good things and considering that we live in the Midwest U.S. and haven’t felt 75+ degrees since October, understandably, we can’t wait to go.

Image of Cypress Cove taken from their website at: https://www.cypresscoveresort.com/

Yes, I’ll be writing a blog post about our experiences and why (or why not) Cypress Cove would be a great destination for the first time or new naturist/nudist couple. Today though I woke up extra excited for our trip. It’s still a few days away but for me, the trip has already begun in my head.

While most of our friends don’t know too much about the naked vacations my wife and I go on throughout the year, the few that do always hit on the same topics. “Isn’t it really sexual?” Nope, not at all. I know it sounds impossible, but it is actually not a sexually charged environment at all. It feels more freeing and open. No one is judging one another. It’s all about body acceptance and enjoying the day in your own skin. I’ll explain more later.

“Isn’t it embarrassing walking around naked with your privates hanging out?” It’s actually pretty comfortable and when you’re naked and everyone around you is naked too, you really don’t notice. I’ll admit, at first it was unnerving walking around without clothing but that lasted all of about 15 minutes. And surprisingly, when you’re around other naked people, you really don’t notice it after awhile. Your skin is your “clothing.” 

“What do you do all day when you’re naked?” Well, it’s really what won’t you do… which brings me to the purpose of this post. I can’t wait to get to Cypress Cove. I’m excited to see their property because they offer so much to do. Yes my wife loves laying by the pool and tanning in the sun or skinny dipping in the pool. I do too. But for me, it’s all that plus everything else that you can only experience when you are at a safe, clothing optional/nude property and surrounded by other like-minded individuals. Let me explain because here’s where a naked vacation is unlike any other trip you’ve ever had.

Beach at Cypress Cove. Image taken from their website by Dan Erwin. https://www.cypresscoveresort.com/

We’ll land in Orlando and Uber to Cypress Cove. As soon as we walk past the check in/ guard post, we’ll know we are somewhere different than the outside world. I’m expecting tan bottoms and boobs everywhere. We’ll get the tour from the front desk and we’ll see all of the main points of interest like the lake or the pools, or the restaurant in Cypress Cove that we will experience over the next few days. We’ll see naked men and women of all ages, colors and sizes doing what they do mid-morning when the sun is out and the temperatures are high enough to be comfortably nude outside. It won’t be shocking. It won’t be embarrassing. It will be our normal for the next few days.

Finally, we’ll get to our room. We’ll open up our luggage but instead of unpacking, we’ll be undressing. We’ll be taking off the jeans, shirts, jackets, underwear and other clothing that define us when we’re at home and in our community. We’ll trade them for tanning lotion and sunblock, sunglasses, hat and sandals (and a towel to sit on). Last time we were on a nude vacation, my wife was undressed before I had even opened my suitcase.

And then we’ll hit the moment that I’ve been dreaming about. The thought that hit me when I woke up this morning. The moment when we open the door and walk down the steps from our room. The moment when we step outside our lodging and feel the sun on our faces and a breeze across our nude bodies. The moment we walk naked and freely across the property holding our towels and each ours hands as we walk to the pool.

I can’t describe the feeling you experience when you’re naked and truly comfortable for the first time (or the first time in a while). It’s liberating. It’s freeing. It’s natural and it’s contagious. It’s the same feeling I’ll get when we walk the property and say “hello” to the other guests and residents. It’s the same feeling I’ll get when I go kayaking or try a paddleboard on the lake. It’s the same feeling when I go to the hot tubs and pools. It’s the same feeling when I walk on one of the nature trails and listen to the birds while looking for wildlife. It’s also the same feeling when my wife and I sit outside and enjoy lunch together next to the pool.

Beach at Cypress Cove. Image from their website: https://www.cypresscoveresort.com/

A nude vacation is just that, leisure time meant to be enjoyed in the nude. And the feeling I get when I’m there is hard to explain but really is wonderful. Until you’ve experienced a nude vacation or nakation, you really don’t know this feeling, but when you do, you’ll know it for the rest of your life. It is addictive.

Notice I didn’t say anything about intimacy or sexual touching. This goes to the question we hear first, that our naked vacation time must be very sexual. It isn’t sexual but it is bonding and close. Public sexual intimacy or touching is not acceptable at a reputable nudist property like Cypress Cove and will not be tolerated. We wouldn’t come back if it was happening in the open either. It’s not why we go on naked vacations. There is a time and a place and that’s in the privacy of your own room.

The Kiss by Auguste Rodin (1840-1917). Great artwork but not appropriate at a nudist property. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kiss_(Rodin_sculpture)

So as the countdown to our nude vacation comes to a close, we invite you to discover your own nude vacation and experience the nude feeling firsthand. You’ll see what I mean. To find a nudist property for vacation or near your home, try the American Association of Nude Recreation (AANR) website.

Let us know what questions you have and look back for our trip report on Cypress Cove sometime in the next month.

A Naked Walk in the Woods


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A naked walk in the woods is one of my favorite things to do. From Pinterest

This past summer, I took a walk through a campground in the woods. The weather was hot and humid, but I was cool and comfortable. The campground was full of the sounds of summer. Classic rock music echoing from the pool deck. Kids laughing and playing as they jumped into the pool. Families enjoying barbeques and picnics around their campers. Games of corn hole going on with beers in hand. Couples walking in the bright sunshine and enjoying talking with friends and neighbors. Some walking their dogs. Others just taking a stroll around the campground. 

As I walked around soaking it all in, I was happy feeling the sun on my shoulders and everywhere else too. All I was wearing was sandals and a smile, just like everyone around me too. 

To me, this time walking through Green Valley, a nudist club and campground is why I enjoy social nudity so much. It’s not about everyone else and what they think or judging me. It’s not about my body and how I look. It’s not about offending someone with my nakedness. It’s all about me. It’s how I feel.

As my wife says, “It just feels good. There is no better feeling than being warm all over.” I would add that knowing you’re in a safe place where you can be naked with your spouse, friends and possibly family too. To me, piece of mind knowing that you’re not being judged for any reason other than who you are is just as important. 

While a nakation to a nude resort like Hidden Beach Resort is an amazing experience, some of my best nude experiences have been quiet ones. An afternoon at Red Rock beach north of San Francisco. A day sitting in the sun and playing in the waves at Haulover Beach in North Miami.  A few years ago, I had an opportunity to visit Lake Como just north of Tampa. This is a family nudist resort property with pools, lake, rv campground, tennis courts, nine-hole chipping golf course and other outdoor activities. 

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Photo taken from https://www.reddit.com/r/naturists/. If this image is copyrighted, please let me know and I will remove it.

For me other than a dip in the pool, my favorite part of the day was hiking through their 111-acre nature preserve. I hiked on all of their trails and watched and listened to the birds. They even have a website devoted to all of the birds they’ve seen on their property. And I did this only wearing a hat and my sandals. To me being nude and one with nature and my surroundings is an important part of nudism. I love this part. 

I’m not alone in my love for naked hiking or free hiking as it’s called. There even is a nude hiking day each year: the Summer Solstice, June 21.

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Love this photo. Image used in Sun newspaper article taken from Instagram: https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/3861599/national-nude-hiking-day-pictures-naked-defy-police/

The only way this could have been better was if my wife and been with me so we could walk and share in the sights and sounds of the naked hike together. She enjoys a nice walk too, but really wants to just soak up the sun nude by the pool or in the water. 

Our blog is about helping couples understand what social nudity is like and what to expect. As I mention with every post, social nudity is not about sex or intimacy. This is not a sexually charged environment. It’s just doing what you would do every day around and outside your home, except with little or no clothing on. Sexual touching and intimacy is never appropriate at any of the nudist properties and beaches I’ve mentioned in this post. 

Have a nude hiking spot or experience you’d like to share? There are lots of guides, resources and blogs if you’re interested in learning more. I’d also recommend checking out a local nudist property and calling to see if they have trails for you to explore and enjoy.  Check out the American Association of Nude Recreation website or The Naturist Society. Nudism is more than just nude beaches and skinny dipping. It’s about doing what you enjoy, just with little or no clothing. 

How it all Started: Our First Time Naked on a Beach

Many times I’ve received questions from couples interested in exploring nude recreation asking how my wife and I got started. They want to know if we were nervous? What concerns we had prior to dropping her swim suits and what we thought afterwards.

This is actually our first blog post. I thought I would share it again and add a few thoughts too. If you’re reading this and interested in learning more about social nudity and what it could be like for you and your spouse, read on. If you’ve already discovered the Nudist Secret… that spending time together naked is safe, refreshing, relaxing, exciting and fun, please share with me how you and your spouse first decided to take the nude plunge.

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In 1996, me and my then girlfriend (now wife) first ventured on to a clothing optional beach. We went to Black’s Beach outside of San Diego and for the very first time ever, took off our bathing suits and our inhibitions.  As we marched down the cliff trail from the Torrey Pines parking lot to the sandy beach below, we both wondered why we were making this trip?  Why go against everything our parents had every told us about the importance of covering up, wearing a bathing suit and never revealing too much skin. We were both 25-years old and while we were free spirits, we had never done anything like this before.

So we found our spot on the beach, laid out our towels and looked at each other… it was the moment of truth. I pulled off my t-shirt and then as if in slow motion, pulled down my swim suit and watched it hit the ground. There I was, standing completely naked, outside for the first time in my adult life and feeling more exposed and naked than I had ever felt before. My girlfriend made a nervous laugh and said I was looking a little cold too. My manhood and I were both cold and shy at that moment. It was not your typical sunny and 75-degree California day. While the sun was shining, it was windy and chilly. I no longer had any fears about getting physically excited.

My girlfriend sat down on her towel and then untied her black bikini top and carefully pulled off her bottoms. She folded them up and put them back in her bag. Even naked she is as tidy as ever.

There we were. Naked. Outside. For the first time. Ever. And it wasn’t at all what we thought it would be like. We lasted about an hour before we agreed the cold wind was too much to take, especially when you had only a towel to keep warm. We didn’t see lot of hard, bronzed bodies walking the beach showing perfect bodies that day. The few women I saw reminded me of ex-hippies who while naked and fine with it, looked like blobs of silly putty sitting in the sun. Care free and happy but the men, they were a different story. By far the men were in much better shape and many walked by our sandy outpost to see the two of us with our blinding tan lines. While at first I thought I needed to protect my girlfriend from their wandering eyes, she quickly pointed out that we had found our perfect spot in the sun on the gay section of Black’s Beach.

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While far from a perfect day, we both agreed the experience had been thrilling and the feeling of sunshine all over our bodies was amazing. Why had we thought this was wrong? When we had gotten over our sense of fear and anxiety, we found we felt great and that it was an amazing experience for us as a couple. While not sexual, it was intimate. Besides, how could 100 gay, naked men lying in the sun be wrong? We still laugh about it today.

That was nearly 20 years ago. What started as a fun hour or later on an afternoon, has turned into days and weeks for us on vacation and often with all of our clothing stored in carry-on luggage. Finding the perfect nude beach, clothing optional pool, nude resort, or clothing-free B&B has been a wonderful journey for us and we have shared many great times, met wonderful people and have many good memories. Simply put, some of these destinations are wonderful to visit. They’re beautiful settings with surf, sand and great food and drinks.

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So again, why a blog about nude travel? When we started visiting clothing optional destinations, there was often very little information to guide us. We literally got hurt many times walking down trails that doubled as mud slides to reach beautiful secluded beaches where we could get an all-over tan with other likeminded people. Since then, the internet has become a treasure trove of information for the closet nudist or want to be skinny dipper but I’m surprised at how often when I’m looking for travel information about a clothing optional destination, all I see is highly sexual images and behavior that is best saved for the bedroom. I honestly don’t want others who are interested in discovering this side of themselves and sharing it with their significant others to be turned off by what they believe happens when swimming suits are set aside. We don’t become crazed wild animals only interested in sex and foreplay on the beach. Not to say that you don’t need to be careful, but that’s where I believe we can help you out so that it’s a positive experience.

From what we’ve seen, most couples discover clothing optional travel when they are in their 40s and beyond. I’m thankful we figured it out in our mid-20s, but we weren’t the norm at all and we really didn’t embrace nude travel till we were into our 30s. We still find we’re often the youngest couple at the resort or on the beach and we’re into our 40s now. Thankfully that’s beginning to change. Our last trip to Hidden Beach Resort had many young 30s couples.

My vision for this blog is to share our experiences as we got more comfortable with being naked by ourselves and later with others and to tell you about the places we have visited and why we did or didn’t go back. By offering honest information, I hope we can be a resource to others with questions and hopefully give the push another couple might need to try this out and see if it’s for them.

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So are my wife and I nudists? I guess so. Although naturists applies better to us. We enjoy bonding with the environment around us without clothing. So are we normal? We live in the midwest in a nice suburb surrounded by friends and family who know nothing about where we travel or why. We are parents and business people. We are active in our community. We are very normal and probably very boring to many people out there. We don’t sit around the house naked or plant trees in our backyard so we can lay out nude on our patio.  We only recently started going to a local nudist club so we could lay out and enjoy the sun and take a cool relaxing dip in the pool when we had some free time. We’re not members. Just visitors. We don’t bring our children. This time is for us to share and I’d like our children to discover how it feels to be naked on their own.

Interested in hearing more or am I boring you already? Well, let me tell you where we’ve gone and where we’ve been naked. The list is long: Tahiti, Cancun, Tulum, St. Martin, Grenada, Palm Springs, San Diego, South Beach, New Orleans, Toronto, and beaches, clubs and skinny dipping spots across North Carolina, Pennsylvania, Ohio and Florida.

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So what won’t we talk about… Sex and sexual intimacy in a nudist environment. Nudity does not mean sex or foreplay or touching. That’s a misconception. A big misconception. I’m not saying that spending time nude together with your spouse or partner might not stir some exciting moments later, but it is not appropriate to do this in the open. Especially on a clothing optional beach or nudist club or property. Ever.

We have a lot to share. We will share with you the naked truth about being naked. It’s been a wonderful experience for us. Enjoy the ride. And let us know what questions you have. And again, if you’ve got a first time experience (especially if you’re a woman), we’d love to hear about it and potentially share with other couples on a future blog post.

Many of the images used for this post I found on https://www.reddit.com/r/naturists/. If any of these images were shared on reddit. To my knowledge, none of the images are copyright protected. However, please let me know otherwise. 

Nudist Reality vs. Cancelled Calgary Nude Swimming Event

It’s 2018 and the community that wears a swimsuit in the pool or ocean has a long way to go to understand the nudist lifestyle and values  Recently the city of Calgary cancelled a nude swimming event planned for an indoor swimming/recreation facility sponsored by the group Calgary Nude Recreation. This wasn’t the first time a nudist group had rented a city of Calgary owned facility for an event and it won’t be the last either. Unfortunately this time, public outcry and threats of violence pushed city officials to cancel the event. An online petition supported by more than 22,000 people framed the argument against the event stating the following concerns:

“I respect the concept and believe in an 18+ setting it could be a popular event. However, having naked children around a bunch of naked adults doesnt seem like a good idea for any reason. Realistically there is alot of mental illness out there that this event could trigger/effect.

– Children with previous sexual abuse traumas will be heavily effected if they attend the event.

– Sexual predators will be on the prowl – having an event like that is just like Christmas to them.

– Extremely high chance of photos and videos being taken without consent, considered child pornography”

Oddly the event was cancelled not because the city had issue with nudity at a city owned facility but because of threats of violence against participants and organizers. Let’s get violent to protect children?

To me, the outcry about this event and the stated objectives demonstrate the misinformation and misdirected concerns from individuals who have probably never attended a nude/clothing optional event or facility. It’s reading about this petition that makes me believe that nudists really are the enlightened ones. The nudist community understands firsthand the importance of protecting children from sexual predators as well as maintaining privacy.

For the record, both the clothed and nudist communities agree that protecting children from sexual predators is most important. Everyone’s priorities are inline and where they should be on this. Just as important to the nudist community is ensuring that no photography of any kind is taken of anyone nude – adults or childern. And finally, no displays of sexual intimacy or sexual touching in anyway.

Anyone who has read our blog knows it is focused on helping couples learn more about exploring the benefits of social nudity and nude recreation. As we’ve stated many times, nudity does not mean sex. For those who have never been to a nude beach, resort or B&B, walking around with other naked people might seem like an erotic and sexually charged environment. In reality, it’s anything but that.

There is a time and a place for sexual intimacy and that’s in the privacy of your own home and not in the open…. ever. This is a point that every nudist I’ve ever met believes and values. Every nudist resort and club I’ve attended has rules similar to those from the Calgary Nude Recreation organization.

From our experiences regardless if it’s a nude beach or nudist club, everyone there watches and protects the children there very closely. The nudist clubs my wife and I attend require everyone to submit to a background check to root out sexual offenders before they ever enter and yes, our local club confirmed to me that they bar entry to people every year. In addition, everyone who visits must leave their mobile phone/camera in the car. No exceptions. Privacy and protection are important and essential in a nude environment.

Yes there are sexual predators out there and I’m sure there are some in the nudist community too. Unlike in the general community though, safeguards are in place to ensure these deviants are identified. The reality is that nudists are very aware of their vulnerable state and that of unknowing or unprotected children and adults. We don’t need the concerned citizens of Calgary or anyone else to tell us how to protect our children and ourselves.

For me and my wife, our  nudist lifestyle is about freedom. Freedom from judgement and/or body shaming. Freedom from clothing and labeling who I am and what I believe just by the clothing and “brands” I wear. Freedom to be one with nature and our surroundings. Freedom from stress. Free to be happy with ourselves and our friends and family. It’s a feeling you can only feel in a nude social setting.

I feel this freedom everytime I set foot into a nudist property or clothing optional beach. It starts the moment I take off my clothing and feel the warm of the sun on my body. Believe me, this is a freedom worth protecting and that includes watching out for vulnerable people among us.

While my wife and I are parents, we have never brought our children to a nudist property or a clothing optional beach. For us, it’s about our time together and less about entertaining them. It’s our special time although we often see children at the nudist clubs we attend and the clothing optional beaches we have visited.

Honestly, I never thought about sharing our love for nudism with our children until a few years ago. We were at a nudist club near our home. It was late afternoon on a hot July day and my wife and I were sitting by the pool reading and enjoying the sun. A young girl was practicing swimming underwater from her mother to her father. All were naked in the pool. This young couple and their daughter were repeating a scene I have seen many times throughout my life. Only this time, without any swimsuits. It was perfectly natural and honestly it was beautiful to see.

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Anders Zorn [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons
While I respect the concerns from those who signed the petition against the nude swimming event, I don’t believe it would be a hunting ground for sexal preditors but rather a setting where families are safe and able to share time together, just without a swimming suit.

We have a long way to go to educate the reality of nudism and its benefits for all.

Happy Nude Year!

Another year has ended and we have 365 days ahead of us to make the most of the new year. It’s another year full of potential to make a difference or to do things differently than before. It’s when we all start even with a blank slate. It’s another year to make the world or at least our little place in it better.

So what would I like to give everyone this year? I know asking for world peace is too much. Probably the same with making sure no one goes hungry? I wish all of that was truly possible, but in this day and age, that’s asking too much.

So what do I ask for this year? I’d like everyone to experience a naked day. A day without clothing to play and relax and enjoy the warmth of the sun all over your body. A naked day in the buff to see what it feels like to be free. A naked day without judgement from others and a day without blame. A naked day without body shaming. A naked day where you’re not too fat or too skinny. Too pale or too dark. A day when you’re perfect just the way you are right now. A day where simply being naked is simply enough.

A naked day to make new nude friends and to realize it’s more important to judge someone by their character and personality rather than what they wear. A naked day to talk to someone who when you’re both nude appears to be the same as you. A naked day to spend time with your spouse, your partner, your friends or your family.

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A naked walk in the woods is one of my favorite things to do. From Pinterest

A naked day to do what you want to do, just without your clothing. A naked day to take a walk in the woods.A naked day to go skinny dipping and to feel like a child again. A naked day to fall asleep in the sun. A naked day to read a book or the newspaper. A naked day to enjoy a drink. A naked day to enjoy a bite to eat. A naked day to do what you enjoy most. A day to let it all hang out without a worry in the world.

Why do I want to give everyone a naked day? It’s simple really. If we remove our clothes and our inhibitions, we are all the same… naked and pure. We are all equal. It’s a day when you don’t need to worry about what others think. It’s a day to be one with yourself and nature.

For more than 20 years, my wife and I have enjoyed nude vacations, beaches, resorts, clubs, and time together. We’ve made friends. We’ve made wonderful memories. We’ve enjoyed ourselves and realized it’s not a sexual experience but rather a deeply emotional one that brings us together. We are better off because of the time we’ve spent nude together and the people we have met while we’re nude.

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The Ingredients for a perfect day at the beach: Sun + Sand + Nude = A Great Day.

I’m guessing, just guessing that after spending the day nude with others, you’ll see that we’re all pretty much the same. That we have more in common than what divides us. That when you remove your clothing, you remove the stress and anxiety that comes with living in a world where we hide behind our clothing. That is my wish. A wish for a perfect nude year.

Our Bodies Tell Stories – How One Woman Embraced Her Life’s Journey through Nudism

The following is a guest blog from my friend Charlotte (named changed). I have been looking for a firsthand woman’s perspective on trying nudism. We are good friend with Charlotte and her husband Carlos and she very willingingly wrote the blog post below. She hits on so many questions that women (and couples) struggle with when considering social nudity. And more importantly, the benefits of it, especially when your spouse is sitting naked right next to you. I’m proud of her. What a great blog.  Let us know what you think.

Raised in the Midwest, I never thought ditching your clothes in public could be an enjoyable pastime. Truthfully, I was never aware it was even an option. I had no preconceived notions or expectations about nudism. Growing up, my father taught me respect of all living things and led by example, going so far as to set live mouse traps for mice that wandered into our horse feed storage. These values significantly helped foster the carefree attitude I live by today – ‘Live and let live.’

Though I don’t consider myself a true nudist, I particularly enjoy baring it all on vacation and when our time allows. Several times during the summer, my husband and I will visit local nudist clubs and enjoy socializing with the crowds that gather there. And later this month, we will be enjoying a nude first for us – renting a private Caribbean villa with another couple who loves to be naked as much as we do.

My first experience with nudism was rather spontaneous. My husband Carlos and I began dating midsummer several years ago, excitedly and hurriedly falling in love, which was a surprise and uncharacteristic of us both. He was a lifelong bachelor and me, a recent divorcee. The almost immediate sense of security and comfort we found within each other allowed us to communicate candidly about everything, from our political views to some of our deepest revelations.

One conversation that seemed so innocent at the time now strikes me as my first introduction to nudism. After travel plans to the sunny island of Saint Martin were in the works, Carlos asked if I would ever try nude sunbathing, considering it is a popular activity on Saint Martin’s beaches. I paused and thought out loud, “I honestly have no idea.”

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Many people experience nudism by themselves first before experiencing it with friends or a spouse.

I recalled my days as a teenager, lying in the sun topless in my backyard. High school dances and tan lines are long-time foes. Privacy was ample in my backyard and the only risk of exposure was the occasional airplane flying overhead.

‘Stripping off my swimsuit in front of other people though? Would I have the courage?’ As I gave the idea more life, I asked, “Would you be ok with other men seeing me naked?”  Carlos said, “Of course,” without hesitation. In my naiveté, I struggled separating nudism from its sexual connotation. My only previous encounter with nudism was skinny dipping at a local quarry after a high school football game with several friends – girls and boys, one of whom I had a small crush on. The moonlight was scarce, which allowed us to shed our clothes without much fear of being seen jumping into the cool water. I shared my experience with Carlos, slightly nervous he may pass judgment, but he just smiled in sweet amusement. Our conversation digressed and we rambled about other things. We did not suggest nudism again until we were lying out at Happy Bay, a sandy and secluded beach on Saint Martin.

After dating a little less than a year, Carlos had proposed. Suddenly, we were engaged and jetting off to the Caribbean. Carlos’ confidence and enthusiasm were more reassuring, attractive and contagious than ever before. I couldn’t help but be swept away in his excitement as he showed me around his favorite island, drove us to his favorite beach, and carefully picked out a semi-secluded spot by the water. He poured us each a generous glass of red wine, and we sat on the beach soaking up the sun. Shortly after finishing our wine, in what seemed like one swift motion, Carlos slid down his swim shorts and reached over to untie my bikini top. I let the straps fall to the sand and without moving to stop him. He untied the string that was holding my bikini top somewhat in place. My eyes locked on his, and any sense of uneasiness was gone. He then rather sweetly and hopefully asked, “Will you slide off your bottoms too?” Without saying anything, I did and smiled.

 

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Petit Cayes beach on Saint Martin. A perfect beach to experience social nudity for the first time.

A wave of excitement immediately washed over me and with the rush, my senses became acutely aware of everything. I had never felt the sun’s warmth so completely or the ocean’s breeze so freely. A new sense of liberation consumed me. For several minutes, I just stared at the ocean in complete awe and shock.

No one was yelling at me to dress myself. No one was staring at me. No one seemed to notice or even care. As I looked around, it dawned on me we were not the only ones lying naked on the beach. How had I not noticed? Carlos interrupted my self-examination and asked if I would join him for a swim. Apprehension started to creep in. ‘Wait, I have to get up?  Surely people will stare.’ Carlos noted my hesitation and without words, offered me the reassurance and courage I needed. ‘So what if they stare?’

He stood up first and offered his hand, helping me off of my cloth sanctuary. For some reason, leaving my towel behind affirmed my display of public nudity. But with Carlos by my side, I had strength and courage I never had before. In no hurry, we walked down the beach holding hands and entered the warm ocean water for our first nude swim together. The water seemed to feel more slippery than I’d ever felt before and my body offered no resistance as I gracefully glided through the water. One single moment lasting no more than a few minutes had just completely opened my eyes to a new state of mindfulness.

The rest of the evening, I unleashed a fury of questions that had been brewing all day at the beach and Carlos shared his story and confirmed a few of my suspicions. This was not his first experience with nudism, but it was his first experience sharing it with someone he loved. Though it was not an overtly sexual experience for either of us, we shared a heightened degree of intimacy that brought our relationship to another level. I excitedly and curiously listened to Carlos share his prior experiences.

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The World Famous Orient Beach by Club Orient, Saint Martin

He first arrived to Saint Martin aboard a popular cruise ship. Walking along the shores of Orient Beach, he was one of the few American tourists who removed his shorts while walking the nude side of the beach. When I asked him why, his reply was simple, “It just seemed like fun!”

Enjoying the experience so much, he decided to visit a local nudist club. Coincidently, he ran into a coworker there. I can imagine the odds of this happening are extremely low. Within the nudist community, there is a healthy level of respect for privacy, and their meeting followed suit. Neither ever mentioned the incident at work and they remain friends today.

Not wanting to give up nudism, Carlos eventually returned to Saint Martin for a second time with his then-girlfriend. Together they explored more of the island, but for the entirety of the trip, she remained clothed. Curiously, I asked if it would bother him if I decided that nudism might not be for me. Carlos confidently insisted he would accept my decision, but my preferences would not change his own. I greatly appreciated the lack of pressure I felt in that moment. Carlos would love me no matter my decision and would continue to respect me. Ultimately, like my husband, unwinding anywhere au natural is just too much fun not to partake.

Since my first experience with nudism, my body has seen several changes. Carlos and I returned to the Caribbean for our honeymoon, both of us carrying a few extra pounds that came with the stress of planning a wedding and enjoying life a little too much.

The third time we left our swimsuits behind, I was 25-weeks pregnant and displaying a very recognizable baby bump. Surprisingly, I enjoyed the freedom of leaving behind my clothes. I have yet to find clothes that are truly comfortable for any expecting mother.

Shortly after delivering, we decided to visit a local nudist club, one that was new to both of us. I was three months postpartum, still carrying around extra weight from pregnancy, leaking breast milk and nursing my infant. Though I had reservations, I refused to let anything stand in my way of enjoying my life. As a new mom, I was unprepared for the amount of attention we would receive with such a young baby, but it allowed us to become more sociable and leave behind the isolation we previously maintained by nature of our Type B personalities.

After our visit, Carlos and I both shared a longing to return to Saint Martin. After the trip was already booked, we learned we were expecting. Again, I shed my swimsuit underneath the sun with a baby bump on display. To my surprise, I found my pregnancy, though fairly small at the time, to be quite a conversation starter. Strangers would congratulate us and ask the typical follow up questions.

In fact, it was this very topic that broke the ice and gave reason for small chit chat with someone who has since become very close friends of ours. As fate would have it, the man standing directly behind us in line during an Orient Beach Bar happy hour lives less than 10 minutes from our home. After quickly discovering the proximity of our homes, TC excitedly introduced us to his wife Mindy and we all immediately hit it off.

Upon our return, we stayed in contact. After finding time for a brief escape from busy schedules, we reconnected with TC and Mindy during the winter months over dinner. With like minded personalities and shared interests, it was easy to plan a couple visits to our local nudist clubs with them as soon as the summer weather allowed. Our friendship continues to flourish and has allowed us to try something new to all of us – share a private villa with another nudist couple.

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Too often, as women we criticize ourselves and each other. Our insecurities become motivating factors preventing us from doing things we once loved or may grow to love. In my neighborhood alone, even the most petite mother wears a very modest one-piece swimsuit at our neighborhood pool. Instead of celebrating our imperfect bodies, we regularly try to hide the things we detest – scars, stretch marks, cellulite, imperfect breasts, unwanted pounds, and the list goes on. Any idea of perfection is relentlessly brandished everywhere we turn – television, literature, advertisements, movies, pornography, etc. That quantifiable idea of perfection just doesn’t exist in the natural world.

I do not carry a perfect body. Simply put, I am quite average. My body still carries the extra weight brought on during pregnancy, my breasts aren’t as perky as they once were, cellulite has claimed many parts of my body, and my stomach has lost the tightness it once had before children. Physically, my body has transformed into something new with almost every nudist experience I have had, but each instance has given me the opportunity to confront a new set of insecurities and practice self-acceptance, an important concept I hope to pass to my own children.

Carlos has been incredibly patient and completely supportive throughout these life changes, putting up with my crying episodes (mostly hormonal) and not once shaming me if I felt the need to cover-up for whatever reason. Despite it all, one of the reasons I am still able to confidently strip down my clothes and walk down the beach for all to see is my ability to not just accept my body as it is, but celebrate it. I am a mother of three beautiful children, and I am proud that my body shows signs of motherhood. It’s the role I am proudest to fill. And though there are times I wish I had my pre-pregnancy body back, I am grateful that my experiences have made me stronger and more confident than I ever was when I was a size 2. I am happier now in my average body than I was then. I am more confident naked now than I was then. And with that confidence and those new life experiences, I have met some interesting people along the way and made a couple amazing friends.

All of our bodies tell stories. Each story is truly unique and deserves to be cherished by ourselves and respected by others. Don’t be afraid to share yours. The truly beautiful thing about nudism is the welcoming attitude and feelings of overwhelming acceptance. In my experiences, I have found the people who judge the most are often the ones wearing the most clothes. Perhaps they are afraid their insecurities will be noticed if they don’t first point out the flaws in others. Regardless of what others think, your opinion of yourself is the only one that truly matters and the only one you have the power to control.

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Some of our best experiences on vacation have been together on a nude beach.

If you’re thinking of trying nudism for the first time, go for it! If you’re single, what have you got to lose? If you’re married and hoping to convince your partner, sit down together and have an open and honest conversation. Leave judgments behind and listen to each other’s doubts, fears and insecurities with sincerity and respect. Accept that he or she might be hesitant or resistant. Explore each other’s fears and work to overcome them together. And absolutely do not forget to affirm your love for one another.

When I think of that summer with my husband, I’m reminded of a quote I once read:

“I want to live everything with the most density possible…I am so conscious that life might escape me at any moment, that everything has become keener and more distilled…I tell myself: All this happiness still, but for how long? So I devour life.” (What French Women Know: About Love, Sex, and Other Matters of the Heart and Mind)

 Truly empowering words of wisdom to live by.